Aftermath of the horrendous heart wrenching building that collapsed in Chennai leaving 61 Killed :(:(!!!

http://www.hindustantimes.com/news-feed/indiatemplate/chennai-building-collapse-toll-rises-to-61-probe-panel-set-up/article1-1236536.aspx
                                                What does a common man require?-- A family to support -- A job to fullfill our passion and ambition --and A HOUSE TO FEEL SAFE AND SECURED ---and for some that is lifelong dream --fighting for that  dream in endless odds and countless troublesome days and nights ---that very dream is what we live for --fight for and very importantly motivate ourselves to achieve such dreams amidst lot of humiliations and hurdles.

                                                I still don't own a house in my work city - Chennai -- My dream since i moved out 7 years  before  from my native place Trichy is to have a own house --and i have searched almost the entire span of Chennai in all these years trying to find a house that will end my search but now it seems even more treacherous as to whom to believe and more importantly whether it is worth the struggles and belief to fight for something that might just crash down for a SLIGHT HEAVY RAIN !!!

                                                    It pains to keep reading about how some people got saved after days  because it also means a lot of them we could not save because of lethargy of people responsible ---As a common man --my concern is not only abt the wrong people to be punished ---it is whether worth to dream even anymore of a house in Chennai amidst this horrifying happenings  ???

                                               My dream took a absolute jolt by this horrendous news few days back ---and im sure im not the only one who questions whether it is worth to have that dream in this situation --"Blame anyone but the wrath is always ours" ---Is their a bigger sin than killing dreams of millions ---Again --we will end up with questions that will also be put to rest like so many other issues--Hoping for a dawn some day ---some day far far away it seems -- RIP to thos who passed away -- all we could do is be sold out idiots to such masterminds whomsover was responsible for this pathetic mistake :(!!!

                                            (Kudos to the wonderful people who are responsible to this pathetic heart wrenching news ---61 people have precisely been murdered --and in few days this will have no semblance to our life--it will just be one incident among countless in  our sad recent history)

Spending time with family is always priceless happiness :)!!!

Dedicated to the millions who love family to core but hardly find enough time to enjoy the beauty to be with them just those extra few minutes due to 

" We go in quest of our dreams --that we are not eventually lost is because of two people who
   kept  watching us from the moment we were born --Our Parents !!!"
                                                         
                                                                  This other day while i was with  a conversation with a friend who studied in best colleges in India ---said this " One day when im gone --what do all these paper presentations mean ---Nothing --The more this thought comes i just want to spend more time with my family --most with my parents --because i know they are not goin to stay with me for life "

                                                                   I knew the sheer  weight of pain in  those words ---i have had the priveleage of living the first 20 years with the most amazing woman in world as mother and equally never stopped admiring the grit and hard work of my father --and i have had also the tough luck of grinding through day after day without my mother ever since she passed away in 2002 --- life runs so fast sometimes --i could still remember my young days so vividly --yet some incidents have gone past 25 years !!!

                                                                    I have moved from place to place ---i have had some heartbreaking failures ---had so many shattered hopes ---moved on from school friends to college friends to business friends ---all along there was just one constant ---my family --they have followed me like a shawdow --only thing --i had a beautiful mother waving bye every single day in my school life --now i wave her bye every day in picture --for me it is same --for i had an absolutely amazing person as mother --and a dad who dropped me up and down till i finished college is now happily at peace enjoying life with grandkids--i know i wont have this for eternity -nobody has ---but how many realise its important to sit with them once a while --smile with them --share with them happiness ---hold their hands when they get old ---we run ,,run and run seemingly endlessly --if only we realised they can't run with us everywhere we would spend more time with them .
                                                                   Today when i see a young 5 yr old calling his/her mother to come with them to places they go--- while in reality it is the parents who go after them to make sure they are not lost--and each and every mom and dad in this world do that for a whole life ---their whole life we become the dreams --their reality --their reason to live --atleast that is what i have seen most of my life -now i know i can stand on my on --because of them --but they need us when we know we can stand on our own --not every single minute but atleast a few more minutes that what we can afford .
                                                                 
                                                                     Probably the biggest block comes when we choose our life partner --in most cases where love is reason for marriage--it becomes the same reason that pushes away parents from their kids ---but the matter of fact beyond all those things the love of a son/daughter towards his /her parents never dwindles just because there is someone else in their life --the thing is we guys want to share a bit of love to that person who loves us unconditionally --but often the case is misunderstood as a permanent barrier to relationship between kids and parents ---often it is time the winner --because when we realise the mistake not only would we have lost precious time we would lost them too ---Its a fine line where maybe the younger ones have to hold on to the older ones--but in our emotionally driven society often the case is "either in" or "forever done"(Fortunately or unfortunately i never fell in love to judge upon the outcome ).Somewhere there has to be a balance and often find a uneven terrible imbalance shifted to the faulty ones always being the ones who fall in love whilst it could always be nice if it was seen as a sharing of love kids have for their parents --somewhat like baton of love being passed from parents to their kids for their next generation --but i know all these are fairy tale fantasies that may never happen in our society :P
                                                                        
                                                                " Any day could be your last as much as any day could be your best ---its left for you to decide how do u take your life"
                                                                  ---  but the probabilities of having best days often hinges upon our family ---our parents ---and then later on in your life with your better half and your kids --try spending more time with them --enjoy the warmth of life with people who stand by you always ---after all life is about the smiles ,the fights ,,the mistakes we regret ,,the thoughts ,the lessons we learn from them ,,the silly fun we enjoyed with our parents that will keep us goin till the end of life ---what we learnt from them will be the path to our future with our family ---so as much as possible spend those few moments with them --money ,fame nothing comes close to being with them --never has and never will ,,,

   I remember reading sumwhere --
     As you grow ---there are two things you will know ---one life ahead is yours 
                                            but always LIFE IS BECAUSE OF THEM "
                                                      spend those extra  few minutes with them --in the end it might be the most priceless minutes you spent in life " 
Cheers !!!                
                           

                                                                    


                                                                

Women Are The Soul To Life In This World !!!

        What it is to be a woman??/ -- I imagined this might be the answer of a average  women living in my society --

  " I'm butchered ,Im Targeted every single minute by million eyes --i don't know who's prey i           will  end upon
    I am not allowed to love --im not allowed to speak up --im not allowed to wear dresses i wish
   I am not allowed to live life as i want --- yet somewhere there is a me in everything i see in              this  world
    Respect is something that is written in paper for me -never for real --all this for being a                  woman "
                                                                   
                                                                    --An answer that pitimises the state of  most women in my society --Make no mistake this is not the plight of every woman that is out there ---but most ---and im downright ashamed to be part of a generation that refuses to take steps to create  better environment for women--We  wish for every women in this country  to be  protected by a policeman  --We wish women are confined to houses rather than walking out --we wish to bury their dreams than to nurture them for a better India - We wish for all practical impossibilities and never implement our hearts to give them the world they want --atleast that is what it seems now with tha innumerous incidents and tortures women undergo in this part of world .

                                                                      The reason for our existence is a woman --the reason we learnt meaning of love is because of a woman --the reason we live is to be taught more of that word from women in our lives --Mother who gives u life --sister who supports you --a wife who stands by you --frds from opposite gender who wish nothing but good for you ---but do they get the respect they deserve ???do they get recognised beyond the fact they r women?? Dont they deserve more than eagle eyes in offices ??

                                                                     I remember once a quote from one of my best friends who was working in a office dominated by males and i quote "You have no idea how it is to work in a office when people dont see your face and talk every single minute and how many eyes see you differently for no fault of mine ",,the pain of those words were evident for the person was one of the most genuinely good people i have known in life --i had no words then --probably girls are not allowed to speak in that vein in places where i live in --choices are not available for most to choose the life they want to live .
                                     
                                                                     Recently i read two murders of girls who got butchered by mad dogs ,raped and murdered ---this keeps happening again and again ,,,the case of nirbhaya still haunts me in my heart and it will do so for the rest of life --because every month there are increasing cases --now that girls working in big companies like TCS  are not spared even near office premises , The cases keep stacking up no ends ,,where is the solution ?,,Its practically impossible to give protection to every single woman in this world ,its left to the upcoming generation to be taught of the greatness of woman and giving them the due respect which has not happened for a long long time ,unless the seed is sown in hearts of upcoming generations that a woman is a priceless possession a man can have in life  and taught that hurting a woman is like hurting your own mother --after all she is a woman too .
                                                               
                                                                     If not respected for what they are ,i hope they are not atleast thrown acids for not loving ,not murdered for few mins of lust ,,not hurt for being a woman --because being born a woman is not a fault --the world exists because of them --they are reasons the world has not gone extinct 

             "They are reasons for our beginning -why should we be the end to their dreams "

                                                                   From someone who was blessed with the most wonderful woman in the world as mother --some amazing women as sisters --some great women as teachers --few wonderful women as friends -- truly know the value what they have given to me in life -simply incomparable and priceless -they are soul to life in this world !!!!!

"My Awesome Pongal In Kuala Lumpur --(Only a tamilian can understand the sarcasm in this blog :P)"

          It's evening here in Kuala Lumpur and i had for the 300 th time today make myself remember it is" Pongal" festival --- living in a appartment surrounded by almost endless sky scraping appartments around --only today did i really find how horrible it is to live days away from home during festival times,and today i realised how really great was it to be born in a land that gives value to heritage ,culture in every sense possible , every country has it own --but from an indian perspective from being brought up in a typical tamilian cultured family i could see what it means to people like me living abroad during festival times for one reason or other  ,away from family  would have felt the "oddity" i felt on this auspicious day today ,there were times when i used to think my friends and brothers living abroad would have a great time being away ,,only when i had to live a prolonged period outside my place i could relate how they would also have to go through such days .
         Make no mistake this is no sober,heart wrenching story and all ,,lol,,this is just a pure description of me enjoying one of important auspicious days  trying to remember in every possible way it is the same day that 20 years back i used to wear new dresses ,see my mom in beautiful saree ,see my sis ,bro moving around in bright dresses and my dad asking all to get ready to keep pongal at one particular time , neighbourhood friends  coming and sharing their happiness on that day -the meaningless giggles,the funny winks ,the pleasant hugs ,the touch on cheeks from mothers around --the innocence of happiness in true essence no matter what age u r was felt ---the fact that 2 decades later i can still think about those beautiful moments is testimony to the fact the importance and magnamity we celebrate this great day in my part of the world .
       This Pongal i have celebrated in a beautiful city that has some of the world's fantastic touring attractions ,,like Twin towers ,KL Tower ,Batu Caves ,Genting Islands -Bird Park ,this place is surely a magical experience and it might very well be my second home in future -this place has beauty everywhere but what i want to experience is that innocence of happiness on such auspicious days - days in my world people could offer you smiles to break silence --ready to share food with pure happiness ---and that touch in cheek from elders --and yes that specific time to keep pongal from dads of my world ---the new dresses --the frdly banters between neighbourhood --that is something you need to experience to feel it --And yes for 301 st time i remembered its Pongal --and you are right i feel like a alien in a beautiful world away from my place and my surrounding --What a Awesome Pongal it is for me in Kuala Lumpur --I'm gona snooze off now  trying to remember it 302nd time sometime  soon  :P:P
Happy Pongal!!!

The Desire To Fight Is All That Counts ,,,,

            " To term life as unfair is often the first step to accept defeat in life 
              Being hopeful is wishful , to believe it requires a endless desire to fight "
                                               
        This is a real life  honest conversation i happened to be in midst of two friends recently -It gave me a different perspective of  life altogether once it was done  ( I'm revealing their talks and not their names as one of them would kill me if he reads this ,lol, --let the two be as Friend 1 and Friend 2-both of them in mid age crisis --through troubled waters   )
   
      Friend 1  -- I'm amazed how life has been taking twist after twist in last couple of years 

      Friend 2  -- Like --Explain that more ?

      Friend 1  -- I have lost what i have earned through a freak robbery , My wife has been diagnosed with a serious ailment  ,im  going through a horror run in my business,and all my worse fears  has happened for real so  meticulously as if someone is enacting it (sighs)

     Friend 2   -- Events differ but i don't think life is any different for others too in this world (Friend 2 is a profound person admittedly who speaks to the point and keeps it simple)

     Friend 1   --  Sometimes i search for a solace that is so non existent

     Friend 2   --  That is beauty of life isn't it -- disappointments are like stars in the sky ,countless they maybe but they can't hide the sky --like that the happiness you are due will eventually find you  -( has a wry smile )

     Friend 1   --  That is a killer line man ( smiles loudly patting the other )

     Friend 2   --  My wife used to say --"it isn't necessarily always about setting a boundary to our desires --desires push you to limits you could never see " 

     Friend 1   --  Same thing happened when my wife was diagnosed with a tough ailment --you know we have a 3 yr old daughter --she said after initial shock--Don't worry i want to see how she looks as 20 yr old so i will fight my  best to see it for real "

     Friend 2   --  The biggest impacts our parents have on us is known during such times --there is no kid who won't refer them during such times -- somewhere you feel a relevance .

     Friend 1   --  Very true --i was not attached to my mom and dad as kids are ,,but i could relate to strength of character to them unknowingly --guess that's what their most important lesson to us we learn as we grow .

    Friend 2    --  Nothingness comes when  seemingly all our desires have been vanquished by fate --in reality desires are never vanquished --the best example is of you having a desire to wake up the next morning despite anything .

    Friend 1    --  (Says Nothing but acknowledges in silence and lets his frd summarise his thoughts )

    Friend 2    --  Life in whole takes you to places you never wished --precisely to know why you exist ,what gets you back is your desire to fight no matter what 

    Friend 1    --  Thanks Man ---Makes me feel lot better -- My wife said on our way back " Fighting is not one of the choices now --its my only choice and i will do bloody good of that for our kid "

    Friend 2    --   Nods approvingly pats and says --- My dad used to pep me up as kid saying a cheesy line  " Fears kill everything that desires build --Forget about the fears just soldier on"!!! 

                          (  And after a few fun quotes about news around globe they went ) 

                                              I happened to be a mutual friend to both of them ,and though i could not relate too much of their personal stuff since i had hardly known their families --i could not but get a positive vibe about life when they both left the hotel ---i was just thinking about how much life of commoners goes unnoticed in today's hectic world --you search for inspiration in books ,videos but overlook inspiring happenings in life just because it had come from people you knew ,,It felt refreshing that there is a positive side even in  desperate  times 

  " The desire to fight is all that counts " -- a message  that i treasured safely to use one day !!!
         

A Joy Called Sachin Ramesh Tendulkar ---One last time that magical feeling before a glittering career closes !!!!

                      Within sometime in the next five days -we would have seen one of the greatest cricketers in history of game walk in and walk out of our TV screens for one last time --that familiar nod --that tap on the pitch --followed by that picture perfect stance --would have all become history --History of a man who started as a boy wonder --became a champion batsman --and eventually retires as a unparalled legend of the game.Perhaps somewhere a part of millions of us who grew old with the great little man would have died --a part that got so excited seeing the little big man of Indian Cricket --for the best part of his career he was undisputedly the best batsman of his generation.

                        There is a story every Indian who are in their 30's now have about tendulkar -Quotes like -"You know when Sachin hit 122 i was hearing that in radio man ""When Sachin got out to stumping in World Cup 96 i knew India would lose " etc ---A remarkable career glittered with endless highlights  like ---"Scoring a Hundred returning to play cricket after losing his father "--"The brutal refusal to accept defeat in Sharjah against Australia "--"The spectacular fightback against Wasim and Co for that Chennai Masterpiece "--"The stunning 241 when struggling for form ""The masterly defence against Steyn when everyone was struggling"--"That sensational 175 against Australia supposedly by a ageing warrior ""That magical 200 not out "- countless really ,,In all fairness during Sachin's career ,Brian Lara was the most flambuoyant,Steve Waugh the grittiest,Rahul Dravid the gutsiest ,Mark Waugh the most stylish ,Jacques Kallis the most consistent --but Sachin Tendulkar was the benchmark everyone was compared with --Period !!!

                          My stories are immense about Sachin because i grew up watching the great man -and i could write the number of breathtaking innings i have watched him play in his career --because i watched them all ---as a youngster growing he was my biggest joy ---biggest source of entertainment --a tiny little part of my life despite having no relevance --a tiny part that made me happy so many times watching him smash bowler after bowler in the glorious 90's when there was noone better than him , there was a aura around him that was unexplainable .I can't remember the number of times i watched that magical Sharjah Innings of 143 --it made me more and more  to fall in love with that joy called Tendulkar --so much i found ways to even bunk my university exams just to watch Sachin bat in Australia 99 -2000.

                                      Why is Tendulkar revered as such?the answer is  picture all  these great duels --Tendulkar vs Warne ,Tendulkar vs Mcgrath ,Tendulkar vs Wasim ,Tendulkar vs Muralidharan ,Tendulkar vs Ambrose ,Walsh,Tendulkar vs Donald ,Pollock ,Tendulkar vs Shaoib,Tendulkar vs Brett Lee, ---memorable duels with some all time great bowlers --the present generation doesn't have those great bowlers --with tendulkar it was like watchin a absolute classic with some of those great bowlers ---that we can't remember Tendulkar crossing the line and abusing like the Kohli's ,Watson's , Dhawan's of this generation despite being in some tough duels is ample testimony to the character and dignity the little man played the game he loved to bits for 24 years ,,Longeivity that did not rob the great man fielding in the deep even in his late 30's and for major part a safe fielder who  always had a great arm .
                                    Being the best batsman of his generation ,,being in the No 1 test Ranked team ,,,being in a World Cup winning team which was his dream all his life ,,,Winning the IPL  and finally winning the CL20 league --the man has achieved everything possible --Some say he played for records --some say he played selfishly --sometimes maybe yes because he's human ---we are flawed but he will always b celebrated in the highest order because he made very little mistakes and was always less flawed compared to some of the superstars he played with ,that is the hallmark of Sachin Tendulkar

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                          So much has changed since his debut 25 yrs back  and so much will still change but the joy that tendulkar gave millions countless times ,,the joy that he exhibited while playing the game he loved to bits ,,the joy with which he carried the expectations of a nation ,,the joy with which he made every Indian proud countless times will always forever be remembered with a evergreen happiness in everyone's heart ,,And soon the great man will leave ,,very soon  --head held high --that bad in hand with which he performed miracles --leaving a tear in everyone who watched him and will take away that tiny part in people like me which routed for one name always "Sachin Ramesh Tendulkar "---A glittering career draws to close with the picture of a that ram rod straight drive for one last time forever etched in our memory .

    "Thanks Sachin for being a unforgettable part of my youth -- Thanks for making us happy countless times --Goodbyes are never easy --yours will be the hardest for millions --Farewell King "

11 th Anniversary To the Most Marvellous Human Being I Ever Knew -My Mom !!!

                                        Eleven years without you --Eleven Years without the angel who is largely responsible for what im today ,,Whatever i achieve will always be because of you ---I know heaven will be a happier place with you there.

   
    

There is no greater happiness in my life than to be called to be your son -- Love you loads and loads Miss you Mom ,,Always !!!

"DISCONNECT " --A Compelling Must Watch Movie In Case U Missed It !!!!!

Disconnect Movie Poster 

                                                      Whilst reviewing is not my cup of tea --I'm a avid movie watcher ---this particular movie which i picked by accident turned out to be a terrific movie which depicts about   realistic horrors we could face in our  day to day life .The movie does have a good star cast and what it has going for it is a wonderfully intricate screenplay that shows the troubles that people face in today's modern world .

Some of the remarkable real aspects that the film touches are  silently shocking and sends a strong message to the viewers,just wanna give a briefing on what all the movie touches 

 *  It shows how a silly prank by college students on a fellow mate ends up in almost taking his life (A duplicate id in the name of girl seems very realistic of today--the consequences of prank going horrifically wrong  is explained to the point )

* Life of a  depressed couple after losing their child is shown realistically  ,showing how loneliness pushes the mother into finding ways to let  her depression out through chats to a  stranger through computer eventually ending up  into wrong hands thereby losing her whole savings to a hacker --this part seemed very relevant and important fact --that never allow a stranger to get into your personal details --as said  in the movie a link sent by that stranger clicked by you is enough for someone to hack your personal details without your knowledge  .

* Issues such as acting against morality , troubled love,depression issues ,hackers --the movie has everything you need to be aware of in life -- the dark side of life that creeps in because of situations , This movie doesn't have a ending u guess,,and this movie deserved to have been marketed lot better ,,movies like this may not be accepted by fun loving audience but this is a  "perfect depiction of life gone wrong can be better " --and definitely not something you will regret watching --go for it if you could find a copy somewhere ,Given a choice to give a mark out of 10 i would have given 10--an excellent movie !!!
                                            

Money - A Deadly Relationship Breaker Between Known People !!!

                               " Money -- appears the most meaningless yet ends up being  the most dangerous weapon that can break relationships easily "

                                                 When i was growing up i used to see my mother picking up 5 paise , 10 paise(talkin about late 80's when there were common use of coins lot more than today) coins left around the house  ,she  used to pick them carefully and put them in one jar-- i playfully asked her "Mom why are you showing so much care for such less value money "--She replied in her inimitable style "Respect money you have earned and more importantly remember to respect other's money -it doesn't come easily for anyone in this world "

                                That was then ---Something that happened now proved how apt she was then -- A family friend son who is couple of years younger than me ---known him for the better part of last 17 years --was someone who was there in all family functions ,,someone who just became a nice unavoidable person in my life -- all was fine until he requested for credit transaction for business i was into- depending on someone else ---the amount was quite a big amount by any standards --and as it is case when money becomes a factor -it snowballs into "The Factor" ,,something that could break  trust  what u built for years and years --the person he believed  had ended up being a dishonest person and this  friend of mine felt himself  like a deer caught before headlights unaware of this impending danger ,,What followed was the familiar story that  money plays ---my friend switched off his mobile fearing answering the truth ---got himself out of  touch with  people we both  knew --moved out from the  place he resided to a new unknown  place --and what felt utterly disappointing was 17 years of trust and knowing each other went to the cleaners because of improper settlement of money without even a frank explanation of happenings  ,just like that the  trust i had on him  went out of the  window forever never to return --i felt gutted to pieces!!

    

   " Is money bigger than our friendship ,,Does money matter between us ,Money is not a issue "

                                        --All these are cheesy line that hide the real facts of practical life --Money matters between two earning people ---There is nothing like easy money in this world --Every penny is a struggle and for some its a monumental struggle --disrespecting money you earned is like disrespecting everything that you stand for ---the struggles ,,the fights ,,the dedication ,the sincerity ,,the sacrifices you had  made to earn that money  !!

     Money won't be "that factor "if we could follow certain points like 

    * Making a point to return borrowed money  from a friend on time promised as they might have plans with it 

    * Every one has a friend who keeps spending for us on movie tickets ,hotel bills and we might b ignorant  just because he/she has made a habit ---try to break that habit by taking turns on alternative times to settle the amounts .

    * There  might be roommates where one roommate might be one spending lot caring less about the amount just to make the other one feel comfortable --remember it might seem happy but unfair is what it is in reality  .

    * Often between brothers and sisters money is not a factor  till they get married --once into married life it becomes a important factor ---so have to respect that fact beyond sentiment values --because it is often the deciding factor between life long hatred and life long relationships .

       ,,,,,,and list might go on,, these are few instances that come to mind as i write ,,,

"Respect hard earned money --the difference between a long lasting relationshp and broken one might be even b a single penny --After all every single penny has a story of its own --a story of countless struggles and endless sacrifices --respect them and life will present u with everlasting relationships "

Cheers !!!

Rahul" Awesome" Dravid and Sachin "Amazing" Tendulkar -- Comparing Them Is Like Insulting Them --Incomparable Legends Both -Period!!

                      "   There never might be another Tendulkar or a Rahul Dravid "

            "Forget the comparisons between the two  for these are two  unforgettable champions  "                     
                                                     "  I have actually followed almost entire tendulkar career- i quipped to my sister yesterday  evening" --24 whopping years of my life i have loved this guy to pieces --the first time i saw him in televison  was hitting the great Abdul Qadir for 4 sixes in a exhibition match as a kid --There he was my first sports hero --and he has remained ever still despite glitches here and there --i remember how i was so glued to that name in newspapers like millions who grew up watching the boy wonder becoming the best batsman in the world--- for a period of time there were no one who could be compared with the great man,, --The one man who stood up again and again for India in 90's --the one man who commanded immense respect from every player on the planet-The man who was destined to broke records and did so by never losing focus on the sport he loved no ends ,to outline the memorable innings requires a book --he has played so many ,across the globe and drew adulation like no other sportsman ever did ,With God given talent and clean ,simple humble life off the cricket field he has achieved all that is possible in his field--true testimony to his passion and longeivity ,has inspired a generation of cricketers by being the ultimate role model .
                                                 Sportstar once put up the heading "King of kings",after his Sharjah heroics against Australia ,--  he truly was ,--in sheer dignity ,,sheer hardwork ,,sheer grit ,sheer determination --there was never someone who came close to the great man ever since he debuted --until the entry of a "humble gentleman " who came pretty close --one
   

" Rahul Sharad Dravid "
                                               My brother was a die hard supporter of him when he started up --and i did not like him initially for no particular reason other than he was becoming the challenger to my incomparable hero "Sachin"--when he came out in his initial years i used to laugh "Here comes the "Slow coach "--when he was dropped from teams i felt like yes thats more like it --but as India entered in the new millenium --Sachin was becoming less the incredible force he was and this man who never talked rubbish even for fun in newspapers ,,who never sledged anyone with foul language in a cricket field ,,,never cried foul --started to rack up performance after performance in alien conditions --Every time India would be none for 1 and this man would be walking with same purpose same grit and great determination to bail India out of trouble only to see someone take his name by cashing in on his hardwork --yet he never complained ---Double Hundred at Adelaide ,,Twin hundreds in each innings in New Zealand,,Terrific half centuries in brute of pitch at West Indies --Marvellous displays in South Africa --Improved performance in ODI and for a time he was even better than Tendulkar performance wise --I had started respecting him for his impeccable conduct on and off the field ---  Remember once  when Donald was letting out barrage of words at him --he just hit him over long on for six --the man just spoke through his bat --and that too impeccably .
                                                  In the glorious twilight of his career in his final trip to England ---He batted for 6 hours and came out immediately as makeshift opener when asked to follow on ---did that selflessly --as he had done before when asked to be a makeshift wicketkeeper --the man was not just impeccable was just as selfless cricketer there ever lived --more and more it was like watching two of all time greats is a incomparable joy than wasting time in analysing who was better than the other .

                                                    Yesterday as i was watching the two great sporting legends India has produced play their final match in coloured clothing --it felt like  "Wow What a priveleage watching two humble human beings universally respected for such a long time "-Why should one be better than other why not leave them just as they are --They played cricket for the right reasons for their whole careers--one just ended his magnificent career the other is almost done on the most glittering careers ever known --Yes I will always have a special place for Sachin but Rahul Dravid occupies a special place in my heart -for that unflappable dignity --unheralded achievements and that terrific grit all through his career --"Forget the comparisons for these are unforgettable champions in history of cricket" --Let them be remembered only as such .

                                                  
                                            

In Midst Of Nowhere --- A True Confession Of A Unfortunate Married Girl !!!!

This is a self  written confession of a known girl who has described about her stuttering  life in her own words----In many ways her life reflects current difficult situations a girl encounters in the society i live ,,,,,,

                                  Born in a rich affluent orthodox family -- I was pampered from my beginning ---born with three siblings --and surrounded by caring relatives ,i could not believe happiness waited for me with open hands the moment i was born --to a wonderful mother and even more caring father --They used to say "Life is like a dream when you have everything you could only have wished "---they demanded nothing from me --other than just being a good person at heart .

                                   I studied in the best school available -- topped the classranks year after year --was always the goto student for teachers and had few good friends ---lively and lovely is what you can describe my school days --i was never forced to study for a doctor  ,engineer or commerce --i was given luxury to choose whatever i wanted with clear mind --i chose to become a auditor --though it was tough i chose it because i wanted to become one --All the while i was growing up and things started to change up around --i lost my father suddenly --still i was not forced ---a ailing mother asked me just one favour --to marry someone she finds good enough for me ---i never fell in love so i had nothing against her decision ---I finished my Foundation and Inter courses when they found someone for me

                                 At that time i was 24 --i nodded and wedding date was fixed and during engagement the only condition from my family was for the groom to work in India ---which they accepted --and i had the most lavish wedding possible --with more than 4000 guests and the best way to start my next phase in life --with someone who was almost my age --i had dreams like every new bride and going away from my home made me very uncomfortable but it is same for every girl born in this land ,,so i left to my in law's house who were equally from affluent background .

                                 From Day 1 it was clear people  did not like me there  and i felt like unwanted member  many a time --though my father in law was a decent person but unable to take control of situations was his only big mistake --after marriage i learnt my husband  was too reliant on his parents for every decision in his life that included me now  ,he left me in India and went abroad for work, all along his reliance on his parents even for  personal matters increased  ,it became more and more clear that it was impossible for me to change that approach --and all the while years started rolling amidst daily tensions --and then it came down to me not having a baby --though medically clear of all issues except extreme stress being problem --i was bombarded with question after question --asked to get things i needed from my family like laptop ,phone,dresses  etc .There were times when i felt like running to my mother saying about everything --but i was brought up too well to do that to hurt people in my family .

                              All the while i had not completed my course --i was into my 9 th year of marriage ,,and i eventually was forced out due to silly misunderstandings where i had no support from my husband who listened to his mom who had become so possesive of her son after i married him ---i returned to my family where i was not welcomed either --all my brothers and sisters had married and settled down --and i was seen as a odd one out --uneasiness had crept in for them to accomodate me in the family because they  felt thet were answerable to society for my uncalled long staying ---i could not complete my education suddenly because it required another few years --i just have a commerce degree and now im in my 30's --i have decided to pursue my career and life --with my family reluctant to take me back --- and my in laws refusing to take me in for silly issues..Im just left nowhere in the long road called --life ---I just don't know where was the mistake -- my apoligies mean nothing --im being chased and all i have can do is just run sumwhere till my heart takes me ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, !!!

                                                 ( I  have  just edited the letter from my friend -Im a single guy who has no idea of the travails of a married person but the thing that irked me most was there were no villains in her letter except situations and happenings - and this is not the first person i have encountered in my life stuttering helplessly despite being brought up well and given proper educational platform to shine --she seemed lost --- she seems determined to make her way up ---someday she might find the way she was destined to travel until then her plight might be midst of nowhere-- My personal wish is this thought  changes in due course of time  --where a woman is given due respect for life after marriage as she is given before marriage ,where a husband gives more priority to a girl who has left her life from birth trusting she wont be felt a leftout ,where elders could leave some of their ego therby creating a happy environment to a newcomer in family " After all they are our fellow human beings ,that isnt a crime is it ?--Not helping someone whom you could help is the worst feeling that could be avoided )

                                              

Happy 55 th Birthday My Unforgettable Mom- Love You Loads !!!

Not enough words to describe what you were --Always my life's biggest hope --my strongest inspiration --my biggest reason to fight through pains --to one day realise the dreams that you had --Happy birthday(10 September ) to the greatest human being i had in life as mother ---To be called  your son will always be my biggest priveleage in life  .Thanks for all the wonderful memories and lessons you taught .Love you and Miss you lot .
:)

An Honest Appeal If You Really Care About Elderly Women In Your Life,,,,

If you care about your mother ,your elder  sisters,your grandma --any women in your life--please read on this is not a shared post  ,,,,

                                      A known friend's elder sister Latha akka ,42 ,with two young kids ,a son and daughter both in school had a lump in her breast  few months ago which she had noticed and informed her hubby who took her for consultation with the family doctor ,,Latha Akka brought up traditionally and being a shy lady was not comfortable in expressing the true facts of her troubles with the major reason being the doctor being a male and the place of occurence of lump made her even more uncomfortable  ,,the fear of scaring  her young children and a caring hubby somehow made her hope it was all just a minor issue overlooking the true facts ,the doctor misguided by her description just asked her to do few simple medications for that purely on grounds he was misleaded by innocence of a shy lady .
                                       Few months later when she had more complications naturally of the lump --she felt something was gravely wrong --went and met doctor this time revealed her lump and all her complications -the doctor on her revealing true facts felt in absolute horror of the situation she was in --Immediately on asked to consult a pathologist ,,mammogram and few more tests --it was found to be a CANCER in advanced stage--to be precise was in her last stage .
                                       Chemotherapy ,radiations  ,medications and hell a lot of beat treatment given by her family proved to be unfruitful when she passed away recently --seeing those two  young children without their mom  absolutely froze me to hell,A life gone just like that all because of simple hesitancy of not being comfortable of explaining the true issues because the doctor was not of same gender --because it is not as easy as it sounds for a family lady who had been brought up in traditional ways to reveal her private parts to a third person --resulting in a family losing its most important binding member .
                                       If you sincerely care about women in your life make sure somewhere there is level of comfort in them to talk about their issues -to have a female doctor or someone they can explain true magnamity of their issues which us guys can never understand -Breast Cancer is a very curable disease if and only it is detected at earliest stage -even though everyone is educated enough to know consequences of all these diseases ---people still are not comfortable enough to reveal issues such as Latha Akka .
 
               "Life's joy  is when you live to see the last page of destination "

                            ( This is not a shared post --this is from what i saw and me myself being someone who lost my mother pretty young could feel the pain of those young children's eyes  ---I  always wished  never to see that pain in anyone's eyes --its just unbearable but certainly avoidable ---Care those love you --especially if they are women )
                          

"Parents Are Incomparable "

"   Parents are your living dictionary to everything you want to know in life 
    The least you could do is respect them --the most you could do is love them endlessly 
     Life's first admiration ,inspiration ,motivation, begins with our parents
     Mine was no different but it simply went on to become awe inspiring 
     Beginning life with two wonderful humble human beings made life lot easier 
     Dedicated to my great parents on their 36th Wedding anniversary."
                                               

      
                                                      Nothing is forever in this life but the time growing up as a kid --all those days when your parents cuts brown covers for your books for new academic year ,,the beautiful time when they taught you to ride a cycle ,,the times they played with you so that you don't feel lonely ,,the times when they used to stand at your school gate with your favourite dish and that effervescent smile--the times they took you to barber shop and standing outside admiring you--the times they took you to tourist spots--plenty and plenty --simply magical unmatchable times --times which only our parents could give and no one else could replicate that  happiness they gave when we were growing up.   
                                                             What's right ,what's wrong , ,learning the art of respecting ,helping you figure out the unique ability u might possess unknowingly --supporting you to the hilt during troubled times --holding you together from breaking down at your lowest points in life --somewhere the shades of our parents in all these moments  will keep hovering over you ,just to remind in case you feel lost --they  will become shining beacons to the path of your unknown destination --and all these are just not just extreme optimistic ,philosophical statements --im now into my early 30 's --and i can literally remember the number of times i was prevented from becoming a abject failure in my life ---there were times when i was surrounded by nothing but complete darkness --every single time it would be the incomparable guarding angel of my life --My Mom who would have had picked me up even in that darkness ---and guided by the greatest  iron willed man i have ever known in my life - "My Dad "--Now i do know how impossible it must have been to resurrect a derailing life--probably every single mom and dad in this world would have done it at some point to their son /daughter .
                                                    The more i see married people  these days  ,the more i realise i would probably never see a better understanding couple than  my mom and dad ---and it was not just because they are very special people in my life im saying this --Despite having a age difference of nearly 13 years they always had special understanding ---During my school days my parents used to accompany me and my brother to school every single day --i remember one of my most  respected teacher Rasheed Sir --who is now no more --used to remark that even if at  100 mtrs apart --your parents would speak same words about any topic ---i never understood that deeply until my mom passed away ---a part of my dad had gone with mom --he still is a bloody strong willed man but that part of his went away with the queen of his heart ---Despite being very very close to hell a lot of people in life i never have decoded that "understanding"part --and everytime i fail - i remember Rasheed's Sir' s words of them ,The most paramount word in any relationship/frdship is always "Understanding ".
    
                                                         Funnily i have sometimes forgotten even my birthday  but never missed remembering my great parent's wedding anniversary ---as a kid i used to get new shirts ,toys on their day ---Never remember even once my mom in all 20 years she was with us asking something for her on such days ---Somewhere i remember reading

              " A mother knows the feelings of a child the moment his/her heart starts beating "

                                                        18 years of education and every single day with same dedication --same love --same care --and lots of lots of hardwork --thats what my dad was--and probably you could fix that same line for almost every dad in this world --they just don't know to stop loving
 
                              " Every kid's first inspiration is always their dad "
                                                          
                                                         
                                                       I have no idea what i will be in 20 years maybe i wont exist then --but till the  time i live my love ,admiration ,inspiration will never change even a iota to the greatest couple of human beings that i was so lucky to have as parents --To be called their son was/is /will always be the biggest priveleage of my life --i ask no more because i pride upon that more than anything else in my life ,Happy Anniversary to you lovely couple --Love u both loads 
I could remember just one line 

                          "Parents ask you nothing but give you everything they can  "

Cheers  !!!
                                                        
                
                              

"OAR"

        " People come into your life for some reason 
          If reason is revealed  early then you know they were not meant to stay for life
          If reason is not revealed for whole life then you are guaranteed happiness 
          Life is not meant to be just a struggle 
          It is a journey in a seemingly endless sea where you are  given a boat 
          to find your unknown destination --but to row the boat we need an " Oar"
          In life that "Oar" is the people we meet in life for all right reasons 
          Whether we reach that destination or not is no guarantee but pushing us 
           towards that requires  a strong oar in that endless sea
          Not appreciating what you had/have in life is disrespecting your sincere efforts 
           to find that unknown destination "
                                                     
                                                                   Dedicated to my close friend ,mate ,buddy,philosopher ,motivator  Suresh Kumar on his Birthday --Im priveleged  in acknowledging the fact that my friends have not just been a oar but sumtimes a boat even in my journey to find my unknown destination --What began as a accidental frdship developed into a wonderful  brotherly frdship unseen for years before meeting eventually ---Now happily married with a wonderful person  and blessed with a lovely son --He remains the same wonderful person i met so many years ago ---Sometimes the life of commoners reveal lot more than what you could imagine ---Some people just prefer to be just silent significant factors in life --but as the breeze is to this world --they will be in your lives --never asking for recognition yet quietly give you confidence in the worst of times and enjoy happiness in best of times .
                                                     I remember once  my effervescent angel Mom replying to my query"Where do you find ,love,care,happiness ,trust ,support  and truth --she replied find a honest person all this follow by itself --i never understood what she was meaning then --now i do understand that she was referring to finding some genuine frds in life --Im thankful i have couple of them and wishing one of them a very Happy Birthday to a genuinely good guy and human being ,
 
                 "You should never think twice about who your real friends are  "