"Freedom ---A Wider Perspective "

                             15th Aug 1947 --forever will be etched as the most important date in our Nations history ,,Mother India became independant with efforts from millions of people sacrificing their lives and therefore giving us a free and democratic country ,,but the real question is  have we realised their dreams ,,r we using the freedom they struggled so hard to build a India they so dearly wanted long after they had gone ??

                    *   Freedom as visualised by the great ppl of past included India moving forward ,,but we try in  one  way or other to pull each other back thereby not letting India to grow ,every govt that comes in finds out the fault of the previous one or one against but there are no concrete plans given for the country to move forward ,whether in state or centre ,,same story ,,and if sumone raises the concern ,,hes beaten to pulp or ignored to hilt , One word may aptly mean what we are doin -Is it "Selective Democracy-Probably Yes is the answer  ,,Freedom doesnt mean to have the freedom to have our identities restored safely ---we did not get freedom for singular identity surely.      

                    *    A journalist in this free india---Mr,J.Dev a investigating reporter for a newspaper voiced his concern over crimes of underworld was shot dead in broad daylight --freedom of voicing true concerns is not allowed and it comes at a price of losing life!!

                   *    Anna Hazare - a renowned social activist,,a padma bhushan award winner for his services,,a Gandhian,voice his concern over corruption and took protest against corruption in non violence way (i dont support idiots like ramdev ) hes being --as on date being stopped from all his efforts by the ruling govt ,,pathetic ,,  freedom for taking steps to reform a  major issue spoilin our nation  from a  highly respected individual is  condemned    

Irom sharmila -

                  * How many of us know know IROM SHARMILA??The iron lady of manipur --she is in indefinite fast for 10YEARS ASKING   FOR ELIMINATING A CONTROVERSIAL LAW that saw her village ppl being mowed by police and illtreated including raping and killing  girl in her place--the price for her struggle ,,she has been arrested numerous times and law still exist--Independant India is suppressed by such poor actions for fight against unjust ---Remember Gandhiji and so many of freedom fighters fought for independance because of unjust treatment ,,,yet when the same is being rendered in parts of India nowadays  ,,,we are just witnesses doin nothin

                   Were we granted freedom to develop hatred ,caste wars,be witness to all wrong doings ,to be clients of corrupted ppl?or accept idiots like Ramdev and Nityananda(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jgzVJwoFtSg&feature=related) as people higher than us (Im not here to hurt intentions of people who follow them but i post a video of that Nityananda here to show that its not just me who is against ppl like this ),the saddest thing is we cant use our freedom to fight against unjust ,,fight against our fear to use our rights is freedom in a way ,,individual priorities make us fear of any bad eventuality ,,but if we dont use our freedom to fight agains.t such happenings ,,then our future generation will have no freedom to do anythin,,they will be mere slaves to such people ,,do we want that state?

                    Freedom was hard earned ,,Mother India was independant after monumental struggle ,,millions of people sacrificed their lives with the belief that their vision of a beautiful bright India will be realised by future generations ,,We are now one among the future generations but have we done enuf to make them happy ,,,have we done our bit to fight our fears and stand for just ?,,,the day we realise freedom is standing for just ,,the day we realise freedom is fighting our fears and execute our rights and care for each other,therby lifting our country to heights which those great people envisioned will be the day all their sacrifices would become meaningful in the real sense  ,,probably its one of most impossible tasks ever ,,,  So what even our freedom was thought to be so by foreigners ,,we got freedom by the hardest way possible ,now its left to us to do it the harder way to make sure all the efforts of our heroes is not wasted by us,,We may go,,but as long as the world exist we should make  Mother India shine  as brightly as possible and celebrate as many independance days  probably as long as the world exist,,

"I Promise to do my bit --Proud to be a Indian,Long live my Mother India  -Jai Hind !!!!"

                

We Guys have our moments in sunshine despite the gloom !!!

                            There are not enuf praises to talk about women alrite ,,but we need sum sunshine sumtimes ,lol,,,Guys --epitome of the word responsibility --Tommorow is rakshabandan --i was wondering how much it is appreciated for the efforts of guys in this world ,,minimal ,very minimal ,,just even imagining how much pressure   a guy soaks up  once he crosses the teens is unimaginable

                            They say a girls heart is the deeper than a ocean ,,but i would say the hearts of guys are like the skies which are always so clearly visible ,,both are unique thats why the world maybe a tough place to exist but nevertheless a interesting one ,,for most part guys --we dream of so many things --but as life goes with responsibility we leave the dreams and live in what is given or forced to live with what life is serving ,,the hardest part in life is living a life forced of fate and seein our dreams slowly fade along with the breeze ,,its that tough being a male .

                         Dads wants sons to be better than them in the field they shine or wished to shine  ,,in a way the pressure ,responsibility starts from there ,,once u cross 10 u r expected to be matured,, once u cross 15 u r expected to manage few ppl ,,once u cross 20 u r expected not to cry,,,then not to show emotions ,,if u dont fit the bill anywhere u r viewed as a irresponsible ,careless ,,attitude showin person,,it really is,,personally felt few of them ,,thats why i feel sumtimes so proud to be a guy ,,because we stand in front of a storm knowing it will take us away sumday ,,sumhow ,,still we dont show our backs ,,as a old  sayin,,"Be a man as u r ",,

                          Yes we see life before marriage as a opportunity to look into every girl we encounter as a hope of sumthin spl ,,nothin wrong ,,thats how our hormones work ,,not our fault ,,but in 99 percent of them we know its just a nice good person to know  ,,except for the 1 percent where we feel "this is the girl " --and then comes the drama of fate ,,only very few get the chance to live a life with them ,,others dont and they  adjust their  minds to reality and spend a life with sumone else ,,we are not allowed to emote ,,but the pains stay deep,,,yet we live a life and give it a good shot ,,be true to the one we are fixed ,,and till the final breath carry the memories in mind and give a smile to conceal the pain

                        Its hard to be a dad ,a brother ,a husband ,,a responsible son,,at all these roles guys encounter losses of sumthin all life yet nothin derails us from achieving the purpose of every individuals life,,,devoid of living the life with the girl u wish ,,takin away the sister with whom u live for 25 years --try whatever after that even sisters become another family --the family torch is passed to guys in hope they carry it with pride and better fame and name ,im sumone who always had always been in awe of the sacrifices girls make and have great respect for  them --- they make a guy sumone in this society ,,but for that guy to be that sumone everyone wishes ,,its aint that easy ,,"our sacrifices are rarely known ,,our emotions are best expressed in the mirror of our washrooms ,,for sum in the cars in long distance night drives all alone ,,our tears are confined to ourselves ,,our pains confined to darkness ,,,our love as another dream ,,our affection for our sisters with a time limit to show ,,our dreams dying at the hands of harsh reality ,,but yet we carry on--to make others happy ,better ,,at the least comfortable !!!

                     From a guy who has felt every bit of words written above yet feel so proud to be a guy --its a privilege to live with responsibility and care even if it comes at cost of our dreams and happiness ,,,Still its a pleasure being one among them  :)

Hoping there will a better tommorow!!!

                    "U may not be my life --but u were part of it which i will never regret --thanks "

                

The next generation's happiness depend on us,we have a role too!!!

                               Will anyone say this at a inevitable unfortunate time -- therby giving hope and not having hatred -I doubt!!! --- I got this very words ringing in my mind when i recently witnessed a good frd ending his strained relation with his wife amidst chaos ,abuse and curses which were hard to even witness ,,do seperation or breaking up a relation be so rude and appear so bad ?--It was my take ,,and to make matters worse the reason for their seperation was plain silly --but we are living in a society where "silly is significant in almost everythin ",,i was not a close frd of them neither i could do anythin to stop the string of bad events that happened ,but i just wished only if ppl realised that there needs to be respect even in seperation ,,abusin ends what all is left ,,why do that --but when will each one of us be a example of takin moral responsibility for a  inevitable  seperation of any relationship,,When will we move with a smile or a hanshake or a hug of any relationship and end it all with hope it may come back sumday rather than killing it forever

                                      No one wants to be a example for hatred ,,but sadly no one wants to be a example for being against it as well ,,the moment we start to hate sumone ,,bingo we find reasons to solidify our stance ,,we find our side to be the fair one ,,we find the other person as a villain,,im sayin this seein relationship between brothers ,,between lovers,,between husband and wife and many relationship ,,for me it has been blew hot blew cold types with certain friends ,,i have not had guts to be so even though every time i felt i will change it whenever sumthin inevitable happend ,,like seperation,,breaking a frdship ,,at these times we either become helpless or become arrogant enuf to go to extent of abusin the person with whom we shared some good moments ,,,

                                   No relation is foolproof ,,its how we learn to take the more of good things than the bad ones ,,if we feel the bad ones are more and good ones are less we should make ourselves a reason for a good one ,,not the other way around ,if u feel that seperation is the option why not do it with a good heart , by doing that  sumwhere when said and done we leave a window for a good happenin,,never mind if it happens or not ,,we still have the satisfaction that we did not completely end that relationship ,,we can sleep with the belief that "sumday sumwhere if fate wants we will be atleast half as what we were once upon a time",,  life might end anywhere ,,anytime ,,,but when it counts ,,when we live ,,its important we live without guilt and without hatred ,,,No one is right everytime ,,makin a relationship is that hard ,,breaking up anythin is one of easiest things we can do ,,"if only breaking up was done with a hard smile and thanksgiving handshake or hug!!!" ,,,i wished i had done it few times in my life ,,i felt very bad seein the abuse and the eventual break up ,,i felt it wrong ,,but i swim in the same culture they swim,,sumone sumday has to change --i want to witnes or be part of sumthin that  is good

                                 Nothin is permanent in life,,not even life ,,,then how come hatred,,,there is a answer --TIME---and maybe there is a answer for who  will be  part of a new beginning --YOU ,,sighning off with hope sumday i will write two blogs of this --one how i handled this in my life on some person in the  way i wished and how i got the same person back sum other time later in my life -on another blog  --just hoping -with hope there comes belief --with belief there will be a better tommorow --so im erasing the today memory with the same belief waiting for a tommorow like that :)

From memories about a vey special word called "Love"

                     Not my usual blog type but this was in my mind for long time --i feel this is to me a special blog -a blog which has every word as i wanted --:)

                                This is sumthin very different and very same many would have felt in their  lives -- last sunday when i met a good frd of mine there was this discussion abt a topic regarding blogs  -she was in love with sumone -everyone who knew me ,,knew me i was pretty poor at  the topic love ---and mockingly questioned me on whether i could write or quote a single line about love and bursting in wild laughter ---yes i could not write abt it much as i was dumb in that regard  but i could still copy from my memories from what sumone made me feel few years back -i cant remember every quote of hers or words as she was so smart a person with words,,with words she was magical ,,with feelings she was miraculous --i know its hard for any reader  to  get the same feeling i do ,,but i know u would appreciate the fact these words uttered were not bad nonetheless

            

               
              " Why the hell u love me --one good reason--her answer--i love u because "i feel myself with u  --a woman knows the face of man she loves as sailor knows a open sea "

              "I would have known myself better had i known u had loved me more than what i thought "

               

              " Im not asking what you have im asking whether u have me in u "

                 

             "  Love is not just beautiful it is wonderful "

               

             " My pains  painted my skies black --my heart wanted to paint  it in white by sumone --on being with u it became a rainbow "

             

             "  6 years have gone ---for all the pains in my life --i never knew i had a medicine called "love"--i want this medicine for life --hahaha

             " I met u by accident-- fell in love by incident --i guess incidents and accidents never bring surprises  but for me it brought me a pleasant one --my love"

         

             "When i saw u first the world did not stop ,,stars did not whirl around me ,,i did not miss a heart beat  ----all i felt was myself ---a complete myself -my moment had arrived and i did not miss to feel it thats all"

              "Im never asking return of favour to love me im asking a favour to allow me to love u as long as i live"  and many more which i dont remem now

                                       

                                            There was a old saying that i read sumyears back in a book--"Love will follow u all life--initally it will follow u in life -but u miss it -then u will follow it for life"--the timin is the key --u miss the timin --u miss the bus to happiness,,a journey with a known person to any distance seems easy and lovely--similarly lifes journey with a known person is far easier than with a stranger --distance might be less as might be the happiness with a new person  ,,thats why seizing the moment is very important ,,

                                          i missed it but not the feeling --i know how it is to feel that great word --now the next line is from me --let me try ---"To love was not in my dictionary --No one made me feel like u -long after u have gone --i still feel ur love --Love is immortal --through u i felt it  ---there is no other word which brings as much joy and pain as the word -"Love"-really with love there is life without it ,,,,,,,,,,!!!!

Dreams are tough challenges but always possible realities !!!!

                           Dedicated to my good friend Rinki tomar on her birthday

                              "Dreams are not just fantasies they r possible realities -the key lies in tryin to 

                                  aspire them --u become future inspiration by doing so to sumone "         

                            

      Happy birthday to my good friend  Rinki  Tomar ---Head  of "India Book of records" ,,a work that demands more than 30 days of non stop work more so ever its such a demanding job to be head of such concern which demands attention to minute details and from any corner of india to approve a record they have to see the full details -- A concern that was started purely with belief and lots of love ,,but more importantly started with purpose of achieving a dream that might have well been a dream considering the importance given to womens dreams in our society,,gone are the days when they are confined to the household and all their dreams are no more pages of unread book ,they make their dreams come true by sheer hard work and meticulous planning regardless of result

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                                               One scene in a tamil film really hit the nail on the head of where our society was some yrs back,,a school master asks his 3 rd standard students--the students(girls )were shown as to be answerin to the question of what u want to be in future?----one after one they were shown to stand up and blink or laugh innocently not knowin what to answer ,,maybe just in a cinema but it could not be more apt --girls in our society are expected to be good housewives and good  moms and b nothin other than that ABSOLUTELY NOTHIN MORE .

                                               My mother who was a remarkable person with unbelievable amount of talents ,,she was terrific at narratin lessons from book ,,,worked hard on english ,,remarkably wunderful in writing the right words for right situations ,,be it in writing for debates for us in  school competetions or any other stuff she was wunderful ,workers fell at ease with her-proving her management skills were goos as well ,,when now at this age i could recall how much she was talented but she refused to show it to the world thats what i feel ,,she could have inspired a lot of people in my opinion with loads of talent she had,but women are not brought up to be otherwise ,,its been the trend  for a long time ,,but times are changing ,,with better understanding ppl it has changed surely for good  ,,i do feel that now on seein the role of women in todays world they are marching towards brighter side of life with belief

                                              While i know the person who is inspiration for this blog Rinki for hardly few months --but what has been noticeable and really appreciable in her case is her dedication to her job not expecting immediate rewards and just givin her sincere attempts to make her dream a reality,,Probably the biggest challenge in life will be accepting your dream as a possibility and working towards that knowing its a big challenge,,Life is boring if we dont have challenges ,,but if challenges become magnified impossibilities then when achieved it is a monumental achievement --I m not sumone who knows 1000 people in this world ,,but the very few i know are really damn good ,,,Rinki-has  been a inspirin story of relentless hardwork that never depended on sucesss -but on accepting a impossible challenge as achievable miracle ,

Women have started to get their rightful recognition not by any forceful means but by consistent hard work towards oneday sharing the limelight in a world  that doesnt always have them in the front,its sign of better things ,better future and a happier world

                           Happy Bday sweet Rinki --have a blast and may god be with u in doing ur bit of continue to inspire people --and may there  be many more rinkis in this world --cant be happier than having a good human being and a hard workin person as a good friend,,its indeed a privelege,,Dreams are indeed possible realities!!!!

                                               

Sisters are always a synonym of support and unbridled love !!!

      

                     " Dedicated to my Sister who is celebrating her birthday today -Happy Birthday Raji"

                         (( **Special mention to Deepu,Gilly Seema,Pinku,Archu.Nithya ,Shabana and Priya tak(miss u piyu -wherver u r love u always ) all wunderful ppl  who made me feel proud to be their brother"**))

                       A quote about  sisters--"her eyes had tears when i was happy --her heart had tears when i was sad--the most silent and strongest relationship in this world is the one shared by a sister"

                                     Life has been cruel in many aspects but it has been kind in sum cases in my life -like my bodning with the word sisters,,made so special by some amazin ppl- im fortunate to have been blessed with some lovely girls who though not born with me took me as their brother and have shown some unbridled love which sumtimes make me think --"Am i this special "---im not boastin but im meaning it does sumtimes so !!!

                                   Rakshabandan is one function i look forward every year -- I have been tied quite a few number of Rakhis in life -its just a beautiful feelin to know there is sumone who loves u so much for just being a brother or like a brother ,i have cherished every moment  I had with them --my own sister -the only one i was born with remains a unique character -whether showin care,love or affection,,she remains sumtimes a mystery ,,a iron willed character but nevertheless sumone who helped me lot to shape myself into a better human being ,we all supported each other during tough times ,,now shes happily settled in her married life

                                   I guess having sisters guarantees u two things -unconditonal happiness and undeniable seperation,all the above people i mentioned have been a pillar of support to me sumtime or other,,,had sum wunderful moments wih few,,,there is nothin happier when u walk hand in hand with a sister --u can share things with confidence ,,u can exchange hard words and still have them holding ur hands despite anythin --sisters are special--every individuals "dream empire"is built with siblings support only,,our visions are best understood by our siblings ,,i have always had this feeling that a relationship that always remains silent  but strong is the one shared between a brother and sister

                                 Sum times their tears make us  better men,from my personal experience i know they plant the seed of confidence in us by being with us  and not merely by words -it doesnt need meeting of eyes or holding of hands to show their love,its beyond that--u can feel their presence without being nearby ,a strong sense of confidence that  come what may they are by your side ,,i have been very fortunate to have sisters who make me feel so much at home at time of needy despite me not even seen some of them ever and some i hardly see due to them being far away after gettin married .

                                   Sisters are like stars in our horizon --they seem so bright during our desperate times --we feel as long as they r there nothin is impossible --they remain always bright in our vision at those times,,and when we r shinging bright in our lives they hide themselves behind us to see us shine bright ,,sisters are that special ,a relationship that is hugely underplayed in our world --they are never given the limelight because they never want to have it --they want to share whatever they have with their brothers

                                We never say sorry to our  sisters,,we do anythin for them to see them happy ,,,yet we are never satisified because we want them to be happier and never be sad,,,thats the real meaning of the relationship--i have been fortuante enuf to be have   some  lovely sisters  who have been  wonderfully supportive, remarkably caring human beings all my life ,, who have  tolerated my sumtimes eccentric behaviour with more affection with grace and they continue to amaze me with their  unbridled love

                            i have got a huge respect for the relationsip and will strive to make it stronger ,,,sum relationships are unbreakable in our lives,,this is certainly one among them--for me a very ,very ,very special one ,,made special by some special people  and the one who is celebrating her birthday today --"Happy birthday again sister  --have a blast"

"Life's spirit lies in facing adversity --and not by accepting them easily"

       

     "There is a reason i see every dawn --despite my fears to not see them sumdays "

                                                                   (First of all i never expected sumtime back  to write another blog as i was in pretty sorry mindset for last few months ,,but one thing that never deserts me unlike other things in life  is my love for these words and for my passion for it never dies ,,it feels awesome to write few words again,,and to the lovely souls who read my blogs,however few it maybe its precious for me  --im grateful for that to all,its been a very tuf time indeed ,,hopefully its all goin into the past now )

                                                                   I have wondered why in life -words like happiness,smile ,love,,is often outshone by words depression,,tears and hatred ,,,i guess without these words te real essence of joy would have been missed in life,i realised many things just of recently ,,wishes are like dreams ---u can only visualise them ,,wishes rarely become realities !!

                                                                  The last 2 months have been the worst in my life ---because i was being pulled down to the extent of me reaching a level of depression --which i felt might drown me out ,,,wrong outlet of all the same led me to breakup with frd after frd --relation after relation--i began to hate myself because i started to doubt the credibility of my belief and willpower which were losin shape ,i sat down and thought bit of where im heading ---there were dark days when i thought i never wanted to see the dawn ,,but i saw and was pushed to see them --there was probably some reason after all

                                                                 Losing close people became mandatory,,losing special people became customary,,losing my best soulmate ,,losing sumone who had roses for my every tear and losing all i had for my heart to not break made me almost crumble --it was a case of  god sayin ---"be ready to lose many"--i wanted to reply  "i wont have any",,Here i stand now with almost all my precious beloved people lost for one reason or other ,,,yet i know crying or hitting the wall are no solutions,,frdship,family ,work environment were all not in good order ,,,but when i sat and thought of "Why im fearin even my existence --it should not be" because i have to do some of my responsibilities still ,,,my ambition is unfulfilled ,there are some dreams which are yet to be realised,,there is a long journey that has just started

                                                           I was missing sumone terribly for last fortnight --so much so one of my frds found out in my behaviour ---he just replied to me --"you are so lucky to have nice people in life--but sumtimes luck runs out on purpose ---you cant be omni good to everyone in this world --u have ur flaws -everyone has --u try to cover your flaws by tryin to adapt to everyone ---u have lost ur identity --find that --be urself --if u were meant to have them u will --if not let them go --be thankful for the memories -there will be others waiting for you to continue ur journey"

                                                        I was hearin dumbfounded by the magnamity of simple assesment of my situation --in other words he offered me my solution --i can live with pain but not with a clustered mindset ,,yes sumtimes truth hurts but nothin teaches u like truth -- I still dont wish to see some dawns but now  i m not afraid to face them--i have no reason to fear if i was myself always,, i will march on to my unrealised dreams with pains of course but not with fears anymore !!!

                                              "My new journey might be lonely--almost--i still have one or two to assist me --but this time it will be with me being as me --ready for anythin --ready to pay any price --ready to face my fate and play by my rules--"Lifes spirit lies in facin adversity --not being eaten by it "

The case of Miss Aruna Shaubang --there's a lesson for all to be learnt from her life

Aruna Shaubang then and now in semi coma stage !!


                             "Never give yourself a chance to accept revenge as a solution to anger "  
                                ARUNA SHAUBANG --i know this name about 1 yr or so back -- one of the most painful stories i have read in my life --a story about a hard working girl --who came from below poverty family and paid the ultimate price and the worse part is shes still suffering after 38 years!!!--i found some news of her that i could not even take my mind off ,the person who brutally raped her and left her in a dog chain in a bad state and left her to  semi coma is working in a hospital nearby ,,A guy named Sohanlal,, he left her in semi coma stage and brain dead state then for his supposed "revenge ",,shes now 61 ,,,(still survived by KEM hospital nurses and doctor )
                                I read the news that the guy had changed his name and is still working in some hospital after serving a term of 7 years ,because he was charged of "robbery of jewels"  ,talk about law taking it course probably its for only people with money ,,read that the case was not challenged against the convict because no one of her family wanted to fight for her or take care of her ,not to blame them either ,(poverty sumtimes makes people helpless leavin no options)  ,,she was abandoned for good ,,and now 38 years after  i read the shocking sad  news that her  well wishers on seein her suffering for so long requested for "Euthanasia "--its just harder to digest that the reason for the action was revenge by a mindless guy , it has been revealed shockingly the guy still lives sumwhere closeby working and living a normal life ina  hospital -how in the wide world is it fair?? - this wonderful lady has been in bed like a baby ,in semi coma  for close to 4 decades,,all the more reason that we should do our bit in making sure such things never occr in our surroundings
                               There was sumthing i felt heart warming in the final part though  --i read about the  journalist named PINKI VIRANI who had taken so much pain to know abt Madam Arunas case --had so much tried to help her ,,read that she has offered with her husband to do final rights to Madam Arunas inevitable  death if and when it happens ,In a country where appreciation and fame are the masks for everyone wish ,,its truly worth mentioning that there are people like Mrs.Pinki who has taken part of her life in tryin to help a wonderful lady get noticed for the misfortune she had in her life ,,
                                Revenge is the worst expression of anger ,,yet when the mind is not allowed to think it seems the best form of avenging a humiliation or embarrasment ,,in reality --its just few moments of madness that seperates from havin a normal life and one like Madam Aruna ,,even worse is the life of that guy Sohanlal ,,if at all i dont want to be one person in this whole world it will be that guy --his moment of madness ,,his form of revenge has put a person brain dead for nearly 40 years ,a lady who came out of her house at 18 to work out of poverty and that to in a noble proffesion like nurse ,cant imagine how much guilt that guy is having every day to relive that moment again and again,,
                              We would have situations where we would feel our anger will be best exhibited by takin some form of revenge ,,,but like this example revenge never does any good to anyone ,,it ends up with undeniable pain,,guilt till life and ignominous scars in our characters which will nevr leave till our time runs out ,,im have had this urge to do sumthin against sum ppl who left me stranded in the middle on few occasions ,,but sumhow i preferred personal agony and silence than out and out revenge ,,,reading such kind of stuffs makes me think revenge is nothing but a waste of energy which extracts plenty of agony ,tears and blood ,,probably we will be faced with more situations where it might be the only solution ,,but i do sincerly hope and do sincerly request that whilst u may u have anger which is human nature ,,never allow this thought of revenge to cross u ,,sumwhere if u have been right ---fate will prove that u have been so to that particular person --never have revenge  as a option because its not even worth to be a option --its sumthin that has to be sent to trash forever
                           For the love of  our lives--- let this wonderful life of Madam Aruna be the one of the kind and never wish to see anyone or any news as of hers in my life ,,not only in pain but in shame to know one of our human kind inflicted such a shameless act on  a fellow human being for his moment of satisfaction ,,and for his urge for revenge ,,every time u have the urge of that word ,,just rememeber this case(to me the guy is just living because god wants him to relive his shame every day than to die )
                          As far as my tribute to  this wonderful human being who has suffered so much for no fault of hers -"U have opened the eyes of many and will so in future sadly through your pains but it needs such pains to make people understand hard issues in life ,,, Im sure people will learn a lot from your life ,,May God be with u always and give u peace wherever u go from here  "

Learning to listen to others perspectives is a art worth learning !!!

                                  

                                 “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

                                             This is what i got in mind -when a frd of mine said sumthin today morning that did not shock me but starltled me moreover for my reluctance to accept a frank outspoken comment as i was sumone who had swimmed long enuf in this societies rigid policies to allow sumone to have a frank opinion on a sensitive issue ,,On a whole i felt i m just a mere reflection of what this society has made us

                                             Had a very odd chat with one of my school mates in google talk ---had some funny messages exchanged initally when all of a sudden the topic diverted to something far more sensitive--He suddenly said to me "Dude whats the need to have temples ?dont u think that God is everywhere -I do believe god is everywhere -why waste money in building temples ?Now this frd of mine works in a highly reputed company, was a NIT passout ,,,a god believer alright --sumone who hits the nail on his head with his comments ,sumone who never does a cheap thing to make peoples head turn ,i was not taken back by his remark because it had some truth in it ,i was unable to digest the fact of him sayin sumthin against the guidelines our society has allowed us to grow and never allowed to go beyond it ,i felt it was purely a individuals perspective which our society never stops to hear ,,,

                                                 Its not that this was the only issue that irked me regarding we giving respect to others perspectives ,i was unable to attend a marriage of my frd that ended with his now wife not ready to listen my reasons and ended the frdship i had-just to quote a personal incident ,,,i had been guilty in one or two other instances --i regret them now but time never stops for anyone or gets rewinded to rectify a blunder,,,But this doesnt apply to our family members in most cases --Our dads scolding  us despite not listening our side of stories ,,our loved ones taking us wrong ,,,our best frds having issues with the same ,,all doesnt matter --therein lies the solution

                                               Try what may the difference between getting angered by a individuals perspective and listenin to them properly is just in "few extra minutes" -Even our Epics -Mahabharat and Ramayana depict that not listening to others might lead to bad things  --by no way im sayin listening to other perspectives is the solution to any sensitive stuff,,but its just essential to give ourselves those extra precious moments to judge whether we are right  to take a call in our own terms or settle to a one on one talk to end any potential rift

                                               " Its always worth to listen than to argue --arguement does no good --it ends whats good" ---In cases of our loved one we are always ready to spend those extra few minutes or give ourselves a opportunity to speak and clear any stuff ,,,that doesnt happen with people who are less important,,the number of people who are that important for us are  very less ,,but the people who are outside that circle is countless ,our patience will be tested no ends ,,but the only way to stop the ever nearing feeling of" hatred" towards sumone and  keep at bay our "inevitable ego "- is by giving ourselves an opportunity to learn the opposite parties perspective

                                               I took the word of the friend and for once felt the importance of listeningto others perspective is a art that has to be learnt for our society to move forward --Its us who form the society so its essentially our duty to make the changes need ,,,And learnin this art is a essential one alrite ,,im sure u will agree too,

See ya soon!!

"Frustrations" - sumthing that has to be conquered to realise our dreams "

          " No matter how frustrated we are ,god has not asked us to do  the impossible"--one of my most respected teachers told me this many years back,,i just got this in mind to write a blog about sumthin that i found no way of leaving out for time being now                

                            At a time of very tough self questioning and very examining situations of recent times made me say to a frd  "Buddy i feel lonely and lost ,,,i dont know where im heading ,,i seem in a heady mess --i see no reason to see life otherwise"--as i already said in one of my blogs im not a pessimist but a laidback optimist ,,but incident after incident ,,stress after stress ,,failure after failure ,,finally made me go to brink of sayin this to the person,,i was very frustrated with life --i was left to battle life on my own ,,,and i felt it was not wrong to say so 

                           That person ,,a very silent but strong charactered person who was sumone whom i never gave more respect than sumone known ,,,listened to me patiently ,,he knew he was not the first choice person i would goto  ,,he knew because i had no one really to talk and wanted to say few things to feel better i talked with him,,looked at me and said with a stern look,,look buddy i dont know much about you to help u,,but i can say only this" if u r lost dont worry u may still find alternative  route to your destination"

                           The chat got over ,,nothin much since i was not a revealer of my heart much to unknown persons --it just ended there---i was just thinkin incidents ---it was excruciating tough time --hard to say anything positive ,,because i knew certain things can never change ,it got me scared and worried ,,,after all its human nature how hard u try ,,,ur mind and heart are two different worlds which coexist in very few things in life ,pointing my situation to lack of support or communication from my close circle was merely a fact to divert the reality that i was not prepared to conquer a big demon which has started to acquire huge porpositions --a demon called "Frustration"

                          My frustration recently  grew very badly so much so i almost broke up with two of my best friends ,,before sanity returned ,,Right now i cannot see my destined direction,,,every direction seems to have a road block --every minute seems a hour ,,every frd seems pushing me into the door of darkness where there is no return ,,,everythin personal seems doomed--close to a deathbell ,,,but sumwhere deep inside there seems a desire burning --a desire to stand alone if fate made me so,,,,a desire to find a way to live with unfairness ,,a desire to accept the truth im one of the guys sitting on burning deck "but that desire seems to be a flickering light --in utter darkness-maybe it might be the only "Ray of Light " to find my alternative route to my destination and dreams  --JUST MAYBE"

                       If i leave my frustations to rule me --i will lose that little desire too --my only lifeline now seems that---i dont know whether i will find that desire but i know i have to conquer this seemingly endless frustrations to realise that ,,its not that simple ,,life offers you so many perspectives that you start to find the wrong reasons for refusing to accept truths 

                      No life is rosy from day one to the final chapter--there are many demons that we have to conquer to realise that there are many things one has to achieve --the dreams ,,the wishes ,the life we wish,the lifepartner we need to choose --everythin can be easily ruined by a few untamed demons --for me this is one thing i know tht sure is ,,im sumone who always believed tht life will even out sumwhere to be fair --its tht we need to be patient enough to see tht --easily said than done --but there are examples in the world ---in our family to prove it ,,,finally want to quote what sumone whom i respect even now whos is no more now said to me many years ago

       "Frustrations is never a option for me  because it has the power to change my opinion"(U were always right jaan --luv ya always )--I wish i had tht determination-but im sure i can conquer that in sumway --as i said life evens out sumwhere !!!!

Signing off with wishes that there are only conquerors in this world of such demons  ,,wink :)

To people like Swami Ramdev - Please Stop Cheap Publicity !!!

                                    *      To begin with until recently i knew nothing much abt Swami Ramdev --But day in day out newspapers ,,news channels as per the norm of our times now--kept flashing his name ,,saying hes going on fasting ,,hes taking on the government ,,hes against corruption,,hes against everythin !!!!i then went into his records googling information about him and reading articles written about him and criticism also agains him,,now i have nothing against him ,,but i quote some of the points seen in many articles and wikepedia too,,i have written below that my personal views ,u can judge upon how we are being made a fool for a individuals cheap publicity,,

                     

In February 2011, he gave the following steps for eradication of black money.^[17] :

1. Withdrawal and demonetizing of Rs. 500 and Rs. 1000 currency notes - so as to avoid misuse of unaccounted money and quick arrest of the entire locally circulated black money, bribing, and fake note traffic.
2. Agree to and accept the U.N. Convention against Corruption – pending since 2006.
3. Death penalty provision for the corrupt persons in Indian Penal Code.
4. Access, monitor and disrupt payment gateway servers enabling corrupt people to manage money in tax havens.
5. Scrutinizing accounts of people having credit/debit cards of foreign banks without any foreign work/relation.
6. Disabling operations of any bank from a tax haven country

                 Now any educated person or knowledgable person will know all the above points are close to height of  impossiblity or close to stupidity ,anyway to take  -he wants death penalty for corrupt person!!!--i have not seen a more brilliant statement --thank god he did not say he will preside over the penalty --if we do what he asks then Indian population will be left with just  20 percent or less of what it is,,Please think before what u r sayin sir ,,if u think tht was odd ,,wait for more ,,i will quote more below

Views on AIDS and sex education

In December 2006, Swami Ramdev claimed to cure diseases such as AIDS and cancer through yoga and ayurvedic drugs sold by his Divya Yoga Mandir Trust. He also went on to suggest that sex education should be replaced by yoga, which was the way to AIDS awareness, prevention and cure.^[59] "Sex education in schools need to be replaced by yoga education," Ramdev told reporters at the state health minister's residence. As a consequence of these public statements he was sent a cease and desist order by the Indian Union Health Ministry to avoid making such claims in the future, and the civil society threatened legal action.^[60] In response, Ramdev retracted his statement and said the claims were not directly his, but those of patients who practiced yoga

  ^{*-- Note how he has tried for another rubbish statement for cheap publicity--he wanted sex education to be replaced by yoga education and he retracted it later --r u seriously alright --do u know what u r talkin about --how can yoga be related to sex?and he has gone worse saying  its better ,,and then even in his retracted statement tries to make the point that he may not be saying but it is true ---ridiculous again for cheap publicity}

 

Claims of curing cancer

Other press reports quoted him as claiming to have a cure for cancer of the breast, liver, prostate, uterus, pituitary gland, brain tumors and leukemia by practicing the seven breathing exercises. In a residential camp held in Yog Gram, Haridwar during 19–25 June 2008, several cancer patients stepped forward to recount first-hand stories of their successful bouts with blood, prostate and breast cancer using Pranayam or breathing exercises.^[62] Swami Ramdev has claimed having documented proof of his successes, but has failed to provide any to the media or the Ministry of Health.

 *  Again he claims to be close to living god i suppose ---he has not seen one patient sufferin from cancer -I doubt whether he knows the meaning of the disease -i personally have seen people and seen doctors explaining whats what in cancer and this borders along the line of ridiculous stupidity ---again he has tried to turn heads only for cheap publicity 

 

Views on homosexuality

In July 2009, when Delhi High Court gave a verdict under decriminalizing homosexuality in Delhi, the swami called a press conference and said, "this verdict of the court will encourage criminality and sick mentality. This kind of thing is shameful and insulting to all of us. We are blindly following the West in everything. This is breaking the family system in India. Homosexuals are sick people, they should be sent to hospitals for treatment. If the government brings this law, I will take this matter to the streets of Delhi in protest."^[63]

 *   Height of nonsense i presume ---he says homosexuals are "sick people",,lesbians ,,homosexuals--are not sick people ,,its just tht they are people who have different   feelings --thats all ,,its not a disease to be treated ,, ,,"which hospital treats such people sir????The worst crap i have ever seen written or said --absolute wholly crap of a statement ,,anyone reading this will accept if not other statement but this surely --height of stupidity!!

*  Hes been linked with BJP for some time and no wonder seein the BJP cursin the governement  seeing this as a opportuniy to hit at government(im not Congree follower or Against BJP but just saying the reasoning for the support from BJP is expected) --I for one personally believe tht the govt acted rightly as such mad acts should not be persisted ,,and i dont for one percent believe that this person does things for betterment of society ,,it seems hes so keen on publicity --Cheap publicity 

* There is no firm solution as this "Swami "says and frankly the governement is not answerble to every individual--THE STARTING POINT TO END THIS CORRUPTION SHOULD COME FROM US,,THE PEOPLE,,THE SOCIETY ,,WE SHOULD SOW THE SEED-- OUR FOLLOWING GENERATIONS WILL FOLLOW --rather than following such mindless statements ,what we are trying to do is give in to these type of individuals cheap publicity --hes not sumone who needs to be worshipped or followed like Gandhiji--he has so many flaws in his statements --he doesnt deserve to be followed 

  

*Im one among the million common man ,,he has achieved to turn my attention by his statements (he went to say govt  cheated him --cmon sir give us a break !!!) we can follow what hes good at --hes a yoga guru thats all ,,ONE MAN CANT REVOLUTIONISE THIS SOCIETY-and surely not such type of man --its like the contribution to revolutionise should start from us not from such fake characters whose primary and seemingly pinpoint intention is to achieve fame and publicity in the cheapest way possible ,

* I do respect Anna hazare -hes a respected social activist unlike this person--he did many things for a village --he was in indian army --hes different --he had done sumthin for the nation ,,for changing  a normal village into a model one --he was awarded Padma Bhushan --he has credentials to make a point and has to be respected but  that too should not act as a example for such people with poor credentials on welfare of society --i mean the history of such a person shows how wavering his mind his and how instable his remarks have been  and he has done nothing to reform the society to be taken note off,,For me personally im not gona hear anythin about him --and give in to his need for cheap publicity ,,i hope people who read this also doesnt 

  

  Its our India --we know how to give our contribution to our nation and not give in to such poor cheap publicities made by such petty mind people

We can reform our society we dont need such people to fool us in the name of it (Im sorry if i hurt the followers of the person but this is my personal view entirely )

See ya soon

  

Friendship is sumthing to be cherished for life !!!

 Dedicated to my best frd on his birthday today and to all my friends to whom i owe bit of my life!
                                 
                            "All that glitters is not gold --an old sayin
                             Sumthin that never glitters but is worth more than anythin in the world -Frdship "
   Jun 5 -- midnight India time ---i was celebrating the birthday of my best frd with his wife and his brother --U might ask whats the big deal ?let me finish it ,,,hes livin in London --I live in Chennai--the birthday was celebrated through internet and i never felt i was viewin sumthin infact i felt i was being with them and enjoyin the occasion,after college life we never were together to even hangout ,,,we rarely met,,then he soon left abroad ,,its a absolute tribute to him to tolerate a damn borin,,sumtimes volatile ,,normal meticulous character like me for close to 15 years ,,the reality is thats how most friends are ,,,there is sumthing abt being a frd --its unique and incomparable to be a friend--because in my life that word has been  the most loyal companion to me .
                         The year 2000 is one i can never forget --the birth of a millenium -the world was celebratin wonderfully , all people wishing their friends everywhere in world ,,,that day i got 2 calls from my frds --one was from this frd of mine who is the inspiration for this blog --and another mutual frd between us ,,thats all ,,,i felt "thats all" man u have lived for 20 odd years and u have 2 ppl all this while --sucks man ,,was a broken guy that day ,,many new years have dawned yet that year remains one of the darkest hours of my life that haunted me for sumtime .
                     That all changed when my wonderful mom left me in complete distress and disarray of myself,,thats when my life changed ,,,i still remember how tht day of my mom passing i could not get into my house by the presence of so many college and school frds --it was tribute to how great a person my mom was --and to a part a shameful truth of mine exposed of how mean and selfish i had been all my life --there were people who were waiting for my acceptance of them as frds yet i never opened the doors ,,it needed a amazing ,incomparable ,,unforgettable and the purest form of soul leaving this world  to break open my doors and see the world

With school mates -happier times !

                Then after that period it was just flooded with friends ,,everyone i met i wanted to make them as friend , i got back to track by holding the hands offered by many friends after moms demise ,,so i thought here i will live happily ever after with such friends--Not to be so ---it became soon obvious that it is not possible to have forever innumeorus friends -- through the same door i opened long back the ppl went out for reasons unknowingly and some knowingly --but nowhere it hurt me for having the ones left knwingly or unknowingly as frds --guess thats the beauty of frdship ,,even when u break with sumfrd ,,or dont get to see them for 15-20 yrs or miss them unfortunately --u tend to rememeber the better moments than the rustic moments ,
              Numbers have dwindled to almost nothin --but the ones i have are genuine ,priceless ,,,few of them live in far distance for me not to see regualrly ,,few of them are online frds so i may never see them, but priceless because friendship gives u life when the world wants to take it away ,,friendship gives u happiness when the whole world deserts u ,"Frdship may not be everythin but it is in everythin u find happiness"

             I rememebr writing once sumwhere abt  a frd  in a mail  "you have been my best admirer and most silent critic that i feared "Every friend i have now are so ,,,not tht i have many but the few fit into tha bill perfectly ,,there might come a time soon or later when i might be left with noone or just one or two of them ,i hope it doesnt happen though ,,but even if that worse case i wont regret for one moment for choosin the few of them because the amazing moments i shared with them have freezed in my mind and will run whenever i rememeber because as i said it has been a magical journey where the magic has come from such wonderful people
           And to my best friend ---u have been a marvellous support ,,u gave me another family --another reason to enjoy this life ,,,i have not forgotten that year 2000 and i have not forgotten what a absolute gem u are ,,years might have rolled ,distance might have mutliplied ,,ur reponsibilities might have increased ,,but the frdship we shared then and now and hopefully in future will never change ,,Happy bday buddy ,,and thanks for being a wonderful friend ,

Bday boy in midde with Nirmal and Deepa Ravi

         Probably i would take endless pages to write about my mom and family ,,after that if there is sumthin that i give as much importance and utmost respect it is to this word frdship without which i would have been history long time back ,its been tht significant ,,that important  with which i  have survived some torrid times,
          As long as i live this world i will keep relishing and keep smiling when i hear this word every time ,,and long after im gone i know this word will keep on swirling in this world till there is life in this world --the magical journey for everyone will go on forever --cherish ur friends for the moments and dont banish them for misunderstandings ,,life is too short to keep regrettin,,,
Cheers
See ya soon