"A Day To Remember -Forever !!! "

**** This blog is in no way a advertisment --I just wanted to bring to light the sincerity and struggles of a 92 year old elderly woman who takes care of orphanage home for young and old people --Special thanks to " Smt. Thuraimuga Lakshmi Ammal "whom i happened to meet on New year in her orphanage home on Jan 1 ,2013****
             
                          I have never felt as light as i did on 31st Dec 2012 and never have i felt so happy as i did on this New Year Day--We a small group of friends (Deepa Rajendran ,Priya Raju,Subhasaravan and me )all decided to have few more friends albeit a lot younger group as invites to our New Year Bash --The place we decided to go was a orphanage home "UTHAVUM ULLAM" in West Tambaram ,Chennai--We got ourselves lost few times before eventually getting to the place by noon --The moment we entered we all entered with pin drop silence --we thought no one was there --but suddenly to our surprise the moment we entered there was sound of "Happy New Year "shouts for so many kids,,nearly 100 of them  --(some shouting "Happy Birthday "lolz),,it was pleasant surprise ---and soon we happened to see the owner of the home "Lakshmi Ammal "--she was so concerned about safety of kids -she had a stick in hand was so strict in taking care of them as her own kids --We had bought some cakes and chocolates on seeing which madam got angry

Lakshmi Ammal

 

 

                        "WHY DONT U BRING BREAD ,JAM AND MILK ,SOME BANGLES , HAIR CLIPS ,--IT WOULD HELP THESE KIDS SHE SAID WITH  A  BIT OF ANGRY DISAPPOINTED TONE --She had a valid point --chocolates and cream cakes may affect some kids --which may lead to them having more medical expense (this was informed by her later )--maybe there were lot of things we forget in moment of tryin to do what we like -- Its important to interact with them and get to know what they wanted and what maybe of more use to them .There was something about the talk of elderly woman --it was like teaching from  experience of a long life--she explained some important lessons if you decide to goto orphange homes --and we noticed some other things in that  properly arranged orphange home
           ** Before u go to orphanage home ---discuss with them what is essentially needed
           ** U can deposit even Rs 100 /month in any girl or boy  u wish to help by coordinating with orphanage which in future will help them in studies as they grow
           ** If u decide to go once --make sure it isnt the last time u visit there because it will be a shame to make those souls as a source for ur happiness for a day ---they need ur money bit --they need ur presence bit --but more than that its important u dont make them feel as orphans by never visiting them again ..
           ** Watch them carefully how they say their prayers before having food --how innocently they share their happiness to us strangers --how they clean the place after having the food --how they say "Thanks"to sum help u do every single time --the place where we were there was not even a fan for 100 kids sitting under a shed --yet they were seated in a proper manner not complaining one bit for the entire time we were there -"Patience"--a important lesson that we often forget at crucial moments

Luvely Aishwarya

          ** Every one would have one talent or other --and each time they would not hesitate to show that to u --some might be ready to dance --some ready to sing --some doing mimicry--There was this one special girl called "Aishwarya" who was so sparkling in the whole group of innocent kids --danced superbly --smiled innocently --and took our hearts in a minute --the feeling of innocent happiness she gave mesmerised us to endless satisfaction that the year began in peaceful and happy manner that we rarely had encountered ,,me personally it has been almost a decade i felt this light .
         ** Lakshmi Ammal is 92 years old --her heart still as fresh as morning daisy ,,her wants are all for the kids to be better --for the old age people to have a peaceful life --it was all the more remarkable the lady was so dedicated despite the failings of her age --her eyes showed that the fight for goodness of people under her care has never dimmed one little bit ---no electricity --not enuf food --a broken side wall ---and more and more kids coming for care --nothing seemed to make her think even one bit negative about she being in the final  twilight of her life --it was sterling stuff --inspiring that age is never a barrier --All these are sincere efforts --and if u wish to contribute in any way u want  i have given below the details regarding the Home --to my heart it was done with utmost sincerity and selfless care .So if u decide to do sumthing plz go ahead without hesitation .
            It was a wonderful day --one that will stay with me for years -that innocent smiles --the countless handshakes--the seemingly endless new year wishes --the innocent happy birthday wishes --those sparkling eyes --they shared their happiness -the most costliest gift anyone can give u ---to say i accepted that is a gross understatement --I saw my pals and there was same happiness in their eyes ---there is happiness spread in the world --have to find it to feel it !!!

         

Maybe The Best Year For All Of Us ,,,,,Happy New Year !!!

           " What's in store who knows but lets be  game on for the best new year yet in our  lives"
           
             "   How many things have happened i "Wonder"
                          Endless points to "Ponder" !!
                Its time to have a heart that is happy to "Give"
                                Mistakes to "Forgive" !!
                Its time to smile more often than "Not"
                                Tears a forgotten "Lot" !!
                Its time to play the name of a game called "Happiness"
                         To overcome a opponent called "Sadness"
                Its time to forget what happened because past is "History"
                         Future -a place of happy "Mystery"
                Its time to wish for optimistic Mornings
                         To never end in pessimistic Evenings"
              
                                              Three near missed accidents--Countless heartbreaks --lonely nights -scary truths -terrible fears intermitted by some sizzling happy moments -sterling motivations -blossoming love - heart warming friendship --and few new beautiful little angels --2012 has had everything --to judge it as good or bad is the last thing i wanna do--All i hope is for wonderful 2013
Keep hoping --Start believing - 2013 maybe the best year we have had --A big Cheers and a even big thumbs up --Welcome 2013 !!!!!
                        
           

                        
                       

                    

"Everyone Dies Not Everyone Lives --Ur Life Will Never Be Forgotten -RIP Brave Girl" !!

       "Why is our India called as Mother India"???--I remember asking this to my teacher at a very young age --and ever since i have remembered the reply --

          "For Indians, their motherland represents more than a piece of land. They see India with the love, respect and awe of a real mother. In many ways, their sentiments are not ill-founded."

           I think u must have seen the picture of Mother India in your younger days --I have always had goosebumps while i was being taught of this or even now while i hear about my country  i have felt the pride every single time .But when I saw the picture of the brave girl who was disintegrated by barbaric men I felt hell a lot of sadness in my heart,then the news of more women tortured in various part of India felt terrible by every passing  minute.
            The truth is if we all consider our country as our mother --then we are all her sons and daughters ---On seeing the endless news of girls from infants to teens tortured --abused and in some cases murdered it leaves a bad feeling that things are going from bad to worse ,
                          " As another wonderful innocent life is cruelly nipped at bud ---a life so cruelly ended at 23 --in the early hours of today --Mother India keeps losing its daughters --- To say everything will be alright in few days is like cheating ourselves --because unless there is sumthing done to stop such actions --unless we believe that we have a active role in trying to stop this sort of incidents --unless there is stronger law to make such hearltess men think twice --things wont change --tommorow it might be someone from people u know,i know  --we need not be superman all we need is to be true to our heart and believe we have a role in reforming this situation .
                            " When the girl passed away another daughter of Mother India has been disintegrated --another flower nipped in bud --it feels like a  book having cruelly its pages torn before unravelling its beauty to the world -- I dont know why but i got the feeling "My Mother India is weeping helplessly "daughter after daughter --loss after loss --yet nothing has been done and probably nothing will be done - Is it not our duty to make this place --this wonderful country a safer place for women of this generation and future generations?
                          
To that wonderful sister of mines who passed away today ;
                                        Rest In Peace Sister --- Today this whole Nation mourns ur wonderful  journey of yours cut short by cruel human beings  --Your bravery will be talked for yrs ---Your death has awaken so many of us --This is blackest day i have known in my life for sumone i never knew --i feel my responsibility increased --for the first time i had tears for sumone i never knew ---Your life will not be forgotten --Maybe today this country is not secured for women --its like they r ready prey for remorseless men--but there is no denying the fact that time will change this fact  --maybe just maybe your life will be the one that revolutionised a sagging country which has slowly watched helplessly at atrocious crimes --maybe its time this country awoke to this increasing number of heartless activities --You are safe at where you are now -- there is noone to torture you--there is noone to helplessly question you even after you were torn to pieces(she had given statements twice to magistrate --TWICE despite her condition)--For all your suffering and heartache --your soul deserves to rest in peace --even if u have lived there is no gurantee you might have seen anything different in this endless patient country of mines --it sucks to say so but that is the truth .
                                
                                  All i wish is such incidents never to occur --I wish the future generations is not shown our "Mother India "--and explained as the country which was insecured for women --as a proud Indian --As a son of this wonderful nation --i wish never to be there to  see or hear the same  one  day --it appears though the day is fast approaching :( --Maybe its time my country awoke --because if at all there was a need to stand up against dangerous crimes  it is right now ---after all if a girl cant go out fearlessly in our country what's the use in priding ourselves that we got freedom when women are confined helplessly to cruel activities.I have no words to describe the pain my heart feels now .I hope things change and i feel my hope is seen as  a must to save this country's pride
                  
          "RIP Brave girl --Everyone dies --not everyone lives --ur life will never be forgotten "

 

வலிக்கிறது மனம் வழிகிறது கண்ணீர் !!!!

                                                        
2 வயது நிரம்பாத பச்சிளம் குழந்தையை சிதைத்து நிகழ்வை படித்து மனம் ஆறாமல் !!!

உனக்கு உயிர் கொடுத்தவள் ஒரு பெண் தான்

உனக்கு அன்பையும் பண்பையும் சொல்லி கொடுத்தவளும் அவளே

உனக்கு அன்பை பரிமாற ஆண்டவன் கொடுக்கும் சொந்தங்கள் பல பெண் வர்க்கமே

உனக்கு படிப்பு சொல்லி கொடுத்த ஆசிரியை பெண் வர்க்கமே

உனக்கு பிறப்பின் அர்த்தத்தையும் உணர்த்துபவளும் ஒரு பெண்ணே

மனதையும் சரி உன் ஸ்பரிச தீண்டுதலும் சரி ஒரு பெண்ணிடமே இருக்க வேண்டும்

மனம் நாடி எங்கு சென்றாலும் அதை தொடர்ந்து நாமும் செல்லகூடாது என

விளக்கவே உனக்கு ஆறு அறிவும் ,மனசாட்சிஉடனும் நீ படைக்கபட்டாய்

மனிதர் நீ மாந்தர் எப்போது ஆனாய் -2 வயது குழந்தையை சிதைத்து இன்பம் காணும் நீ

உன்னை ஈன்று எடுத்தவள் அதே பெண்ண என்பதை நீ எப்படி மறந்தாய்
செய்தி படித்த மனம் வலிக்கிறது கண்ணீர் வடிகிறது

பெண்இனமே மன்னித்து விடு -இதுபோல் அட்டுழியங்கள் முடிவு பெரும் காலம் வெகு தொலைவில் இல்லை !!!!

 

Respect Women !!!

"A Woman is the epitome of every emotion u have seen and yet to see
  Right from the beginning she learns to hide her pain
  Hides her secrets --buries her wishes --confides her joy in silence
  Be it as a caring mother ,a loving wife ,a naughty sister ,a adorable daughter,a supportive frd
  She Forgets her requisites and adapts to social needs
  She Suffers lot why give her more !!!
  Show me a man who never had a woman in his life for his beginning was
  Always from a woman --To hurt any woman is like disgracing your Mother
  If you are prepared to do something --the least you can do is respect them !!
 
 http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-12-18/india/35889539_1_delhi-gang-private-bus-bus-driver
                                 It has to be one of the blackest days in the history of our Nation ---When Men became animals ---when a innocent girl was torn by heartless men who showed by their barbarious activities that they are not fit enuf to be even called as human beings --Could not read the story more than once --For once i felt ashamed being in the same gender as these heartless people were from --To injure a unarmed girl so badly --to sexually assault her like animals --what sort of human being would do that --Disgraceful and disgusting act that questions the very existence of humanity in this world -Even worse had followed the incident -One hour - the girl lying in the road with noone to take notice is the most pathetic stage we are moving into --We are so concerned about the good of our own self --we are slowly forgetting the importance of a life --the care we need to show to our fellow being who is suffering .

                                  It feels so hard to watch the convicts moving around without being punished immediately -- for the heart wishes for capital punishment immediately as justice --but we live in a place where a terrorist who killed so many lives moved around courts and lived for more than 4 years despite having every evidence of his inhuman crime --so it is hard to expect any drastic action for any crime --the best thing we can do is hope we never live to hear something so sad like this in our lives --but that is not a good enuf reason to stand still and watch --yes we are not shakthimans or superheroes but we can do our basics right -Some things we can do like 
                         **** We can teach our kids how to respect a woman -
                         **** Try to understand and implement the fact that  the role of woman is equally important as a male in this society
                         **** Make sure Rapists have capital punishment immediately if proved guilty
                         **** Most importantly allow woman to choose their path and lives if possible
(I still live in a society where a girl choosing a job or guy seems as the  worst disgrace imaginable to a family)
                              
                               I write this with utter humiliation and heartfelt sadness
 

      "If you ought to torture a fellow human being without any remorse

        Then you are not fit enough to be called a human being

         Neither are you just enough to live in this world --But I

         Live in a country which just has too much patience even for the  worst offenders

         Wake up for once country these are our fellow human beings disintegrated!!!

              
             I do sincerly hope that the guilty are punished in such a way this sort of crime never happens --The question again is Will We See A Bold Step Being Taken ?
 
Feel Like Hanging my head as would  thousands  of us in Shame !!!My Sincere wishes to that innocent girl to recover from all this pain soon,May God help her in recovering soon and have a happy life ahead .
                      

    

Is This Right ????

**** It felt really disheartening from a individual point of view to see this advertisement with regard to sad story in a Leading English Newspaper ---Im neither a critic nor a supporter of a particular political party--im just one among million men --Just a Common man****

My sincere questions regarding this advertisment in the front page of Leading English newspaper on 16.12.2012

* Was there any absolute need to advertise such a sensitive incident where the trauma of the family can never be understood by outsiders ---Is it not important to leave them their space after all that had transpired ?

* Is this any sort of awareness that was being created?If So what sort of awareness was the daily trying to create (It seemed the way they had specifed about all mobile users accessibility it does seem it was nowhere near anything as such )

* The purpose of this advertisement doesnt seem to comply doing anything to the incident that occured --Why not a article briefing about how ppl could handle this situation ?

* Why was not any scathing attack on the radio station ppl whose careless fun ended a innocent life( it was revealed that the person was not at all exposed to any such media in her whole life )-Is it wrong to pinpoint what could have been better ?

* Is there no value for life ? Does everything need to be in business mind?Is this the maximum media can show concern to departed soul in a sensitive incident ?

* If it was done on a sincere note why could not it be announced as it was of free of cost message,or something like that  --all this  conveys is only a silly marketing purpose that at any cost could have been avoided .
 
On A Similar note --

* IN CONNECTICUT THERE HAS BEEN TERRIBLE INCIDENT WHERE A MAD GUNMAN HAS SHOT SO MANY CHILDREN AND ADULTS IN AN ABSOLUTE BARBARIC INCIDENT -

----What is the guarantee that the icident would not be similarly advertised- adveritsing for application for people to download and "watch exclusive videos of people grieving in that incident too???"--Seriously are we   wantedly ignorant  that much to download a application to participate in the grievings of our fellow being which seems absurd for all that we are worth for - Hell No --"We wish to be part of grievances from our soul and heart -Period !!!

This is not a global sporting incident neither a heroic battle won that needs a download application to be viewed over and over again --And despite every difference we have for each other one thing that unites us -is our "Solidity Of Mankind-Our Love for Humanity is same" --even one minute of silence in our hearts is appreciable enough --because that is done in the truest way possible --our sincere wishes are all the grieved family needs --I just remember the "Twin Tower "incident --the "Mumbai Terror "incident --we all offered our prayers in our little ways --THAT IS THE BEST WE COULD GIVE TO SOULS WE NEVER KNEW --AND CERTAINLY NEVER TO DOWNLOAD A APPLICATION  TO PARTICIPATE IN A GRIEVANCE .

I still feel so bad seeing that --maybe there should be restriction for marketing --not everything needs marketing --and cerainly not everything needs needless advertisment -and that too on the front page --All i hope is better sense prevails in sensitive iissues .

(Everything said has been said entirely on my humble perspective -not meant to hurt anyone if so it is regretted )

FIRST SIGNS ,,,,,,,!!!!

    "Signs are the best indication of where u r headed ,,,,,,,"
                                          
   The first signs of a worried father --is  when he asks us "Can you?"--for the first time instead of his usual "You Can"!!!

   The first signs of a best friend  --- is when among hundred friends he/she listens to your silence

    The first signs of true love      ---  is when someone is so inquisite and excited  abt wanting to see your childhood pictures

   The first signs of maturity       ---   is when you accept ur first loss -- acknowledged by a smile masking flowing tears.

   The first signs of  loneliness    ---   is when you feel your silence as your best companion

   The first signs of  soulmate      ---   is when someone gives u support no matter what --gives u hope against hope --in my case --unseen too but magical nevertheless

   The first signs of satisfaction   ---   is when your mother touches your head and just smiles in acknowledgement of something she wished that was accomplished by you.

   The first signs  of  friends for life --is when u find sumone trustworthy enough  to say intimate truths and patient enough to accept our silly jokes !!!

   The First Signs of motivation  --   is when u decide to prove people who keep saying "You cant" --again and again ---wrong.

   The First Signs of Frustration  ---  is when you fight with people you love most not realising it is not the right thing to do

   The First Sign of  Sucess         ---  is when repeated failures dont scare you anymore

  The First signs of  Desperation ---  is when you start listening to meaningless advices from strangers

  The First Signs of Happiness    ---  is when tears roll out uncalled upon

  The First Signs of Regret          ---  is when u accept u were wrong on sumthing u did hoping it was right .
                                                 
                                                       Human life is a mixture of everything --as they say a box of chocolates--but you definitely know where you are heading if you folllow the signs of nature --there is nothing in this world as mysterical as life itself!!!
      

 
  

"There Is A Dawn To Be Seen Despite Any Pain"

         *****   "Tears try to rush out --heart pleads for the same -the mind remembers one great incident by one great soul" *****
                     
                             There are days in ur life when u wish the day never dawned or u had skipped that day ---Some days u feel life is the most cruel villain in this world --Speechless by couple of rude incidents --i gazed up the stars standing motionless -"I have had days when i have had pains as do millions of us ---but there are ridiculous days like these when it feels as if the pains has escalated beyond the skies --the exact time u wanna say "Gosh it is unbearable pain "-How do i handle this --My first tear tried to escape from my eyes --I have no shoulder to cry --no soulmate to behold me --i felt as though im carryin another me ---it felt that heavy ---and as i was about to burst out loud i remembered one incident --one magical incident which made me think there is no unbearable pain in this world
       
The Incident which showed what it means to never give up ---
                             One cold November morning ,2002--a wonderful soul suffering from endless physical pains --pains which no painkiller could kill --the tears of that excess pain --countless injections piercing that tender body --drips runnings all along --with no energy in the body --voice breaking up --with a young innocent son who was just 20 then knowing nothing about this cruel world --who knew nothing about the concealed pain of that wonderful soul - a son who innocently believed soon that great lady will walk him to his house hugging him --that great lady knowing it was her last few days even with that real unbearable pain which the doctors later confirmed as really no painkiller could kill --woke up a many nights to help that son sleep peacefully by sayin "Im fine"every hour to a slightly scared son --a great lady who concealed that unbearable pain cruelly inflicted by fate to ask that son her usual questions "Had Food Son","Have a blanket and sleep "--that son known to have a allergy to hospitals was comforted by that great mother despite her  approaching inevitable cruel end and unbearable pain -- she made a promise  to her son despite everything that fate offered to her  "Listen --I know u r scared --Just remember this mom will do everything she could do to walk with u back to our house -I Promise --saying she held his hand and said  "Sleep I Will watch u till u sleep "--The son woke up in the morning her mom watching him one whole night with many painkillers failing to do the job --eyes swollen of tears of pain--Her tired body was aching to bits but not for one minute she showed that pain --nothing stopped her from showing her endless love --nothing stopped her willpower to withstand a whole night of pain to see her son sleep in comfort .

                                  She fell unconsious the next day and never woke up to see the world -she never walked back with her son to their house -fate had won -death hung its head in shame for claiming such a wonderful soul so early --but the son never felt the real magnamity of her pain till she was gone --the truth was later revealed how much she had concealed those unbearable pain with sheer willpower and a neversaydie attitude to life ,For her

                         "There was  always a dawn that no pain will prevent her from seeing "

                                  I want this night to end in a hurry --this moment to be erased in a jiffy --the truth i heard to be forgotten as if i never heard ---painful alright --but to categorise that "Unbearable"--felt impossible -once i remembered that great soul's act of courage --my second tear went back never to come back again ---Maybe her point was not only to show her willpower it might have been to instill belief in her son that
                        "There is a dawn to be seen despite any pain "

  With Your Evergreen Memories Mom --This life of mines will roll on despite anything       
                  
 Period !!!!

 

One Hundred Centuries--thousands to go :)

IS THE VALUE IN THE GIFT, OR IN THE THOUGHT—I say, neither, the real value lies in how it’s accepted and how it’s treated.

            Today if I look back and see what I have achieved in my life—my answer will be “A bunch of great souls”. And I am extremely lucky to have them in my life.

            You know it well you are one of them and will remain always. Thank you for being my back always and being the only shoulder to cry upon every time I needed to :)…. boys do cry :(

                This might be a gift for you for a day but it has been a sequence of gifts to me when I read a new blog now and then, which gives me motivation and strength to move on and specially to recognize how important people are in our lives. At times when I am down, I come back here to read few selective masterpieces to acquire some strength and motivation.

                I loved my mom but not as much as I do now.

                                    Thank you Brother.

Now the truth…

Long back I used to get a lot of mails, and I was tortured alone, so I thought “why only me”, let everyone suffer J.. Sorry guys and gals J

                                    Carry on Brother..

Its Alright To Be Imperfect!!!

"Mistakes should be taken as a footprints on the shore of a sea --footprints are untraceable  once a wave hits the shore -so should be a mistake !!! "

                                         That is how precisely it is --you can blame it on society -surrounding--living environment --caste differences --or watever --but it is a undeniable truth--i have wondered what theory made us implement this subject --but this has been in many cases the core issue between lots of people --i always saw this as a hazy picture as i myself was involved in quite few peculiar instances in life where the first mistake was seen as a unacceptable flaw--sumtimes ending in tears --sometimes in anger -sometimes in pain --the last such loss made me realise that " A Mistake is the easiest thing to identify and hardest thing to forgive "-that night made me just wonder "Why do people expect us to be flawless and perfect always --Is there not a way to accept imperfections --Maybe a case to accept flaws are part of relationships and frdships "
                                         "Being perfect has its flaws "- to form any frdship and relationships it takes years--so many sacrifices --built on the base of strong hope and built on stronger belief --it should be the unbreakable sky scraper but it ends up being a stacked pack of cards ready to be shattered by one piece of stone ,how odd that the exact last part overhauls the entire beauty of a relationship or frdship .
                                          Expectations are never wrong --but after certain point of time expectations has to be suppressed by understanding --that is where things go wrong --a wife/girlfrd expects a husband/boyfrd to love her as he did when he saw her first time --she never understands that husband or a boyfrd after a stage feels comfortable of being reserved ,less expressive beleiving he would be understood --parents keep expecting hell a lot from their kids -sumtimes not realising it is  beyond realms of possibility --even best friends miss out on the simple fact

       " To expect is nature but that is not gud enough reason for failing to understand "
                                
                                          Its better to accept imperfections --its better to stick together with people whom u have felt heaven --with whom you have smiled without reason--with whom you have shared happiness --the only way love can last a entire life is to accept the other person is bound to have flaws that will prop up as time goes ---Inevitable ? --yes --Unacceptable? --No.
                                         A relationship is built on hell a lot of compromises --a frdship is built on hell a lot of hopes ---the joy of living a life in earnest hope and belief lies in patience --and very importantly the ability to accept imperfections -- To be anything otherwise is like 
       " Trying to catch water using a fish net in a pond ---u will always end up with only fishes
        We are bound to be flawed --everyone of us --the only way u can find a way is to
        Accept your loved one's imperfections "
                                      
                                           

                                           
" I have never been flawless --just that it took me years to accept i can never be one --so is the world"
                                        
  
                                    
                                                  
                                         

If This Is The Best We Could Offer Then-A Bleak Future Awaits!!!

                         " If the freedom of speech is taken away then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter. -------George Washington --America's First President "
                           
           “I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.”-- Mahatma Gandhiji
 
                                For the first time in my life i had doubts of writing anything --Writing has been my biggest passion --I fell in love with words when i knew nothing --My lifes most magical moments have been  interwinged by words --i connected with people so far away only through these wonderful words --My soulmate ,,My best frds --I have found a brother worthy of my  dream of this only --all unseen but connected to my heart through words --thats everything what i wished  --But today i feel its not the best thing to have ---I feel more and more insecure by the very feeling there is hardly anything called as freedom of expression in the largest democratic country in the world i live -- My India ,,Atleast events suggest it has been snowballing slowly so that we are in position to set a bad precedent to our next generations .
                                       I wanna make it clear im not arguing for any side of the incident that transpired but my biggest concern is the dwindling freedom of expression in our country the following incident is not just the first case in recent memory ,Just the facts and my humble perspectives as a individual
              http://www.indianexpress.com/news/2-women-arrested-in-maharashtra-for-fb-post-on-shutdown-for-thackeray/1033451/0 
                                    Consider this happening with the following link that describes exactly what i mean

 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Freedom_of_expression_in_India . 

                                     If someone for example exhibits a derogatory expression on someone he /she dislikes then it can be considered as something to be condemned/countered  but to consider it as a crime/a arrestable offense --cmon then you are literally questioning the mere existence of democracy in our country --Yes people who express their views on public issues need to be responsible enough --to understand that to express doesnt mean you have liberty to write anything you want - but to be frank ---a 21 year old has to be given some leeway that she is a 21 yr old at the end of day -An open apology was not enough -To punish her to this extent seems bordering on the extreme level of atrociousness,,Grossly unfair to her future --Imagine how her day to day life would have changed after this ---She would be in limelight for all wrong reasons --Whatever the issue is to arrest someone who has merely liked a status message borders on scratching of any democratic values that every Indian is proud to be part of living in this magical part of world where emotional values are given the prime importance .
 
                                  Few months back this happened based on a "tweet"
                   http://defenceforumindia.com/forum/politics-society/43349-man-arrested-tweeting-against-p-chidambarams-son.html

                                 Arresting someone based on a tweet ---gimme a break i thought that time .The case was almost similar to this one  .
                                "   My point is not to argue of what has happend  for it is impossible to know the real facts to give a concrete answer for the incidents --nor can it be the base for any assumption --my worry is the future that seems bleak of all these incidents --What happens to the lot of  aspiring writers ,excited tweeters ,wishful facebookers in this country---What is the message that is being sent to them ??--
         *  That he/she cannot put ur views just because someone may not like it and you might have to suffer the wrath of them ?
         *  That he/she is always endangered by the prosperity of being under scrutiny thereby losing the freedom of speech and expression they have ?
         *   That even a apology sometimes may not be enough for a innocent mistake ?
         *   That he/she will always have to believe there is just one perspective and one perspective only of a sensitive issue that they have to comply no matter what ?
                                 How many endless questions they will have  as such --and it is only matter of time that people will be constrained from voicing  their opinion just because a few people might not like them --constrained in every form of expression just because the opinion served out is not the one they wanted !!!
 
                                "You take what u want and leave what u dont "
                                             
                                  My sincere feeling is there are thousands of  aspiring writers in this world --there are thousands of  orators in this world --people do this for passion mostly --some end up taking it as professional jobs ---to view a opinion as a irrevocable crime is not a end to any problem --after all you cant prove everything right or wrong as per your wish --the presence of right and wrong is actually a reflection of perspectives --Ignoring is the best answer to something you dont like --to show the whipping powers you might possess to quash a individual 's view is being grossly unfair
 
                                  What is life if everyone has the same opinion ?--If u cant appreciate criticism then u cant be a critic either --All you do is just become a nodding doll whose only pupose is to just nod the head for everything so as to satisfy everyone concerned --Imagine such a world --it would be the worst place you wish never to be ---What we do now is the seed for our future --and if it goes on like this then our future will be like people born with mute buttons in their mind ---Freedom of speech and expression is very important for developing a individual -therby being part of a developing society --To stop tthe individual is like stopping the development of a society .
 
                                  Still believe there are  far too many educated people and calm headed leaders all over our country to prevent such a state in the foreseeable future --Anything less might hinder our growth --Because as they say
 
                                   "If this is the best we can offer then it is just not good enough "
 

                                   (  *** Written entirely based  on my own thoughts --no way meant to hurt anyone - if so it is highly regretted --freedom of expression was what made me choose to exhibit happily my passion of writing --all i wish is for it to exist for all the right reasons --The torch has to be passed to next generations with more hope and belief -the purpose of this blog is only that ***)
 
               
 
 

Just Leave It To Your Heart,,,Always

  Dedicated To one of my best mates and good buddy Sembian Pugalmani  who triumphed  after a emotional week of  sorts ,,,,

  " I said nothing ---My buddy u said nothing too
    I wanted to tell u loud --ur kid will be alright --but i didn't
    U silently said " Thank you "with ur eyes
    If anybody deserves some good luck for being a gud person all life  it was u i thought
    Fourteen years since u first called me "friend "
    To be your best mate on ur marriage day was a priveleage
    All those fourteen years i never knew u could cry
    When u did as a emotional father of a beautiful angel i felt the wetness of your unseen tear
     And all along i thought i have become emotionless and lonely
      Little did i realise that even with one friend for life u are never alone --forever !!
      Today i heard u smile a relieved person having won a emotional battle
      I am relieved too --Maybe what the heart feels a mind can never understand !!
       
     "Everytime i question myself why i should not be pessimistic in life
       I find a gud human being -giving me a  better reason to never be so
       Maybe its true --should just leave it to my heart,,,,,,,,always .!!!!

Cheers !!
     

"Life Is A Timed Masterpeice "

One of the toughest long days in memory  ,
            
          " I just dont wanna desert my search for love --i just want to desert loneliness "

                                    " Diwali -- Festival of lights "--A day perceived to bring more light to our lives but oddly today seemed the most unhappening diwali of my life --Is it a irony or just a process of events in life that were always meant to happen is debatable --but undeniable is what it is.Strangely Diwali has the biggest impact in my life ---it used to be the biggest occasion day in my life for 20 years --the dresses -the crackers --the sweets --the guests --the friends visit --the new movies on televison --the fun of the day always made me look to this day every year
                                       Diwali became a marked day when my wonderful mom passed away exactly on diwali day --It is almost a decade i have celebrated the day with that same vigour --maybe the day has left with me too much significance to underplay it .Where once it was marked by smiles all around --by friendly banters by innumeorus friends --by sharing of sweets in the wee hours cracking senseless jokes with buddies --by innocuous late night calls with online friends --the day gave me endless happiness --some moments frozen for eternity --that i can feel the moments as fresh as a daisy --so beautiful it was --but reality sometimes hits you hard when u least expect it too --In matter of years the same day that gave endless joy just seemed the toughest  day . imaginable

       " From the beginning i thought i was destined to search love but
           seems loneliness was destined to find me before that --always !!!"                            
                                      How time has changed --perhaps life is  a timed masterpiece - a pre written piece of our future that  can never be predicted --the best hope is to find solace in our belief -never change them for anything at anytime even if it comes at a deadly price--because as i said we can never guess the next happening -- Call it irony --Call it coincidence of fate --defeat to inevitability --price for trying to find my solace in "Love "--this day seemed loneliness had won the battle ---almost ---because there is a tommorow to be seen and a life to be lived !!!!
                               

                        
                        
             

Ten Years Without U -But With Ur Memories And Tht Unforgettable Angelic Smile !!!

                                  "Your failures are my mistakes as a mother "

                                         Dedicated to the soul whom i owe everything in my life --to the one person who showed me the meaning of love -To My Mom -On her 10th death anniversary --04-11-2012

From my memories  :
 It was year 1983--Around-- Trichy "SEVAA SANGAM SCHOOL "
                             My first entry into school doesnt bring me any memories other than one person --Mom --Her Name "Sittal Achi "---As it is the ignorance of childhood --i used to call her "Sittu"--i remember how she used to walk me to the class with bag in hand -pleading me to go --and i remem crying like anything --sitting in class --only one thing comforted me --i could see her standing in the gate from my class(my class was first one to gate i think )--that happend for the time i studied over there --i dont remem the teachers ,the students or anyone else except her .
                            Studyin in one of the premier schools ought  to have changed her mindset --but it did not --she was tireless --the class timing was changed and i was one of three kids --she had to take care of all three of us -she did it for all of us with that same tirelessness--She was my first tuition teacher --she learnt english so that she could help all three of us since we studied in Anglo Indian Schools where english was given prime importance ---She learnt English every year along with us --despite not having any degree all she had was fierce determination--Nothing was beyond her --she believed--and if not for her i would have stuck sumwhere in seeing studies as a improbable reach due to the high standards of education demanded by the school i was educated -i was above average student only of her efforts -she underlined education is a must and dedication an even important must .
                         Most importantly all this was done with her waiting almost 4 hours at the gate hoping to see my face --never tired ---then helping us in studies --then washing the clothes bare hands --remember countless occasions making her waske up and cook up at early morning --again never tired just a smile ---how much can a mother love not getting angry is amazing --my pain was shared by her without me asking ---and i never asked her how shes been doing it when she was alive --doing things for her children made her forget she had her own life --her own likings ---her own wishes --everything had seemingly taken a back seat -i look back at that now and i cannot but admire what a mother i have had .
                         Failures never perturbed her belief ,it made her responsible for them instead,,it just added to her determination-despite all her efforts --the expected results from me never happened mainly and wholesomely due to my careless attitude of young years --but it made less impact on her remarking once when i broke down after failure after failure asking my mom
                       "Can i quit studies--i have become a abject failure " See "Your failures are my mistakes as mother too "--That stayed with me for long time --not that it shook of my slumberness -but it was something could be said only by mothers -this world has seen countless changes --internet revelations --modernisation has become an inevitable acceptability --like or not --but one thing that has been stable --a seemingly constant among extraordinary revelations -a universally accepted credibility to mankind --"Motherhood "--the first ecstacy--the first happiness--the first medal--even the first failure when occured the first person we like to express to is our mothers .
                        " I Expect nothig--i will be ur side in everything "--that seems the motto of mothers --the single relationship that expects nothing but gives everything --And the beauty of my life was i got even more --Mom --It is 10 years since u left me but it seems lot more --- i feel ur fragrance even as i write this --i hugged and held ur hands tight for years --the rough  tireless hands still stay in my mind --and that magnificent smile -the smile which kept and keeps me fighting during trouble some times --the never ending attendances to road side shops to fill my stomach not my heart --everything shows what i ought not have missed --not atleast for few more years --but i do realise that u were tireless all ur life --tireless to do ur duties ---tireless to make ur kids realise the importance of leading a good life by living one --when the moment eventually arrived --when fate cruelly came out with arms open to get u back --when death stood for a minute in shame for coming to take ur life at that young age --i saw that ur last tear from ur eyes showed maybe u have been tired of endless sacrifices --maybe god was feeling u were sacrificing too much --he decided to take u by his side once for all -angels are after all god sent --and i had the priveleage of being with a angel  for years. 

           " I lived a dream for 20 years-I smiled when in happiness with countless reasons
              Ten years without u ---Neither do i have that smile ,nor that effervescent happiness
               But i have ur  memories --ur priceless words for life --i ask no more

                           Nothing makes me proud than being called "your son "!!!

                       Hoping you are happier and at peace --ur dreams will be realised --Luv u lot --Miss u hell a lot my tireless angel--i know u r watching up sumwhere with that angelic smile -that unforgettable angelic smile .