Tuesday, May 29, 2012

"Stop Complaining - Start Fighting- Message From Our Real Time Heroes -Awe inspiring Stuff !!! !!!!

    "Tribute to grit shown by people like Nick Vijucic ,Alex Zanardi ,and Parry West to name a few of real time heroes who show that u can enjoy ur life ,,live ur passion,,enjoy ur dreams if u never give up ,we remember them for their grit not their deficiencies -hats off to people like them -for me heroes to be cherished always "
                "Never ever pity in front of someone for what they appear lacking  outside --they have the same beautiful heart as you have inside them"

                                                        Many years ago sitting in a park waiting for a ice cream i saw a handicapped person who could not walk properly selling towels in the crowd ,,the moment i saw the person i felt a tinge of sadness --i went with a person who was like my uncle and family frd --i had not a single paise tht time but the moment he approached us i said to him "Arrey Uncle i feel so sad for u --how u r able to walk with this one leg not right "-of course innocently but he got angry and said "mind your business --im not begging to u "--i felt bad -it is almost 15 yrs back --i still remember those stinging words -i never understood then why it all went so bad when i had no bad intention.
                                             As life goes you learn about your mistakes innocent ones --gradually learnt that what counts is how good you are inside at the end of the day --no matter how perfect or imperfec you seem outside ,,few years later  while i was strolling around a temple with my family  i saw a young girl handicapped by polio selling flowers --i saw again the same scene i saw some yrs back --people pitying her for she looked until a elderly lady walked towards her with a smile --took some rupees bought some flowers smiled and left ---i noticed seeing the young girl --she was smiling --the elderly lady left with a smile and that girl had that smile in her face ---it was a silent explanation to a long puzzlin question --What should i do the next time i see sumone lacking outside ?Wont they get hurt if sumone ignores their deficiency  knowingly?--these were questions i had at back of my mind always --i got a idea of what it really is .

                                           I have always been inspired by real life heroes --people who struggled like hell to overcome there shortcomings in real life with grit ,,there are  couple of  unforgettable   name i get in my mind --one of the major reasons i changed that "pity feeling thought " for people with physical deficiency  he is 

                                                                              (One of my favourite videos -seen it a hundred times )
                               Never mind how many times i see this heroes video i get inspired everytime --a guy who is affected by a special disorder called "tetra amelia syndrome " ,with no arms and no legs but what a fighting heart he has --mind blowing --i saw this guys video some years before -- the first time i saw this video i felt "this is another real time inspiration in my life"i have seen his video few times when  i felt down and every time i felt  it awe inspiring --how much maturity and how much grit this guy has shown to a life that has been unfair to him from the moment he was born -i cant imagine myself him for a second yet hes he for the whole of his life and he is inspiring people --hes a renowned preacher --a example for utmost grit overcomin severe physical deficiencies ,,One word to this guy who isnpires me a million times -Amazng ---"Its a lie to think you are not good enuf "--"Its a lie to think you are not worth anything "---yes sir u said it ---and everytime i see your video i  feel  inspired -you have been one marvellous example of how even god is imperfect 
                              A former cart champion who waas in midst of one of the most horrendous crashes in history of racing when his whole car went to pieces in a crash with him inside--he had both his legs amputed and yet made a remarkable comeback to sports later with his never say die spirit 

                             Barry West met with a horrific accident at 19,,he lost his arms and legs in the crash ,,yet he learnt to fight his life --he wanted to live his dreams --nothing stopped him --he went for mountaineering ,,scuba diving ,paragliding,skiing ,,he is one of the familiar names who fought severe deficiencies with sheer grit ,,another case of what matters is whats inside and not what sumone looks outside .          
                                  These are some of the examples that come to my mind immediately ,,but there are so many of them ,,yet all of them convey one single stuff loud and clear ,,theya re not one to be pitied always . Yes the next time you see sumone lacking outside ,i hate to even categorize them with some seperate name --they are just a different us --because god doesnt create every human being in same way --they still have unique talents --they have hearts that generally have more grit than a normal person,they dont need our pitiful words  and looks --they dont need our sudden change of expression just because they look different ,,it took me long to put myself in their shoes and imagine what it is like to go through what they do ---the smile in that girls face --the act by that elderly woman stayed for a long time after that incident and then there was one Nick Vijucic --Life is cruel --very cruel sumtimes --for no fault of urs ---but if u learn to stop complaining --u invariably would have started fighting against all odds ,,there are few real time heroes who let us know the truth ,,hereby saluting those real time heroes  and who have been nothin short of awe inspirin --Indeed they all tell us one thing --"Stop Complaining --Start Fighting" !!!!!

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Loneliness Teaches U Lot More Than Just Pain !!!

                       (Written in no pessimistic feeling for being so lonely in my life at this point of my life  rather feeling optimistic that loneliness has shown me truths i never saw before)
             "Will you never leave me for gods sake " i asked one of my friends many years ago rudely ---She replied smilingly "Why should I - I dont want to be alone in this world again  --already have spent 20 yrs goin through it --u have no idea what is to be in tht space -- All u have in that space is Scary Silence  !! "
                              Not until last few years did i realise the magnamity of those words - but i realised lot more than that --"Loneliness is sumthing noone wishes for -it is a unwanted guest --(undeniable ,unacceptable ,painful --yes --but more than everythin it is hell a lot worth than all that )-"but when it comes it comes as a waterfall with full force --the only thing you could do is getting wet and believing you will not get washed away when it is done ".
                              The skies seems endless--the nights after work seem colder with every minute-the search for food become so tiring that u wished u were never hungry --the walks alone wishing for more than the fresh air for company --to scale out the borders of life at this juncture is probably the hardest --but sumwhere the more u live with it you learn more about life,people and yourself .Might seem absolutely stupid but that is a truth,,the time before i was pushed to these boundaries it seemed i was not spared a minute as i was swamped by my relatives,friends and neighbours ,,,it was a pleasant headache to have ---but once years started rolling by -people started getting stuck in their own stuff and slowly life seemed too barren and i seemed to have plenty of time for myself as hours seemed like days suddenly .
                             Frustrations begin to setin --irritated by not having people at the right time at the right hour felt like injustice --ran out of patience --after few breakups and few hiccups --i started realising ---"tht i have no idea what the purpose of the other persons life is all about" --to expect is human --to hope is of love--to wish is of trust ---but when that person is not able to be near you it is sheerly out of inability of contriving situations to bend according to our needs and not selfishness as i foresaw--i met a frd after 1 long yr after mistakin her for leaving abruptly without intimating anything despite being a close frd of mine --when i sat reluctantly to hear her side i did not expect her to have had that horrible torrid time during the same time --a torrid marriage gone wrong --a miscarriage ---hell a lot had happened and i knew nothing--suddenly i felt the other way around of me not being there for her --life seemed lot more mystical .
                           On my own i started believing it is a better way to know about the people in ur life --probably by being at a distance u understand the value of every person in ur lives--u get ur basics right about the people --at some point by living with loneliness u slowly start to realise more about urself -what to do and what not --pains will remain ,,scars will be there but when u have no option than to accept fate--u begin to unravel simple truths u missed during happy times --simple facts about people u love --ur forgotten passion--so many little things makeup for scary unwanted silence !!
                         " Tommorow  might hold nothing good - this  silence might be still prolonging --pain might be endless--but the fact is on the other positive side --its better to be not too close --u will be sure when sumone isnt in ur life in ur most desperate moment --u might very well be doing the same --its not a case of them being selfish but just pushed helpless by nature .
                      I just remember the quote with the one person i admire a lot for her guts and most probably the rudest girl i have come across my life but still was a special special frd for her absolute frankness in everything she did  ,,the last words she told me before she left far away to find happiness --I said to her while bidding farewell ---" See u r goin to feel lonely that you are goin away from me too" --she replied  "Being lonely is  not a sin --yes it will pain endlessly but i will adapt--my mind is clear --my path is visible --there is a life to live --lonely or not --i will go on for i know my time is not up ,,,yet "
                                                       --My inspiration  to fight loneliness is her --She lives just 5 hrs from my place --yet i have not seen her for few yrs now we were once close buddies  --i know there is a life to live ---with or without anyone ---I Will !!!