Dreams are tough challenges but always possible realities !!!!

                           Dedicated to my good friend Rinki tomar on her birthday

                              "Dreams are not just fantasies they r possible realities -the key lies in tryin to 

                                  aspire them --u become future inspiration by doing so to sumone "         

                            

      Happy birthday to my good friend  Rinki  Tomar ---Head  of "India Book of records" ,,a work that demands more than 30 days of non stop work more so ever its such a demanding job to be head of such concern which demands attention to minute details and from any corner of india to approve a record they have to see the full details -- A concern that was started purely with belief and lots of love ,,but more importantly started with purpose of achieving a dream that might have well been a dream considering the importance given to womens dreams in our society,,gone are the days when they are confined to the household and all their dreams are no more pages of unread book ,they make their dreams come true by sheer hard work and meticulous planning regardless of result

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                                               One scene in a tamil film really hit the nail on the head of where our society was some yrs back,,a school master asks his 3 rd standard students--the students(girls )were shown as to be answerin to the question of what u want to be in future?----one after one they were shown to stand up and blink or laugh innocently not knowin what to answer ,,maybe just in a cinema but it could not be more apt --girls in our society are expected to be good housewives and good  moms and b nothin other than that ABSOLUTELY NOTHIN MORE .

                                               My mother who was a remarkable person with unbelievable amount of talents ,,she was terrific at narratin lessons from book ,,,worked hard on english ,,remarkably wunderful in writing the right words for right situations ,,be it in writing for debates for us in  school competetions or any other stuff she was wunderful ,workers fell at ease with her-proving her management skills were goos as well ,,when now at this age i could recall how much she was talented but she refused to show it to the world thats what i feel ,,she could have inspired a lot of people in my opinion with loads of talent she had,but women are not brought up to be otherwise ,,its been the trend  for a long time ,,but times are changing ,,with better understanding ppl it has changed surely for good  ,,i do feel that now on seein the role of women in todays world they are marching towards brighter side of life with belief

                                              While i know the person who is inspiration for this blog Rinki for hardly few months --but what has been noticeable and really appreciable in her case is her dedication to her job not expecting immediate rewards and just givin her sincere attempts to make her dream a reality,,Probably the biggest challenge in life will be accepting your dream as a possibility and working towards that knowing its a big challenge,,Life is boring if we dont have challenges ,,but if challenges become magnified impossibilities then when achieved it is a monumental achievement --I m not sumone who knows 1000 people in this world ,,but the very few i know are really damn good ,,,Rinki-has  been a inspirin story of relentless hardwork that never depended on sucesss -but on accepting a impossible challenge as achievable miracle ,

Women have started to get their rightful recognition not by any forceful means but by consistent hard work towards oneday sharing the limelight in a world  that doesnt always have them in the front,its sign of better things ,better future and a happier world

                           Happy Bday sweet Rinki --have a blast and may god be with u in doing ur bit of continue to inspire people --and may there  be many more rinkis in this world --cant be happier than having a good human being and a hard workin person as a good friend,,its indeed a privelege,,Dreams are indeed possible realities!!!!

                                               

Sisters are always a synonym of support and unbridled love !!!

      

                     " Dedicated to my Sister who is celebrating her birthday today -Happy Birthday Raji"

                         (( **Special mention to Deepu,Gilly Seema,Pinku,Archu.Nithya ,Shabana and Priya tak(miss u piyu -wherver u r love u always ) all wunderful ppl  who made me feel proud to be their brother"**))

                       A quote about  sisters--"her eyes had tears when i was happy --her heart had tears when i was sad--the most silent and strongest relationship in this world is the one shared by a sister"

                                     Life has been cruel in many aspects but it has been kind in sum cases in my life -like my bodning with the word sisters,,made so special by some amazin ppl- im fortunate to have been blessed with some lovely girls who though not born with me took me as their brother and have shown some unbridled love which sumtimes make me think --"Am i this special "---im not boastin but im meaning it does sumtimes so !!!

                                   Rakshabandan is one function i look forward every year -- I have been tied quite a few number of Rakhis in life -its just a beautiful feelin to know there is sumone who loves u so much for just being a brother or like a brother ,i have cherished every moment  I had with them --my own sister -the only one i was born with remains a unique character -whether showin care,love or affection,,she remains sumtimes a mystery ,,a iron willed character but nevertheless sumone who helped me lot to shape myself into a better human being ,we all supported each other during tough times ,,now shes happily settled in her married life

                                   I guess having sisters guarantees u two things -unconditonal happiness and undeniable seperation,all the above people i mentioned have been a pillar of support to me sumtime or other,,,had sum wunderful moments wih few,,,there is nothin happier when u walk hand in hand with a sister --u can share things with confidence ,,u can exchange hard words and still have them holding ur hands despite anythin --sisters are special--every individuals "dream empire"is built with siblings support only,,our visions are best understood by our siblings ,,i have always had this feeling that a relationship that always remains silent  but strong is the one shared between a brother and sister

                                 Sum times their tears make us  better men,from my personal experience i know they plant the seed of confidence in us by being with us  and not merely by words -it doesnt need meeting of eyes or holding of hands to show their love,its beyond that--u can feel their presence without being nearby ,a strong sense of confidence that  come what may they are by your side ,,i have been very fortunate to have sisters who make me feel so much at home at time of needy despite me not even seen some of them ever and some i hardly see due to them being far away after gettin married .

                                   Sisters are like stars in our horizon --they seem so bright during our desperate times --we feel as long as they r there nothin is impossible --they remain always bright in our vision at those times,,and when we r shinging bright in our lives they hide themselves behind us to see us shine bright ,,sisters are that special ,a relationship that is hugely underplayed in our world --they are never given the limelight because they never want to have it --they want to share whatever they have with their brothers

                                We never say sorry to our  sisters,,we do anythin for them to see them happy ,,,yet we are never satisified because we want them to be happier and never be sad,,,thats the real meaning of the relationship--i have been fortuante enuf to be have   some  lovely sisters  who have been  wonderfully supportive, remarkably caring human beings all my life ,, who have  tolerated my sumtimes eccentric behaviour with more affection with grace and they continue to amaze me with their  unbridled love

                            i have got a huge respect for the relationsip and will strive to make it stronger ,,,sum relationships are unbreakable in our lives,,this is certainly one among them--for me a very ,very ,very special one ,,made special by some special people  and the one who is celebrating her birthday today --"Happy birthday again sister  --have a blast"

"Life's spirit lies in facing adversity --and not by accepting them easily"

       

     "There is a reason i see every dawn --despite my fears to not see them sumdays "

                                                                   (First of all i never expected sumtime back  to write another blog as i was in pretty sorry mindset for last few months ,,but one thing that never deserts me unlike other things in life  is my love for these words and for my passion for it never dies ,,it feels awesome to write few words again,,and to the lovely souls who read my blogs,however few it maybe its precious for me  --im grateful for that to all,its been a very tuf time indeed ,,hopefully its all goin into the past now )

                                                                   I have wondered why in life -words like happiness,smile ,love,,is often outshone by words depression,,tears and hatred ,,,i guess without these words te real essence of joy would have been missed in life,i realised many things just of recently ,,wishes are like dreams ---u can only visualise them ,,wishes rarely become realities !!

                                                                  The last 2 months have been the worst in my life ---because i was being pulled down to the extent of me reaching a level of depression --which i felt might drown me out ,,,wrong outlet of all the same led me to breakup with frd after frd --relation after relation--i began to hate myself because i started to doubt the credibility of my belief and willpower which were losin shape ,i sat down and thought bit of where im heading ---there were dark days when i thought i never wanted to see the dawn ,,but i saw and was pushed to see them --there was probably some reason after all

                                                                 Losing close people became mandatory,,losing special people became customary,,losing my best soulmate ,,losing sumone who had roses for my every tear and losing all i had for my heart to not break made me almost crumble --it was a case of  god sayin ---"be ready to lose many"--i wanted to reply  "i wont have any",,Here i stand now with almost all my precious beloved people lost for one reason or other ,,,yet i know crying or hitting the wall are no solutions,,frdship,family ,work environment were all not in good order ,,,but when i sat and thought of "Why im fearin even my existence --it should not be" because i have to do some of my responsibilities still ,,,my ambition is unfulfilled ,there are some dreams which are yet to be realised,,there is a long journey that has just started

                                                           I was missing sumone terribly for last fortnight --so much so one of my frds found out in my behaviour ---he just replied to me --"you are so lucky to have nice people in life--but sumtimes luck runs out on purpose ---you cant be omni good to everyone in this world --u have ur flaws -everyone has --u try to cover your flaws by tryin to adapt to everyone ---u have lost ur identity --find that --be urself --if u were meant to have them u will --if not let them go --be thankful for the memories -there will be others waiting for you to continue ur journey"

                                                        I was hearin dumbfounded by the magnamity of simple assesment of my situation --in other words he offered me my solution --i can live with pain but not with a clustered mindset ,,yes sumtimes truth hurts but nothin teaches u like truth -- I still dont wish to see some dawns but now  i m not afraid to face them--i have no reason to fear if i was myself always,, i will march on to my unrealised dreams with pains of course but not with fears anymore !!!

                                              "My new journey might be lonely--almost--i still have one or two to assist me --but this time it will be with me being as me --ready for anythin --ready to pay any price --ready to face my fate and play by my rules--"Lifes spirit lies in facin adversity --not being eaten by it "