Aftermaths Of A Shocking Incident!!

   "We don't need the priceless women of our life to be more confined ---what we need is a refinement in our attitude --that when there is a need every one of us can act as a silent caretaker to our fellow human being --Such  incidents teach us lessons which we should learn to make sure it never happens again --Its important to sow the seed that only a" refined us" could be the end to such pyschopaths claiming helpless souls "

http://www.firstpost.com/politics/chennai-techie-murder-case-accused-knew-swathi-through-facebook-2871782.html

                                            The news that rocked the entire city of Chennai and whole of Tamil Nadu was speaking about the horrific act of a heartless and mindless idiot . A absolute inhuman barbaric action by a brainless idiot ultimately took the life of girl who had a whole life ahead of her , He deserves nothing but highest form of punishment for his shocking act .My observations are about what i see around after the shocking incident .

Early Morning on July 4,
                                       As i was returning during early hours of the day i noticed that the bus stop nearby my house which is in a prime area being overcrowded than usual  with plenty of cars and two wheelers --i was wondering watching why so much crowd at this time --then i saw couple of college buses coming and could see few girls getting into it and their parents,brothers,mother all waving bye with a feeling of unrest and nervousness in many of them noticeable such has been the impact of this horrendous incident .

                                        The days after the incident i  heard from  couple of close women in my life speaking abt how insecure this city is due to many such actions recently in the city,That people were "scared " was a gross understatement , I read in newspapers that self defense courses were getting crowded by scared parents bringing their dear ones for classes .
                                     
                                        I hear people comparing this to Nirbhaya case --which left me with couple of uneasy feelings. 
                                   ***    Nirbhaya was murdered by animals who were complete strangers to her (the reasoning for getting scared then had more than one good reason because it could have happened to anyone )the same applies to some horrendous rape cases that happen in our country ***
               
                                       But this case it is different and maybe we are being over sensitive and not seeing the true picture of what we are trying to do 

          "We are making the wonderful woman of our life become even more insecure by our scares"
                                       
                                          It is a easy to make character assasination on the girl who passed away ,but the one important point to note is  the guy was supposedly not a stranger ,he was a psychopath who was known to her through facebook to the extent they exchanged phone numbers --that the idiot stalked her was because he mistook the knowingness to be love ,that doesn't mean that every second guy u meet would be a psychopath ,being shocked is understandable,,but  reacting in a such a way would just mean that you are taking away the little,little steps of freedom the women of our society have taken for decades .Maybe noone helped the girl that day --but that doesn't mean every one who lives here would be idle the next time something remotely happens like that unfortunate incident .Maybe this incident tries to make us understand few things we could tell the priceless women of life to be make note of 

               ** To have a best friend to share about all the stuff happenings in life 
               ** To have a one on one conversation on troublesome topics like love,stalkin etc with someone in the family .
               ** To be careful to add friends in social network ,not to give personal details to relative strangers ,ask them to add people only from known sources and trustworthy people .
               ** To make our family members find  time in their  busy schedule to sit and talk every now and then with each other  .

                                              And more importantly tell them that ---there is not a psychopath in every corner waiting to slash them -give them belief that -there are  many commoners who would care for them  from now on endlessly,who would standby them next time such a psycho  comes near them  ,,who wants women to walk out independently without fear ,,there would surely be someone by  her if needed ---We are too proud a nation to be identified to let such psychopaths define us .

“India can be considered free only when its womenfolk can walk alone at midnight unharmed.” - Mahatma Gandhi.

It's taken  them more than six decades to take baby steps to fulfill that --its left to all us fellow human beings to make sure that is achieved  someday in the distant future .

 

RIP to that girl ---May that mindless idiot rot in hell -- Hoping this is the last such incident we would witness - a  part of me feels ashamed that noone came forward to help her ---but a larger part of mine is hoping that this is the last time for such Psychopaths -- in truth this incident has  awakened a  part of us that was sleeping for a long time .

(My sincere apologies if i had hurt your sentiments in someway --this is purely my perspective on feeling the pain of seeing people pushing women of my world  into even more insecurity - its left to us to make it a secure place for everyone --a little bit of care and compassion could take us a long way ahead. )

            
                                        

They Are Not Just Our "Better" Halves --They Are Our "Best" Halves!!!

                                      "When any amount of time spent with a " special "person  seems very less then it just symbolises how much you love that person "
                                        
                                     *****Dedicated to one of the most wonderful persons i knew in my life who unfortunately happens to be my better half:P:P - to a person who makes me complete in this momentous journey called life *****

                                                      "Yes"---A simple word but seems the most important and everlasting word in a guy's life when uttered by the girl of his dreams accepting to be a part of his life ---to be part of every dream he has --to be part of every happiness he experiences --to be part of his tough times --in short to be part of him till he /she parts away .In every way imaginable this is the most beautiful feeling a guy experiences --to have a woman who symbolises a part of everything he wishes and wants .The moment she becomes' his 'is a joy beyond words and expressions .
        
                                                      June 2 -   It was one of the happiest dates of my life --and will remain the same till my last --i was destined to remain single when this wonderful person decided to change destiny and my life by that magical word -"Yes",Ever since my childhood i always felt in awe of my mother and father,who showed me how much it means to be with sumone who loves you from heart --and as time went by i felt maybe i was destined to have my happiness to be confined by myself --until she changed it with a simplicity that still remains a startling mystery to me ,

                                                      Often it is a struggle for a guy to decide upon what he wishes in his dream girl,From looks ,education ,family surrounding , financial supports,etc etc but eventually what matters most is a feeling of two seconds from your heart ---the moment you feel this girl is the one for your life --your heart pounds so hard to make your brain understand that certain things in life are beyond analysation --and those certain things are to be decided by our " heart "alone .

                                                       I remember my wonderful mom saying in her last few days -"My only disappointment in life is that I'm going to go away without seeing my beautiful children getting married "-that pain remained with me for long long time --till the moment i got married --because i felt a huge burden lift  off my heart --it was a day where i felt her blessings and a feeling that her biggest pain would have now gone -certain things in life give you happiness that you remember them for life --a guy dreams of this ever since his teens --after all whats the worth of everything in life when you don't have anyone to share .

                                                       A wife/better half is not just someone - she is someone who has left all her dreams ..all her friends ,,all her wishes ,all her wants ,,all her family ---to be part of her guy's life --nothing in this world can compare to that sacrifice a girl makes ---she leaves her own world to be part of a world she never grew up with ---i remember once reading sumwhere 


                                          "Adaptibility thy name woman "

                                                      cannot be put more apt really,sometimes i wonder seeing some wonderful women in my life --how much can they adapt without complaining much ---i can't imagine myself doing anything close to what they all do,they are indeed special ,very special. 

                                                    To the most wonderful girl who made my life a heaven ---who made my life a complete one --who loves me for all my flaws --who cares me beyond all my mistakes ---who keeps standing by me despite everything --who will always be a part of me till either  me /she parts away ---nothing in life comes close to give this satisfaction and peace to heart --  and importantly to the very heart which chose the woman of my dreams --thank you for choosing this wonderful person  -im indebted for life :)
                                               

     
                                               (   Its not only for married men ,its for every guy who is out there --i know the pain of being alone far too long than i wished ---remember vividly the countless nights i spent staring at the beach uttering nothing but gazing mllion questions  ---but just as the tide turns --life will turn for the good --sumwhere there will surely be  sumone born for u ---all you have to do is listen to those "two seconds"from your heart ,trust me you won't fail )

Everlasting Memories Of My Wonderful School With Unforgettable Teachers!!!

                            Dedicated to the wonderful teachers who i will never forget in my life --Especially Dharmanathan Sir ,Rasheed Sir ,Motha Miss and all those wonderful teachers from my unforgettable school CAMPION HIGHER SECONDARY SCHOOL !!!(With all due respects to my college teachers --school was completely a magical experience --that feeling still remains so many years later too!!)

               " Teachers are like ink in a beautiful fountain pen --everybody appreciates the look ,the words flowing from the pen but hardly anyone appreciates the fact its of no worth without that ink"

                                                       Was watching all news channel flashing about all those wonderful future stars beginning to shine --It happens to be result day for 10 th students -- and all those stars needed a sky --A sky in the form of tireless ,dedicated ,hardworking souls who never get enuf credit for all their efforts to make us someone  in this ever competetive world  --" TEACHERS ",My mind went back to my school days --beautiful school life --i guess for everyone their school life is a special experience like no other ,,for me its no different .

                                                   
Fondly Remembering late " Rasheed" Sir ,

                                                      The first time i met Rasheed Sir --i enquired  innocently --"Sir will i get 100 marks if i become your student" ,,Sir was one of the wonderful teachers every student liked because he was so friendly ,caring and knew abt all his students just a bit more than others --he replied  with that wonderful smile " Kanna - All of you are very special --my job is to make sure you all know that through us -Next time i see you --you must wear that tie properly always ---he kept doing that till i finished school --and to many of us who were his students.

                                                       Rasheed Sir was so perfectly dressed always ,always had a smile ,,always had a shoulder over some student --and that effervescent word "Kanna "--which always seemed so soothing and so caring in a admittedly strict school atmosphere .A teacher par excellence in every sense .
                                                        Rasheed Sir unfortunately passed away while i was in college --and i heard the news while i was in college  --i went to washroom and almost instantly broke down --This seemed grossly wrong --i was too young to understand life is cruel to leave you with everlasting happiness --but sir was a exception --a beacon among teachers -to all those students who studied under him --it was a special ,special experience --He was the like a  "God" who  enlightened us always with that ever sprightly wallk and smile.

                                                        Dharmanthan Sir was someone who made me feel like very special though i deserved nothing but he was another person who had such wonderful rapport with students with such a down to earth personality .Hardly ever spoke a harsh word against anyone and someone who made me fall in love with words with his unbinding love to his profession .
   

7 th Std -- Dharmanathan Sir 

                                                         Hard to believe it is now almost two decades since all this happened --but boy what a treasure of memories these marvellous teachers left  in our lives ---they saw  us as little kids --saw us grow into boys --and eventually bid farewell to us  as aspiring young men with great dreams to achieve ---they remain in the same places we all began --we all keep running after our dreams --climbing impossible ladders to reach monumental landmarks in our lives -but when we take few minutes and turn back --it will be flooded with those magical moments with our teachers etched in many of them ---they are after all they are the sky where our lives are shown brightly to the whole world --the unsung kings/queens of our life who wish nothing but best for us .

Another wonderful down to earth person -Sethuraman Sir 

One and only master of Physics -Xavier Sir 

                                                        Admittedly i tried like hell to shine bright but soon realised i was limited talent wise with reference to studies , I often struggled to reach the toppers level --i was never gifted neither that hardworking as many others --but i was blessed with remarkable teachers who kept believing in all our abilities however limited it was --they kept believing it was way more than what we all knew --that's where teachers become special --in my case not only was my school very special--the teachers were very very unique and special.

                                                         Its been almost a decade and half since i had visited my school but every single time i pass by my heart jumps in excitement --i remember all the good times --life began there and it has been a wonderful journey despite everything --thanks to all the wonderful teachers who gave me an opportunity to know the colours of life in every form --truly indebted for life to  all the great ppl--nothing but respect for everything they gave me.


                                                         

Do U Need A Day To Acknowledge Your Great Mother ?

Do u need a day to acknowledge your great mother ?

A Mother not only gives you life when you are born ---she promises to dedicate her life for urs for a whole life !!!

A Mother doesn't command anything from you for life but makes you know your unlimited talents by just being there -always irrespective of anything !

A Mother is a incomparable heavenly soul who gives nothing but overflowing unconditional love for life !

A Mother trusts you more than anyone else /believes you more than yourself /forgives you for your mistakes more than even God.!

A Mother will always be the first one to wipe your first tear /will always be there with your loved ones during your happy moments --never taking credits for your happiness but takes all the blame when you fail in something !!

Do u need a day to celebrate such a noble soul ??I remember the day before my marriage i was asked to seek her blessings on the most important day of my life ---i was happily smiling till that moment thinking abt the impending happy day --but the moment i went near her picture my heart became so heavy --tears came out immediately knowing that she isn't there for the most important day of my life to bless me for real--felt like the unluckiest person in the world !!

To all the lucky guys /girls who have their wonderful mother for real ---You are just too blessed to have her in life --there is noone like her --there will be noone ever like her after she is gone ---Remember she not only gave you life --she gave hers the moment you were born ---she keeps her promise for her child for life ---in my case she keeps her promise every single day /night even after was forced to leave the world far too early .
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I love and miss you every single minute Mom --I don't really believe in Mother's Day --I believe in the love of every mother in the world --all because i had the greatest mom in the world --like each and every one of us always feel 

:)

True Love Is A Promise For Lifetime !!!

                                               "   Love is not just a feeling ---it is a promise for a lifetime --to share happiness and sadness alike ,to hold each other during tough times --a promise to love even when you hate her /him,,a promise to hold each other to the final journey  into the sunset "

                                                  As a kid the only love stories i knew were from all great south indian movies ,,and i used to wonder whether it is possible to fall in love in real life like that --but one thing felt right ,there is something uniquely special abt that four letter word "love". As they say some words when uttered give you happiness that demands no reason .

                                                  As one among a million commoners ---i often related the journey of a  guy searching for that feeling just to know why so many say it is the  most  beautiful feeling in the world ---i happened to be close with a wonderful ,wonderful friend who is no more now showing me the utmost beauty in that  word "Love".

                                                  The first time i came across this word in real life was the time i was out of my teens ,i kept on searching for those filmy situations in my real life --but soon realised maybe i was the chosen one not to know that wonderful feeling as a teen ,(highly expected though :P),then happened to meet this marvellous friend of mine who was a magnificent human being ,a tremendous writer who had fallen in love with someone tell me what it is like to fall in love .I questioned her purely out of curiosity 

           Me   ---  How do you people fall in love? I mean how do u know that you are in love
           Frd  ---  It happened in a flash --a flash that showed me--- a beautiful me 
           Me   ---  Can't be Serious , how can you say it is love--was he so physically good 
           Frd  --- ( Smiles )Its not about looks when you know you are in love its sumthing more 
           than that  let me put it in a simple line so that you can understand 

                                   " If  my life is like a bird then love are my  wings "

                                             First time in my life i had experienced the meaning of that wonderful word from a close friend , the friend showed me that love is not just a feeling --its a honest appraisal of your true self ---she lived a life true to her love before destiny took her suddenly--but her impact in my life remains.
                                                   
                                               Many years have passed by ---my journey from  a boy who  kept searching for love to find me ---grew up to be a guy who realised it is the other way around in life ---Love doesn't find you ---You find love before it is too late ---i got married to the person who made sure all the years of wait were worth its weight in gold --I remember a few golden lines from that unforgettable friend 

                                             " Never deny love your heart yearns ---love is a not just a feeling --its the best gift you can give yourself --the unbridled happiness it gives you is priceless --everyone of us are flawed yet uniquely brilliant --we are all born like a jigsaw puzzle --a puzzle that is solved the moment we fall in love with a equally unique and wonderful person ---be ready to embrace that moment --because at that moment your life will be embodiment of endless happiness"

                                          

                                                 "Love makes life mesmerizingly  beautiful "



                      
     


                              
   

Parents -- The Real Soul Of Our Lives !!!!

            " Parents give you everything --in return they hope for just one thing 
               that one day their son/daughter will make them proud  by deeds and words because 
               that is what they teach us all life --to do the right things even at the wrong time "

(Dedicated to my lovely parents on their 38 th Wedding Anniversary and to all the lovely parents in the world )
                                                         Happy 38 th Wedding Anniversary to two of the most wonderful human beings i have ever known in life ---the  very reason i exist -- if my heart was a kingdom then they will be the king and queen forever - -If words could be flowers i wish they always decorated your feet .To my wonderful mom and remarkable dad --on their 38 th wedding anniversary although my mom is enjoying this from comforts of heaven ,,its always a very special day for me.
                                                                  

                                                        Parents give us all they have -- many times beyond their capabilities for every mom and dad in this world their son/daughter is the uncrowned prince /princess in the world -- the endless sacrifices they make  for us is unexplainable --because there are not enough words  to appreciate the kindness of their hearts ,I was born to two wonderful people united in thoughts from the time i knew them as my parents ,My Mom is in my memories now ---I happened to live only 20 odd years with that great human being -- but what a privilege and pride it was to have spend those priceless 20 years of my life as her son with her for real .All those moments are now memories ,,each one more beautiful the next time i think about them simply because it had my mom in them. Now almost 13 years have passed by but hardly a day goes without something remembering her ,be it smile of a little kids in house ,,be it in the unbridled love of my better half,or the special words from my wonderful close mates ---somewhere she continues to live on and fills my life with little little happiness that are so necessary to look forward to the next day with hope .
  
                                                         Now into my thirties i could understand how tough this world is ---and the more the world unravels itself ---the more im in awe of all the parents in world ---The moment there is a need for their child ---a dad doesn't hesitate to do things he could hardly dream of --a mother becomes the biggest believer and motivator the moment they realise  her son/daughter feel defeated , they mould us into someone who could first know how to fight our fates --the moment we are ready to fight our fate will be the moment we begin to realise the meaning of our existence and our journey to our destiny begins from there ,our parents are the unsung heroes who help us realising that  significant fact ..they might not accompany the entire journey but the light to our journey begins with them .

                                                         My Mom was a remarkable person who always remained a shy person at heart --but ran always to help people ,,who was a patient angel who moulded a highly careless son into something ---a incomparable woman who gave nothing but love to the whole world --and her last words were "Take care of dad "---never lived a moment for herself --but lived a whole life even though short only for people around --never spoke a angry word,,never hated anyone and left very early just because God needed good people around him :(,,But my life ,my dreams , my hopes ,,my sucess  everything she will be a beautiful part --as a son my my role will always be making sure it is a beautiful part she is in !!

                              "The honest one never fails in life "  --that is the mantra my dad  taught me as a kid ---and it still reverberates in my ears always.

                                                        My Dad like every other dad in the world is the epitome of the word responsible ---I learnt the meaning of word loyal from him ---To educate a son is a dad's duty ,,but to do that by coming to drop and pick them for 21 years from school to college is scarcely believable yet my great dad did it relentlessly .Always believed i would be a sucessful person if i could achieve half of what he has achieved in life .His legacy will always have the words ,honesty,responsibility and dedication,,,Even a serious physical ailment could not stop him from achieving his goals ---his magnificent tireless will power is something i always admired and admire every passing day.

                                                         Wishing the most handsome lovely couple i knew in life ---to my wonderful parents --a happy 38 th wedding anniversary ..To  all the wonderful parents in the world  ---as one among million sons/daughters in the world ---"Thanks for making us  who we are  --It could have never been without you both  --because it all started with you both "Love you Mom and Dad endlessly ,Being called your son will always be the biggest privilege and pride of my life .

     (Hopefully one day i would be lucky to experience what it is to be a parent ,-- probably the most responsible and happiest job in the world :)))
                                                      

Every Man A Potential Rapist ???--A Big Hell "NO"!!

           
                                                   
                                                     "Every Man is a potential Rapist "--- Seemingly that is what a celebrity had written few days back and there are few other people who come up with slightly bizarre "My Choices"videos  to voice their so called opinions -- It felt as if  those people had thought just being a celebrity is a qualification enough to abuse and bash men fraternity as a whole ---that's what pains the most ---You judge every man out there  based on few  unfortunate barbaric incidents by some inhuman beasts ---but what about the "Millions who hardly get noticed from birth to death "--yet live with utmost dignity and honesty to the girl they love ---burying all their dreams yet spending their whole lives for people he loves --especially "Women "

                                                     Make no mistake --I'm a proud student to some wonderful female teachers --I'm forever a proud son to the greatest human being i ever knew in life --My Mom --I'm a brother to few wonderful sisters --I'm a husband to a lovely  wonderful simple girl ---I'm a true friend to my best friend in girls till life ---I respect women to the core --This "I" can be any man you know in your life --Its not me --Its my whole fraternity who are being bashed in the name of freedom of speech --while the truth is just the opposite--it just hurts and pains to be labelled wrongly for the mistake of some inhuman animals --who can't be termed even human beings forget abt them being called as "men".

                                                 "  Men " ---We are not  potential rapist --There is no one who understands love like us --We hardly show our hearts to our loved one's --Our tears are often in the rest rooms --not with people we love because we can't stand them cry ---we have a heart as soft as anything in the world --Our travails start from the moment we enter our teens ---Responsibilites eat our dreams ---Society kills our passion ---Financial demands buries our identities-We start to run away from our dreams ---we keep doing it for a whole life --yet all we get is a name we don't deserve ---we don't request anyone to applaud us for everything we do --but to abuse us for something that millions of us never even intend to do is really appauling.

                                                    Let's put it in a simple way ---10 men out of a million may turn as a animals beyond control ---i do accept the harmful crime he does to a defenseless woman ---its unpardonable --i still feel the pain of Nirbhaya every single day --but what about the remaining almost every man out there --why should he bear the pain of  representing those beasts ??We do not support those inhuman---nor we believe they belong to our race --but the shame is being bestowed to all of us  unformly which is grossly unfair .

                                                    To every celebrity who believes men are potential  "everything bad"-Do you know - There is a part in every man which dies slowly for the good for everyone around ---there is a part of man that wishes he could live the life he wishes for atleast the day --there is a part of every man that wants to live his passion every single day but can't --there is a part of every man who wants to loved a bit more --there is a part of every man who wants atleast one soul to know the endless pains he suffers day in day out in the name of responsibility and society --A boy starts to lose his identity from his childhood days -As a son / student/ father /brother /grandpa --what he ends up is a reflection of what everyone else wants ---"Potential Rapist "---Hell" No "-- To that celebrity --You have no idea of how tough and wonderful it is to be a man --many of us are born to lose ---but we fight till our last to change that --maybe you can call us "Potential Fighters Against Fate" .