TRUE FRIEND !!!!!!

     
             "Life is a beautiful teacher--time its best companion -a true friend is the best lesson 
               we learn by both " 

(Dedicated to one of my best friends ,one of the  most wonderful souls i have ever known in life--Happy Bday Sandeep Sheoron !!)

                                                         When you are born --you are born with nothing --then begins this process of our journey to find the meaning of life --the intricacies hidden in that journey is nothing short of the word "amazing "---its like multi layers hidden under one single block ---there are times when you feel like you have solved the whole riddle but then comes another ---similarly life gives you opportunity to meet people ,as they say 

          "  Every one u meet in life give you a opportunity to know about the purpose of your life "

                                                          I did not have many friends for my whole school life because my life was in a beautiful heaven with a angel who happened to be my mother with a short ,short life but who showed me beauty of life through her wonderful smile --the best lesson she taught was it was to find the best people to spend life -pity i realised her words only after she left me --but her words still ring in my ears that

               "  Finding a true friend is the best tribute you can make to ur parents upbringing of u "

    The Brute Truth of finding a true friend -or being a true friend ;
                                                        Finding /being a true friend is the second most difficult riddle in your life -- its like making  a puzzle of a simple question --Finding a friend who is compatible to your mindset is difficult in the first part but then comes the "juxtapose" part where we all mess up -being close with someone makes us feel that we understand them well --well i learnt a harsh lesson in last few years that being close exactly doesn't mean you understand and standby the person ---the art of being a true friend or finding a true friend lies in finding someone who truly understands you  r as u r and without expectations of what u might be of their liking ---that sort of ppl make your life truly memorable --the remaining people you meet in life make you understand the value of finding /being a true friend ---(something even im still trying to understand well into the 30's :p).

To someone who is a epitome of the word true friend - Sandeep Sheoron
                                                           A journey that started many years ago --from being boys to guys to now responsible family men :P--one thing that has never changed is the true love ---love for being a true friend no matter what --time tarnishes everything ---it fades out the fake glitter that new frdship offers --it washes out the false hopes we might dream of our best buddies ---but after all that glitter and fun part --comes the realisation of finding that true best friend --one who comes out of longeivity-with no expectations --and with just a heart that understands the wrong things you do in the right sense and the right things you do in the happiest way possible ---to the soul i found by pure accident in orkut ---to a soul who never changed despite every travail life put through ---to a boy who still cries when his heart is broken rather than acting like a man who should never cry ---to a wonderful friend through whom i achieved my biggest passion and dream --A Very,Very  Happy Bday -- I'm just endlessly happy that life found u for me as a true frd :)
               
    Sumtimes in life there are moments when you are thoughts are  among  countless                                  unfulfilled dreams,disappointments of failure ,anguish in belief in God , untold 
    anger on fate--it is precisely at that moment  you will find someone with open arms with                      no expectations yet knowing your  pain without you uttering a word --those sort of people                    are very very few in life yet so  priceless -You are certainly one in my life bro-- To one of                     the most wonderful human beings i  met in ma life --to my brother  with a heart of gold , to                   a guy who will always be the one  person who fulfilled my passion i have no words but                         only a heart full of gratitude which wishes endless happiness to u brother ---  "Happy Bday                 Dipu"- Love you loads and may god bless with everythin you wish in life.

True Love Needs Our Ego and Anger To Be Little Porous :)!!!!

  Dedicated to the  few beautiful souls i miss being together in life but there is still time :)!!!!!

     " Every soul is beautiful in its own way --- just that not every one close knows it true beauty "

                     (Been a long while since i blogged so kindly adjust the flaws:P)
                                       
                                                      If somebody tells you that life isn't interesting --just ask them to sit down and write down the number of people they could remember meeting in their whole life --because frankly noone could write down the entire list of people they meet in life ---We meet lot of people --many remain as strangers we don't remember ,,some remain as known people we meet in life but don't become close enough --few only select few become people who will love from our heart because our hearts choose them not our minds '
                                                      
 An Incident with a ever positive person who always remains my inspiration !!!
                                                      Many summers ago (Should be atleast a decade ago ,makes me feel so old :P)one lovely day happened to be in a conversation with  this my "ever inspiring friend" who at that moment of life had virtually no one in life to fall back .I never had her maturity and she was younger to me but matured than me in life --learnt a lot from her as a person ,Our conversation was like the following (even though i dont remember my nonsense i remember her words always :p)

Me --  Seriously don't you feel weird ,,this point of life i don't see you with anyone other than your books and pen (She was a wonderful writer )
Frd -- You maybe right but what u see now is what it is but what it was not before  --i had people ,i had friends -i truly have loved few people from hearts --just that right now  we  are busy ignoring  each other  childishly now  :)
Me - Really ?? Are all ignoring u or is it u ignoring few ?
Frd -- Hmm you know this heart is a funny thing --it can't love everyone my eyes sees --but the people it loves not even my eyes can deny seeing when it wants !!!
Me -- ????
Frd --  Someday you will know Shanmu ---Nothing in life is beautiful as the people our heart truly loves --its a pity that we have our anger ,ego put a mask to that feeling temporarily but that mask is always a temporary one --nothing can put a mask to our true love on people close to us ,Love will prevail eventually .
Me ---- Gud (I just recorded the conv in my heart maybe to revisit someday --i did today because i have had my fair share of ups and downs with people in last few years ).
                                                
                                                     Yesterday while going through my previous google chats and mails accidentally i became interested to see how many close people i still have that i have had few years ago --and it was apparent that time has withered one by one for various reasons away from me ,fair enough there are rights and wrongs everywhere doesnt matter --but i just got this conversation in mind that made me realise the true fact 

                                  " True love  needs our  ego and anger to be little porous"
  
                                                      In this wonderful journey called life we never know what's next but what we do know is the people we love will always be people we love -nothing would change that -no amount of false hatred ,no amount of needless ego propping up ,no amount of money difference could kill our care and affection for people we truly love in life .If you stutter in knowing to choose between your mind and soul then just remember following 

                               "This 350 gms within us called as heart is what determines our life as whole 
                                 Often it is a war between what our mind wants and our heart wishes 
                                  whilst mind makes a million permutations to determine what is right and wrong
                                  our heart needs one factor ---"LOVE"

Maybe someday we will wake up knowing that life is not about our anger and ego --our happiness is about not being impatient with people we love but to be more patient with them .After all we are all flawed yet each one of us is unique and beautiful in their own way .

With hope maybe i might reconcile with few of beautiful souls someday soon  and wishing you all the  same  :):)!!!!
                                                                   

" Happy 40 th Wedding Anniversary to two wonderful human beings i knew in life --My parents :) "

        "There is no one as endlessly loving  and caring as our parents -- To the great king and angel queen  i was born to on their 40 th Wedding Anniversary "
               

   My Mother,
                              The one big regret i have in life is i could not see my mom getting old --beautifully old ---it is the most wonderful relationship in the world that no word can express poetically enuf --Sometimes u wish life had a pause moment with her because she creates so many beautifully memories that we don't understand that we are part of special bonding that would give countless goosebump memories till our last .
                              Life with her was the happiest part of my life ---that angelic smile --that caring cuddle of hair when i was sleeping ---those are just things mother do which no one else do ---she cooked --she taught me --she made me laugh --she had no enmity towards anyone --she was the angel i saw everyday --the angel whom i could touch play hold her hand and walk whenever i wanted .She played with me --she was and will always be the shining light that will keep flickering before me in the darkest of times --beyond every thing the one thing i admired was the respect ,the admiration ,the unbinding love she had towards my father --i remember her sayin many times the exact words my father would utter few minutes later in different places ,,their level of understanding was beyond belief ,,her love towards us was unparalled and beyond words .
                             A brave lady who made even death hang its head in shame for coming to take her life early  --a woman who  symbolised grit in the most testing circumstances even when she knew it was her time to go --called us and said nothing but "take care of dad "---I knew it was just true love out of extreme understanding for her better half .In short she lived a life which became a lesson for us who knew her .So Short yet amazingly magical .

My Father ,
                             I have seen  this wonderful man get old though so much so he is sure to see me getting old too :P,Jokes apart every father is the first inspiration to every son out there ,,my father was no different to me --he still remains my biggest inspiration --beyond being a sucessful business man with fame coming along it --nothing went to his head --he was always a man who could not express his love in words like my mom -like all the fathers in the world --but he always knew when i would fall he would be there to help me out ---to be there when im lost for direction in life i have his words to redirect me --a strict person to the core but a lovable man like none seen in the world ---a man of little words but with endless love towards his children .
                            Some years back when doctors  had warned us a 48 hour time deadline to get over for my dad --he called us and said "Dont worry --Nothing will happen to me ,,i have duties your mother left me to complete --i will not leave until i have completed  all her dreams and wishes ",and he made sure mom saw all the dreams she wished to achieve through his eyes .

                                          To two people who were the epitome of understanding --to two people who not only gave me life ---gave me everything i have today ---to two people who i will never be ever to repay for all that they have done to me in life ---to two people who showed mutual love is the ultimate feeling the world --to two people with whom i have had countless happy memories --happy 40 th Wedding Anniversary --Love u Mom --i know u are watching in happiness --u would have to wait hopefully for a long time to see ur better half in heaven :P --love u both endlessly (Sumday I hope i become a parent to know how beautiful it is to feel to be like u both !!!))!
                          
                    
                                      

Life !!!

                                " Life is the only gift in the world which comes with a unknown  time limit "

(Dedicated to the wonderful souls who keep working non stop for everyone to be happy except them )
                                                       
                                                                I guess it won't be out of place if i said irrespective of our ages the little child in each of us never grows old --only thing is we are constrained to even talk about it to our loved ones --reason being as always petty issues like  society, responsibility etc.

The Beautiful "Past"!!!
 Ever wondered where these scenarios in life went --just press the rewind button sumwhere this would have happened in all our lives especially the kids of 80's and 90 's not the modern one's who are just tech savy brilliant and nothing else .

*** The times during rain  we would sit in front of the house with our family and have groundnuts with smiles and fun chat.
*** The beautiful summer vacation with family where we would prepare for the trip weeks before to have all our dreams 
*** Sundays when we would hear balloon sounds and run and pick up the colour we like and play with it with our siblings 
***Almost  having a sound  sleep  yet  knowing  the beautiful cuddling of our mother on our forehead .
*** The birthdays with new dresses ,the auspicious days with us looking forward to the countless special programs .
*** The School day functions with endless fun with smile ,food and eventually returning home late to feel as a hero .
*** The times when we used to score less and go to mom fearing dad only to  end up being screwed up by both  
*** The times we used to run after our first crush knowingly that they will never ever remember you as someone they saw in their lives 
***  The time we went out with opposite gender in a group feeling it to be as a first date --- unparalled childish happiness 
*** The little surprises we give our close circle during special occasions birthdays or weedends etc-- the childish fun of seeing their sudden happiness always left a wonderful memory for life.

                       Those times just get buried as we get older with every new responsibility. 

 Life Now !!
And Fast forward life to now ppl in the late 20,s and 30's the general feelings for  us is like

*** I  have to be responsible about everything in life ,I'm not a child anymore
*** Birthdays are just another day in life ,there is nothing special abt it anymore ,,not on our birthdays neither it is for our closed circle.
*** Can't take a vacation for the next 3 years --have to save now itself 
*** Should book tickets to see mom and dad  for this  diwali or christmas 
*** No time to see friends or make a call even on weekends 
*** No time to sit and talk with our wife/kids
*** Have to work overtime to meet all ends up 
*** Have to buy a house and a car to satisfy the society and the relatives 
*** Have to plan to earn for next 25 years to meet the housing loans ,personal loans and what not .
                                                                      
                                                  Let me ask the simple question even i ask myself to no proper answers ,
Why do we live a life where we can't let our childish wishes every now and then ,After all we don't live for our loans ,,we don't want to know our parents suffered of our physical absence during difficult times ,we don't have to make our friends feel bad during their tough times and many of us still long deep inside our hearts to celebrate or to be part of celebration on birthdays ---our bodies age but our hearts never does -and within every one of us there is a child that wishes you to every now and then not become so responsbile and lost.                
                                                  Life in your past and present has one common factor that underlines everything ---"YOU" ---Its never late to change what you are going through ---forget the problems ,responsibilities thrust upon you (it was there before you and it will be there long after you are gone:P:P ) -just enjoy being yourself because there will never ever be one like you .

 As Always a quote i read sumwhere 
"Life is really simple --it is us who try to make it as complicated as possible !!!!

  
                                                   
                              

                                      
                                                     



                                             

 


 

Over Expectations --- >Posessiveness --- >Disappointments --- >Lost Happiness !!!

                         " When over expectations barge in --real happiness slowly barges out "
                                                                
                                                                I guess most of us would have gone through a real life experience with someone in life --that we feel for a short span of time as if this life is too short to spend time with this person ---but suddenly as time passes by and we get close with them we start to feel something missing --something slowly feeling different ---while we search for the right answer the relationship turns bit sour due to some reason and ends up with a unanswered  question  with that  beautiful soul " Why something that appeared heavenly had to end up suddenly like a flower being blown away by a cyclone "

Many  Years Back ,
                                                                I had a sister like a friend who was one year younger to me who i met suddenly to feel instantly a happiness of meeting someone i probably missed so long in life --someone seemingly with my same wavelength --same sense of humour --same and more of what i wished i could be ---it was some of the best times i spent with her --the childish fun ,,the endless pulling down each other --for some time she was so close to me that i thought i had a unborn sister with me for life --until something started changing --there were needless fights --arguements ---childish topics taken seriously and i was the one who was starting to feel lot disappointed ---for her not being the person i thought she was ---i had sleepless nights --questioning why she could not be the person i expected her to be ---that single thought actually was the catalyst that slowly buried a beautiful relationship because of one thing above everything ---my unwanted "Over Expectation" of wanting her to be someone else than the person i felt so connected in a instance ,

       "Painful memories are sometimes beautiful memories you desert with wonderful souls because of a demon called "Over -Expectations "

                                                                 In real we never know when this journey of ours will end --but what makes this journey so wonderful ,memorable and worth all the struggle is the beautiful souls our heart chooses our of happiness to be our  brothers ,sisters, friends ,and most importantly our life partner .The time we spend in this world might be limited but such souls fill our lives with unlimited joy --unless we all find a way to a  sleeping demon in each of us --"Expectations "--When we get close with someone our expectations sky rocket into "over" territory so much so we start to get possesive about them --its a download spiral from there --leading to countless disappointments -ending up in us searchin for real happiness that the relationship promised to us in the beginning.

                                                                Long  back i remember walking along with a inspirational friend of me whose words  as time goes by seems more and more like a shining beacon during my dark times

              " I have had countless disappointments in life -im a motherless child -a daughter deserted by a heartless father --yet i found  beautiful love with people i met in life -some of them ended abruptly  ---yet i never feel burdened by those pains in my heart because every relationship that has ended for me has taught me a lesson -the biggest lesson i learnt is always have a tiny little gap between the person u love most  ---a small distance always that will always make you understand your happiness ends when you forget that distance by our high expectations --there starts the disappointment which ends in lost happiness--i never have high expectations because 

                 "Not everyday you wake up to see a rainbow but when you see it make sure it is being watched by a happy you "

                                                    
        
             



























                                                                  

Follow Your Heart --It Will Lead You To Your Dreams !!

           "Life is the only place where you can live your dreams and you don't have endless time to do that -  Follow your heart they will lead you to your dreams  "
                                         
                                                       Recently i happened to have a casual conversation with a known frd whose brother had completed 12 th and had passed out with 80 percent marks ,i just quote down our conversation 
  
          Me-- So how did your brother fare in his exams ?i hope all went well
         Frd -- Ya buddy by God's Grace he passed out in flying colours ,he secured 80 %
          Me -- Great ,What Next ?What does he want to do ?
         Frd  -- We already planned for him to study Mech Engg in (he mentioned a reputed college name ) ,so we will put him there.
          Me  -- So that is what he wants also right ?
          Frd   -- Me,Papa and mom all decided he should study this couple of years back ,,i think he wants this too ,,its a good college , he will get good job and get settled in life .After all we need a good name in society and setttled life na (Saying that he broke into a huge laugh tapping on my shoulder ).
           Me -- All i could give him was a uneasy smile with a troubled thought in mind dating back couple of decades back 
                  
        Year 1998 sometime( when life was wonderful with that unforgettable Sharjah Storm from Tendulkar --and not least about twelfth results :P)--i remember having a conversation with few frds when entrance marks were out (the NEET then ).

        Randomly i quote the dialogues that i could remember that was spoken around me  then 

" Marks are out now i can be a engineer as my whole family wanted "
"I have got enough marks to apply for doctor as ppl around me wished"
"I dont have enough marks to get into college my father wanted me too "
"I will go to the college couple of you go to " and then i was asked what was i goin to do 
"Mech Engineer as my parents wished "

     
                                         Almost two decades later when i asked this guy what his brother wanted to do ---he's answering that "We already planned for him for a seemingly settled life and good name of the society "--Amazing nothing has changed the place i live around because of this rotten ,dead useless "SOCIETY"--I did not think then nor did i hear from one person then was what he really wanted to become .It has always been about society determining our future and ruining our childhood dreams .
                                        My parents never forced to me to chose engg --i was a abject failure in mechanical engineering though i passed out for name sake - Almost twenty years later i know i never wanted to do engineering because i was never good at studies,i loved something else in my life but i felt not being a loya; son to wonderful parents would leave me guilty for life when one word to my parents would have allowed me to go in search for my dreams . After all life doesn't gives you many opportunities in life .I remember one of my besties  quoting long time

    " In Life there will be a moment when you have to make a jump in faith towards your untold
      childhood dreams --Faith because even if you fail you will keep trying to reach that destination 
      someday ,somehow--Thats the purpose of life ! "
                      
                                     I hope sincerely someday someone i meet few years down the line will say boldly the lines "he will become what he wants to"-- after all there is no joy in hearing and enjoying  something you so dearly want in life .

"Your Identity should always be what you want to be ---not what people around you wish you to be 
People who love you from heart will always allow you to follow yours" !!!

Cheers !!

                                         
     
                    
                               

                                           
         

Women's Day --- Wish the Society I live could realise they are the major reasons we live ,love and smile !!!!!

"Just relive the most poignantly beautiful moments in your life --the chances of that involving a lovely mother ,a playful sister ,a caring bestie who happens to be a woman ,a smiling girlfrd or a caring simple yet kind better half ,and for many their beauitful unique little angel daughter giving him countless unforgettable moments -Woman are not only integral part of our lives --they are the reasons why we exist in this world -Without them there isn't life --with them by side everyone of us are givien the opportunity to enjoy life to the fullest --Dedicated to all the wonderful woman i met in my life specially to my mother who not only gave me life ---but showed me what is life !!!!

  Many years back i remember talking with a wonderful woman who was always like a mentor to me in life who explained me in simple but unforgettable manner the silent sufferings a woman undergo

            " So ---tell me whats so special  about being a woman buddy "--Mines was meant to be just a irritable question  to play with a soul i rarely saw get irritated by anything in life --her reply then i never understood but as i grew old i got to know how much she really meant that day with her reply (shes no more but her memories live with me forever )

           "My Dreams Have wings yet im not able to fly --not even for a single minute 

             Being Woman is the best thing i always felt Buddy --but you know the sad part is I'm                never allowed to enjoy that feeling in this world "

 

Most of your goosebump reasons will have them as a unforgettable part --yet the society i live has not been a safe one for them to search their happiness or dreams without keeping eyes around them --i remember one of closest frds in girls saying to me painfully

           "Its damn hard to work in a office where some  people  dont see your face and talk "

Those words showed how hard it is for a girl to live her passion ---the eagle eyes never stopped staring at what they wanted to look at not caring about the voices of their strong hearts which  yelled in silence at them saying 

                      "Stop looking at her like that --she also has me ---a heart just like you do "

I'm a guy -yet i feel ashamed seeing a painful news every now and  then propping up showing how they are tortured to death ,butchered for no fault of theirs ,jewels stolen out of greed --the fault all those women did was being a woman --It pains me so much because I owe a lot to some wonderful woman ever imaginable .

      

             Born to the most wonderful woman i ever knew in life --the only human being i saw closest to God in real life --My Mother --She was not just a woman --She was a epitome of the word woman in my life-- A selfless ,ever caring ,humble ,ever lovable human being as all the mothers in the world are - With her around I never knew as a kid that i was growing up in a society which would eventually become less and less safer for a woman to live her dreams fearlessly.

            

I'm just a common man like million of us whose life was shaped by countless woman ---Son to a great mother who worked tirelessly all her life to give meaning to my life -Brother to a caring sister who i grew up with lot of smiles intervened by some tough moments --brother to some wonderful souls i found along the way --bestie to  one of the best human beings i knew in life --and husband to the only girl i loved in my life --(hopefully if lucky  sumday a father of a little angel :P).

Woman are the shining beacons of our life --our duty and responsbiltiy is to let them shine the brightest --for when they shine bright this world will always be a wonderful place to live ,love and smile .

Happy Women's Day  !!

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Happy 58 th Birthday Mom -Love You Always !!

Happy 39th Wedding Anniversary To Two Great People - My Parents !!!

" You knew my path before i could walk ,so you removed the thorns before it could prick me "

                                                             ---To all the wonderful selfless parents who shape the lives of their children forgetting their own ---and to my wonderful parents for everything they gave me and give me still !!
                                                         "Be careful "-- That is sort of the magical irritating word every parent used to tell their children wherever they go a million times ---but for me it was like something that was uttered trillion times ,,i got irritated then -- But now i could not believe myself how they could do that tirelessly ---That's actually a tribute to all the parents out there --every mom and dad out there are not just god's gift to us --they are the living gods in our lives --the sacrifices ,the sleepless nights ,,the weight of responsibilites ,,the million nights just talking for the welfare of their children --To know the pain and struggle of a parent --you have to be a parent i guess -I'm still guessin but one day i wish i would see it for real -because its the biggest source of happiness  for any person born in this world .
       
A train journey that had million smiles from my evergreen Mom ,
                                                              Someday  during the year of 2000 ,there was a incident i remember very well even now ---It was a late night journey where my mom and dad were returning from Chennai to Trichy in a train ---We siblings  were in our house in Trichy --That was the time when mobile phones were starting to come into limelight -- we had a mobile phone and our mom had a mobile phone ---She was hardly used to using such gadgets --but every single time she had that phone she would call us --she learnt to send sms to us ---and she was so happy using that gadget only to speak with us to make sure she was with us every minute --i remember her sending messages like "Hello My children "--- "Hello My Son " the whole train journey--It might sound silly --But only moms could make those silly moments unforgettable --she made it memorable for us --  we all were sitting in the houses   playfully mocking her messages and activities --and all of us were grown ups by that time --but her love for us never diminished as years went by ---She used to come to pick each one of us now and then even in college with some snacks in the evening ---Her world was only us from the moment we were born and till the moment she left it never ever changed .
  

What life never taught me my dad always did !!
                                                              The biggest thing i understood we had to have in life was grit ---something i watched from close quarters my dad doing every single time destiny was trying to defeat him --all he did was to make himself a stronger shield to face that demon called destiny ---With three unmarried children and a shocking loss of the love of his life ---My Mother ---He was faced with endless terror amid monumentally difficult circumstances without the support of the pillar of his life --He got more determined than ever and after a decade long of struggle so much  physically but never mentally he achieved the unthinkable ---fulfilling his duties and the duties leftover by my mom--i was never born a gritty person --i was born bit  brittle  --but i always had a living example to try being someone gritty --Every dad out there is very special --they take the responsibility for shaping up the lives of their children by endlessly sacrificing their dreams --They show so much anger which is their unique way of expressing their heartfelt love to their children --I hope one day have that wonderful feeling because i have seen the glitter in my old man's eyes even now -its a glitter like nothing else ---to be a father is very special guess atleast my father made it look it very ,very special by being a extraordinary man with limited words with unlimited love for his kids 
                                           
                                                           For everyone their childhood and school life is the most unforgettable part of their lives --because of those evergreen memories those days leave  in our mind with our parents being in it almost in all of them --My childhood and school life had nothing but beautiful memories with my parents ---I was a introvert then who had no friends and noone understood that better than those two angels ---they kept being there for me till i started having a better outlook on life and world --to exist and survive in this cruel world you had to have guts,belief in love - i had two people who symbolised exactly that in real life as my dad and mom !!.

                                                         I always cherished such occasions as a kid because those were moments that made my life a joy to behold , my mom and dad kept giving us countless gifts on their birthdays ,on their wedding days etc but the greatest gift they gave me was being the most beautiful gift god bestowed upon me as a kid -THEY AS MY PARENTS ,

                                                          Happy Wedding Aniversary Dad and Mom --Mom i know you are watching happily from heaven your gritty man fighting like hell to beat that  demon called destiny --because he knew ,,i know ,,and everyone who loved you ,love you know that you were the angel that made destiny hang its head in shame from taking your life so soon --but  destiny will never take the beautiful memories you created in our world with that wonderful efferevescent smile of yours --I'm no more a teen but every single time i think about you --i remember those lines "Be Careful "--What a beautiful meaningful life you lived with a wonderful humble man ---my biggest motivation in life will remain to be called a son you both visioned --to be called your son would always be the biggest pride of my life  .

                                 
             A special thanks to Sandeep Sheoron and Seema Sheoron !!!                           

Aftermaths Of A Shocking Incident!!

   "We don't need the priceless women of our life to be more confined ---what we need is a refinement in our attitude --that when there is a need every one of us can act as a silent caretaker to our fellow human being --Such  incidents teach us lessons which we should learn to make sure it never happens again --Its important to sow the seed that only a" refined us" could be the end to such pyschopaths claiming helpless souls "

http://www.firstpost.com/politics/chennai-techie-murder-case-accused-knew-swathi-through-facebook-2871782.html

                                            The news that rocked the entire city of Chennai and whole of Tamil Nadu was speaking about the horrific act of a heartless and mindless idiot . A absolute inhuman barbaric action by a brainless idiot ultimately took the life of girl who had a whole life ahead of her , He deserves nothing but highest form of punishment for his shocking act .My observations are about what i see around after the shocking incident .

Early Morning on July 4,
                                       As i was returning during early hours of the day i noticed that the bus stop nearby my house which is in a prime area being overcrowded than usual  with plenty of cars and two wheelers --i was wondering watching why so much crowd at this time --then i saw couple of college buses coming and could see few girls getting into it and their parents,brothers,mother all waving bye with a feeling of unrest and nervousness in many of them noticeable such has been the impact of this horrendous incident .

                                        The days after the incident i  heard from  couple of close women in my life speaking abt how insecure this city is due to many such actions recently in the city,That people were "scared " was a gross understatement , I read in newspapers that self defense courses were getting crowded by scared parents bringing their dear ones for classes .
                                     
                                        I hear people comparing this to Nirbhaya case --which left me with couple of uneasy feelings. 
                                   ***    Nirbhaya was murdered by animals who were complete strangers to her (the reasoning for getting scared then had more than one good reason because it could have happened to anyone )the same applies to some horrendous rape cases that happen in our country ***
               
                                       But this case it is different and maybe we are being over sensitive and not seeing the true picture of what we are trying to do 

          "We are making the wonderful woman of our life become even more insecure by our scares"
                                       
                                          It is a easy to make character assasination on the girl who passed away ,but the one important point to note is  the guy was supposedly not a stranger ,he was a psychopath who was known to her through facebook to the extent they exchanged phone numbers --that the idiot stalked her was because he mistook the knowingness to be love ,that doesn't mean that every second guy u meet would be a psychopath ,being shocked is understandable,,but  reacting in a such a way would just mean that you are taking away the little,little steps of freedom the women of our society have taken for decades .Maybe noone helped the girl that day --but that doesn't mean every one who lives here would be idle the next time something remotely happens like that unfortunate incident .Maybe this incident tries to make us understand few things we could tell the priceless women of life to be make note of 

               ** To have a best friend to share about all the stuff happenings in life 
               ** To have a one on one conversation on troublesome topics like love,stalkin etc with someone in the family .
               ** To be careful to add friends in social network ,not to give personal details to relative strangers ,ask them to add people only from known sources and trustworthy people .
               ** To make our family members find  time in their  busy schedule to sit and talk every now and then with each other  .

                                              And more importantly tell them that ---there is not a psychopath in every corner waiting to slash them -give them belief that -there are  many commoners who would care for them  from now on endlessly,who would standby them next time such a psycho  comes near them  ,,who wants women to walk out independently without fear ,,there would surely be someone by  her if needed ---We are too proud a nation to be identified to let such psychopaths define us .

“India can be considered free only when its womenfolk can walk alone at midnight unharmed.” - Mahatma Gandhi.

It's taken  them more than six decades to take baby steps to fulfill that --its left to all us fellow human beings to make sure that is achieved  someday in the distant future .

 

RIP to that girl ---May that mindless idiot rot in hell -- Hoping this is the last such incident we would witness - a  part of me feels ashamed that noone came forward to help her ---but a larger part of mine is hoping that this is the last time for such Psychopaths -- in truth this incident has  awakened a  part of us that was sleeping for a long time .

(My sincere apologies if i had hurt your sentiments in someway --this is purely my perspective on feeling the pain of seeing people pushing women of my world  into even more insecurity - its left to us to make it a secure place for everyone --a little bit of care and compassion could take us a long way ahead. )

            
                                        

They Are Not Just Our "Better" Halves --They Are Our "Best" Halves!!!

                                      "When any amount of time spent with a " special "person  seems very less then it just symbolises how much you love that person "
                                        
                                     *****Dedicated to one of the most wonderful persons i knew in my life who unfortunately happens to be my better half:P:P - to a person who makes me complete in this momentous journey called life *****

                                                      "Yes"---A simple word but seems the most important and everlasting word in a guy's life when uttered by the girl of his dreams accepting to be a part of his life ---to be part of every dream he has --to be part of every happiness he experiences --to be part of his tough times --in short to be part of him till he /she parts away .In every way imaginable this is the most beautiful feeling a guy experiences --to have a woman who symbolises a part of everything he wishes and wants .The moment she becomes' his 'is a joy beyond words and expressions .
        
                                                      June 2 -   It was one of the happiest dates of my life --and will remain the same till my last --i was destined to remain single when this wonderful person decided to change destiny and my life by that magical word -"Yes",Ever since my childhood i always felt in awe of my mother and father,who showed me how much it means to be with sumone who loves you from heart --and as time went by i felt maybe i was destined to have my happiness to be confined by myself --until she changed it with a simplicity that still remains a startling mystery to me ,

                                                      Often it is a struggle for a guy to decide upon what he wishes in his dream girl,From looks ,education ,family surrounding , financial supports,etc etc but eventually what matters most is a feeling of two seconds from your heart ---the moment you feel this girl is the one for your life --your heart pounds so hard to make your brain understand that certain things in life are beyond analysation --and those certain things are to be decided by our " heart "alone .

                                                       I remember my wonderful mom saying in her last few days -"My only disappointment in life is that I'm going to go away without seeing my beautiful children getting married "-that pain remained with me for long long time --till the moment i got married --because i felt a huge burden lift  off my heart --it was a day where i felt her blessings and a feeling that her biggest pain would have now gone -certain things in life give you happiness that you remember them for life --a guy dreams of this ever since his teens --after all whats the worth of everything in life when you don't have anyone to share .

                                                       A wife/better half is not just someone - she is someone who has left all her dreams ..all her friends ,,all her wishes ,all her wants ,,all her family ---to be part of her guy's life --nothing in this world can compare to that sacrifice a girl makes ---she leaves her own world to be part of a world she never grew up with ---i remember once reading sumwhere 


                                          "Adaptibility thy name woman "

                                                      cannot be put more apt really,sometimes i wonder seeing some wonderful women in my life --how much can they adapt without complaining much ---i can't imagine myself doing anything close to what they all do,they are indeed special ,very special. 

                                                    To the most wonderful girl who made my life a heaven ---who made my life a complete one --who loves me for all my flaws --who cares me beyond all my mistakes ---who keeps standing by me despite everything --who will always be a part of me till either  me /she parts away ---nothing in life comes close to give this satisfaction and peace to heart --  and importantly to the very heart which chose the woman of my dreams --thank you for choosing this wonderful person  -im indebted for life :)
                                               

     
                                               (   Its not only for married men ,its for every guy who is out there --i know the pain of being alone far too long than i wished ---remember vividly the countless nights i spent staring at the beach uttering nothing but gazing mllion questions  ---but just as the tide turns --life will turn for the good --sumwhere there will surely be  sumone born for u ---all you have to do is listen to those "two seconds"from your heart ,trust me you won't fail )

Everlasting Memories Of My Wonderful School With Unforgettable Teachers!!!

                            Dedicated to the wonderful teachers who i will never forget in my life --Especially Dharmanathan Sir ,Rasheed Sir ,Motha Miss and all those wonderful teachers from my unforgettable school CAMPION HIGHER SECONDARY SCHOOL !!!(With all due respects to my college teachers --school was completely a magical experience --that feeling still remains so many years later too!!)

               " Teachers are like ink in a beautiful fountain pen --everybody appreciates the look ,the words flowing from the pen but hardly anyone appreciates the fact its of no worth without that ink"

                                                       Was watching all news channel flashing about all those wonderful future stars beginning to shine --It happens to be result day for 10 th students -- and all those stars needed a sky --A sky in the form of tireless ,dedicated ,hardworking souls who never get enuf credit for all their efforts to make us someone  in this ever competetive world  --" TEACHERS ",My mind went back to my school days --beautiful school life --i guess for everyone their school life is a special experience like no other ,,for me its no different .

                                                   
Fondly Remembering late " Rasheed" Sir ,

                                                      The first time i met Rasheed Sir --i enquired  innocently --"Sir will i get 100 marks if i become your student" ,,Sir was one of the wonderful teachers every student liked because he was so friendly ,caring and knew abt all his students just a bit more than others --he replied  with that wonderful smile " Kanna - All of you are very special --my job is to make sure you all know that through us -Next time i see you --you must wear that tie properly always ---he kept doing that till i finished school --and to many of us who were his students.

                                                       Rasheed Sir was so perfectly dressed always ,always had a smile ,,always had a shoulder over some student --and that effervescent word "Kanna "--which always seemed so soothing and so caring in a admittedly strict school atmosphere .A teacher par excellence in every sense .
                                                        Rasheed Sir unfortunately passed away while i was in college --and i heard the news while i was in college  --i went to washroom and almost instantly broke down --This seemed grossly wrong --i was too young to understand life is cruel to leave you with everlasting happiness --but sir was a exception --a beacon among teachers -to all those students who studied under him --it was a special ,special experience --He was the like a  "God" who  enlightened us always with that ever sprightly wallk and smile.

                                                        Dharmanthan Sir was someone who made me feel like very special though i deserved nothing but he was another person who had such wonderful rapport with students with such a down to earth personality .Hardly ever spoke a harsh word against anyone and someone who made me fall in love with words with his unbinding love to his profession .
   

7 th Std -- Dharmanathan Sir 

                                                         Hard to believe it is now almost two decades since all this happened --but boy what a treasure of memories these marvellous teachers left  in our lives ---they saw  us as little kids --saw us grow into boys --and eventually bid farewell to us  as aspiring young men with great dreams to achieve ---they remain in the same places we all began --we all keep running after our dreams --climbing impossible ladders to reach monumental landmarks in our lives -but when we take few minutes and turn back --it will be flooded with those magical moments with our teachers etched in many of them ---they are after all they are the sky where our lives are shown brightly to the whole world --the unsung kings/queens of our life who wish nothing but best for us .

Another wonderful down to earth person -Sethuraman Sir 

One and only master of Physics -Xavier Sir 

                                                        Admittedly i tried like hell to shine bright but soon realised i was limited talent wise with reference to studies , I often struggled to reach the toppers level --i was never gifted neither that hardworking as many others --but i was blessed with remarkable teachers who kept believing in all our abilities however limited it was --they kept believing it was way more than what we all knew --that's where teachers become special --in my case not only was my school very special--the teachers were very very unique and special.

                                                         Its been almost a decade and half since i had visited my school but every single time i pass by my heart jumps in excitement --i remember all the good times --life began there and it has been a wonderful journey despite everything --thanks to all the wonderful teachers who gave me an opportunity to know the colours of life in every form --truly indebted for life to  all the great ppl--nothing but respect for everything they gave me.


                                                         

Do U Need A Day To Acknowledge Your Great Mother ?

Do u need a day to acknowledge your great mother ?

A Mother not only gives you life when you are born ---she promises to dedicate her life for urs for a whole life !!!

A Mother doesn't command anything from you for life but makes you know your unlimited talents by just being there -always irrespective of anything !

A Mother is a incomparable heavenly soul who gives nothing but overflowing unconditional love for life !

A Mother trusts you more than anyone else /believes you more than yourself /forgives you for your mistakes more than even God.!

A Mother will always be the first one to wipe your first tear /will always be there with your loved ones during your happy moments --never taking credits for your happiness but takes all the blame when you fail in something !!

Do u need a day to celebrate such a noble soul ??I remember the day before my marriage i was asked to seek her blessings on the most important day of my life ---i was happily smiling till that moment thinking abt the impending happy day --but the moment i went near her picture my heart became so heavy --tears came out immediately knowing that she isn't there for the most important day of my life to bless me for real--felt like the unluckiest person in the world !!

To all the lucky guys /girls who have their wonderful mother for real ---You are just too blessed to have her in life --there is noone like her --there will be noone ever like her after she is gone ---Remember she not only gave you life --she gave hers the moment you were born ---she keeps her promise for her child for life ---in my case she keeps her promise every single day /night even after was forced to leave the world far too early .
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I love and miss you every single minute Mom --I don't really believe in Mother's Day --I believe in the love of every mother in the world --all because i had the greatest mom in the world --like each and every one of us always feel 

:)