They Are Not Just Our "Better" Halves --They Are Our "Best" Halves!!!

                                      "When any amount of time spent with a " special "person  seems very less then it just symbolises how much you love that person "
                                        
                                     *****Dedicated to one of the most wonderful persons i knew in my life who unfortunately happens to be my better half:P:P - to a person who makes me complete in this momentous journey called life *****

                                                      "Yes"---A simple word but seems the most important and everlasting word in a guy's life when uttered by the girl of his dreams accepting to be a part of his life ---to be part of every dream he has --to be part of every happiness he experiences --to be part of his tough times --in short to be part of him till he /she parts away .In every way imaginable this is the most beautiful feeling a guy experiences --to have a woman who symbolises a part of everything he wishes and wants .The moment she becomes' his 'is a joy beyond words and expressions .
        
                                                      June 2 -   It was one of the happiest dates of my life --and will remain the same till my last --i was destined to remain single when this wonderful person decided to change destiny and my life by that magical word -"Yes",Ever since my childhood i always felt in awe of my mother and father,who showed me how much it means to be with sumone who loves you from heart --and as time went by i felt maybe i was destined to have my happiness to be confined by myself --until she changed it with a simplicity that still remains a startling mystery to me ,

                                                      Often it is a struggle for a guy to decide upon what he wishes in his dream girl,From looks ,education ,family surrounding , financial supports,etc etc but eventually what matters most is a feeling of two seconds from your heart ---the moment you feel this girl is the one for your life --your heart pounds so hard to make your brain understand that certain things in life are beyond analysation --and those certain things are to be decided by our " heart "alone .

                                                       I remember my wonderful mom saying in her last few days -"My only disappointment in life is that I'm going to go away without seeing my beautiful children getting married "-that pain remained with me for long long time --till the moment i got married --because i felt a huge burden lift  off my heart --it was a day where i felt her blessings and a feeling that her biggest pain would have now gone -certain things in life give you happiness that you remember them for life --a guy dreams of this ever since his teens --after all whats the worth of everything in life when you don't have anyone to share .

                                                       A wife/better half is not just someone - she is someone who has left all her dreams ..all her friends ,,all her wishes ,all her wants ,,all her family ---to be part of her guy's life --nothing in this world can compare to that sacrifice a girl makes ---she leaves her own world to be part of a world she never grew up with ---i remember once reading sumwhere 


                                          "Adaptibility thy name woman "

                                                      cannot be put more apt really,sometimes i wonder seeing some wonderful women in my life --how much can they adapt without complaining much ---i can't imagine myself doing anything close to what they all do,they are indeed special ,very special. 

                                                    To the most wonderful girl who made my life a heaven ---who made my life a complete one --who loves me for all my flaws --who cares me beyond all my mistakes ---who keeps standing by me despite everything --who will always be a part of me till either  me /she parts away ---nothing in life comes close to give this satisfaction and peace to heart --  and importantly to the very heart which chose the woman of my dreams --thank you for choosing this wonderful person  -im indebted for life :)
                                               

     
                                               (   Its not only for married men ,its for every guy who is out there --i know the pain of being alone far too long than i wished ---remember vividly the countless nights i spent staring at the beach uttering nothing but gazing mllion questions  ---but just as the tide turns --life will turn for the good --sumwhere there will surely be  sumone born for u ---all you have to do is listen to those "two seconds"from your heart ,trust me you won't fail )

Everlasting Memories Of My Wonderful School With Unforgettable Teachers!!!

                            Dedicated to the wonderful teachers who i will never forget in my life --Especially Dharmanathan Sir ,Rasheed Sir ,Motha Miss and all those wonderful teachers from my unforgettable school CAMPION HIGHER SECONDARY SCHOOL !!!(With all due respects to my college teachers --school was completely a magical experience --that feeling still remains so many years later too!!)

               " Teachers are like ink in a beautiful fountain pen --everybody appreciates the look ,the words flowing from the pen but hardly anyone appreciates the fact its of no worth without that ink"

                                                       Was watching all news channel flashing about all those wonderful future stars beginning to shine --It happens to be result day for 10 th students -- and all those stars needed a sky --A sky in the form of tireless ,dedicated ,hardworking souls who never get enuf credit for all their efforts to make us someone  in this ever competetive world  --" TEACHERS ",My mind went back to my school days --beautiful school life --i guess for everyone their school life is a special experience like no other ,,for me its no different .

                                                   
Fondly Remembering late " Rasheed" Sir ,

                                                      The first time i met Rasheed Sir --i enquired  innocently --"Sir will i get 100 marks if i become your student" ,,Sir was one of the wonderful teachers every student liked because he was so friendly ,caring and knew abt all his students just a bit more than others --he replied  with that wonderful smile " Kanna - All of you are very special --my job is to make sure you all know that through us -Next time i see you --you must wear that tie properly always ---he kept doing that till i finished school --and to many of us who were his students.

                                                       Rasheed Sir was so perfectly dressed always ,always had a smile ,,always had a shoulder over some student --and that effervescent word "Kanna "--which always seemed so soothing and so caring in a admittedly strict school atmosphere .A teacher par excellence in every sense .
                                                        Rasheed Sir unfortunately passed away while i was in college --and i heard the news while i was in college  --i went to washroom and almost instantly broke down --This seemed grossly wrong --i was too young to understand life is cruel to leave you with everlasting happiness --but sir was a exception --a beacon among teachers -to all those students who studied under him --it was a special ,special experience --He was the like a  "God" who  enlightened us always with that ever sprightly wallk and smile.

                                                        Dharmanthan Sir was someone who made me feel like very special though i deserved nothing but he was another person who had such wonderful rapport with students with such a down to earth personality .Hardly ever spoke a harsh word against anyone and someone who made me fall in love with words with his unbinding love to his profession .
   

7 th Std -- Dharmanathan Sir 

                                                         Hard to believe it is now almost two decades since all this happened --but boy what a treasure of memories these marvellous teachers left  in our lives ---they saw  us as little kids --saw us grow into boys --and eventually bid farewell to us  as aspiring young men with great dreams to achieve ---they remain in the same places we all began --we all keep running after our dreams --climbing impossible ladders to reach monumental landmarks in our lives -but when we take few minutes and turn back --it will be flooded with those magical moments with our teachers etched in many of them ---they are after all they are the sky where our lives are shown brightly to the whole world --the unsung kings/queens of our life who wish nothing but best for us .

Another wonderful down to earth person -Sethuraman Sir 

One and only master of Physics -Xavier Sir 

                                                        Admittedly i tried like hell to shine bright but soon realised i was limited talent wise with reference to studies , I often struggled to reach the toppers level --i was never gifted neither that hardworking as many others --but i was blessed with remarkable teachers who kept believing in all our abilities however limited it was --they kept believing it was way more than what we all knew --that's where teachers become special --in my case not only was my school very special--the teachers were very very unique and special.

                                                         Its been almost a decade and half since i had visited my school but every single time i pass by my heart jumps in excitement --i remember all the good times --life began there and it has been a wonderful journey despite everything --thanks to all the wonderful teachers who gave me an opportunity to know the colours of life in every form --truly indebted for life to  all the great ppl--nothing but respect for everything they gave me.


                                                         

Do U Need A Day To Acknowledge Your Great Mother ?

Do u need a day to acknowledge your great mother ?

A Mother not only gives you life when you are born ---she promises to dedicate her life for urs for a whole life !!!

A Mother doesn't command anything from you for life but makes you know your unlimited talents by just being there -always irrespective of anything !

A Mother is a incomparable heavenly soul who gives nothing but overflowing unconditional love for life !

A Mother trusts you more than anyone else /believes you more than yourself /forgives you for your mistakes more than even God.!

A Mother will always be the first one to wipe your first tear /will always be there with your loved ones during your happy moments --never taking credits for your happiness but takes all the blame when you fail in something !!

Do u need a day to celebrate such a noble soul ??I remember the day before my marriage i was asked to seek her blessings on the most important day of my life ---i was happily smiling till that moment thinking abt the impending happy day --but the moment i went near her picture my heart became so heavy --tears came out immediately knowing that she isn't there for the most important day of my life to bless me for real--felt like the unluckiest person in the world !!

To all the lucky guys /girls who have their wonderful mother for real ---You are just too blessed to have her in life --there is noone like her --there will be noone ever like her after she is gone ---Remember she not only gave you life --she gave hers the moment you were born ---she keeps her promise for her child for life ---in my case she keeps her promise every single day /night even after was forced to leave the world far too early .
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I love and miss you every single minute Mom --I don't really believe in Mother's Day --I believe in the love of every mother in the world --all because i had the greatest mom in the world --like each and every one of us always feel 

:)

True Love Is A Promise For Lifetime !!!

                                               "   Love is not just a feeling ---it is a promise for a lifetime --to share happiness and sadness alike ,to hold each other during tough times --a promise to love even when you hate her /him,,a promise to hold each other to the final journey  into the sunset "

                                                  As a kid the only love stories i knew were from all great south indian movies ,,and i used to wonder whether it is possible to fall in love in real life like that --but one thing felt right ,there is something uniquely special abt that four letter word "love". As they say some words when uttered give you happiness that demands no reason .

                                                  As one among a million commoners ---i often related the journey of a  guy searching for that feeling just to know why so many say it is the  most  beautiful feeling in the world ---i happened to be close with a wonderful ,wonderful friend who is no more now showing me the utmost beauty in that  word "Love".

                                                  The first time i came across this word in real life was the time i was out of my teens ,i kept on searching for those filmy situations in my real life --but soon realised maybe i was the chosen one not to know that wonderful feeling as a teen ,(highly expected though :P),then happened to meet this marvellous friend of mine who was a magnificent human being ,a tremendous writer who had fallen in love with someone tell me what it is like to fall in love .I questioned her purely out of curiosity 

           Me   ---  How do you people fall in love? I mean how do u know that you are in love
           Frd  ---  It happened in a flash --a flash that showed me--- a beautiful me 
           Me   ---  Can't be Serious , how can you say it is love--was he so physically good 
           Frd  --- ( Smiles )Its not about looks when you know you are in love its sumthing more 
           than that  let me put it in a simple line so that you can understand 

                                   " If  my life is like a bird then love are my  wings "

                                             First time in my life i had experienced the meaning of that wonderful word from a close friend , the friend showed me that love is not just a feeling --its a honest appraisal of your true self ---she lived a life true to her love before destiny took her suddenly--but her impact in my life remains.
                                                   
                                               Many years have passed by ---my journey from  a boy who  kept searching for love to find me ---grew up to be a guy who realised it is the other way around in life ---Love doesn't find you ---You find love before it is too late ---i got married to the person who made sure all the years of wait were worth its weight in gold --I remember a few golden lines from that unforgettable friend 

                                             " Never deny love your heart yearns ---love is a not just a feeling --its the best gift you can give yourself --the unbridled happiness it gives you is priceless --everyone of us are flawed yet uniquely brilliant --we are all born like a jigsaw puzzle --a puzzle that is solved the moment we fall in love with a equally unique and wonderful person ---be ready to embrace that moment --because at that moment your life will be embodiment of endless happiness"

                                          

                                                 "Love makes life mesmerizingly  beautiful "



                      
     


                              
   

Parents -- The Real Soul Of Our Lives !!!!

            " Parents give you everything --in return they hope for just one thing 
               that one day their son/daughter will make them proud  by deeds and words because 
               that is what they teach us all life --to do the right things even at the wrong time "

(Dedicated to my lovely parents on their 38 th Wedding Anniversary and to all the lovely parents in the world )
                                                         Happy 38 th Wedding Anniversary to two of the most wonderful human beings i have ever known in life ---the  very reason i exist -- if my heart was a kingdom then they will be the king and queen forever - -If words could be flowers i wish they always decorated your feet .To my wonderful mom and remarkable dad --on their 38 th wedding anniversary although my mom is enjoying this from comforts of heaven ,,its always a very special day for me.
                                                                  

                                                        Parents give us all they have -- many times beyond their capabilities for every mom and dad in this world their son/daughter is the uncrowned prince /princess in the world -- the endless sacrifices they make  for us is unexplainable --because there are not enough words  to appreciate the kindness of their hearts ,I was born to two wonderful people united in thoughts from the time i knew them as my parents ,My Mom is in my memories now ---I happened to live only 20 odd years with that great human being -- but what a privilege and pride it was to have spend those priceless 20 years of my life as her son with her for real .All those moments are now memories ,,each one more beautiful the next time i think about them simply because it had my mom in them. Now almost 13 years have passed by but hardly a day goes without something remembering her ,be it smile of a little kids in house ,,be it in the unbridled love of my better half,or the special words from my wonderful close mates ---somewhere she continues to live on and fills my life with little little happiness that are so necessary to look forward to the next day with hope .
  
                                                         Now into my thirties i could understand how tough this world is ---and the more the world unravels itself ---the more im in awe of all the parents in world ---The moment there is a need for their child ---a dad doesn't hesitate to do things he could hardly dream of --a mother becomes the biggest believer and motivator the moment they realise  her son/daughter feel defeated , they mould us into someone who could first know how to fight our fates --the moment we are ready to fight our fate will be the moment we begin to realise the meaning of our existence and our journey to our destiny begins from there ,our parents are the unsung heroes who help us realising that  significant fact ..they might not accompany the entire journey but the light to our journey begins with them .

                                                         My Mom was a remarkable person who always remained a shy person at heart --but ran always to help people ,,who was a patient angel who moulded a highly careless son into something ---a incomparable woman who gave nothing but love to the whole world --and her last words were "Take care of dad "---never lived a moment for herself --but lived a whole life even though short only for people around --never spoke a angry word,,never hated anyone and left very early just because God needed good people around him :(,,But my life ,my dreams , my hopes ,,my sucess  everything she will be a beautiful part --as a son my my role will always be making sure it is a beautiful part she is in !!

                              "The honest one never fails in life "  --that is the mantra my dad  taught me as a kid ---and it still reverberates in my ears always.

                                                        My Dad like every other dad in the world is the epitome of the word responsible ---I learnt the meaning of word loyal from him ---To educate a son is a dad's duty ,,but to do that by coming to drop and pick them for 21 years from school to college is scarcely believable yet my great dad did it relentlessly .Always believed i would be a sucessful person if i could achieve half of what he has achieved in life .His legacy will always have the words ,honesty,responsibility and dedication,,,Even a serious physical ailment could not stop him from achieving his goals ---his magnificent tireless will power is something i always admired and admire every passing day.

                                                         Wishing the most handsome lovely couple i knew in life ---to my wonderful parents --a happy 38 th wedding anniversary ..To  all the wonderful parents in the world  ---as one among million sons/daughters in the world ---"Thanks for making us  who we are  --It could have never been without you both  --because it all started with you both "Love you Mom and Dad endlessly ,Being called your son will always be the biggest privilege and pride of my life .

     (Hopefully one day i would be lucky to experience what it is to be a parent ,-- probably the most responsible and happiest job in the world :)))
                                                      

Every Man A Potential Rapist ???--A Big Hell "NO"!!

           
                                                   
                                                     "Every Man is a potential Rapist "--- Seemingly that is what a celebrity had written few days back and there are few other people who come up with slightly bizarre "My Choices"videos  to voice their so called opinions -- It felt as if  those people had thought just being a celebrity is a qualification enough to abuse and bash men fraternity as a whole ---that's what pains the most ---You judge every man out there  based on few  unfortunate barbaric incidents by some inhuman beasts ---but what about the "Millions who hardly get noticed from birth to death "--yet live with utmost dignity and honesty to the girl they love ---burying all their dreams yet spending their whole lives for people he loves --especially "Women "

                                                     Make no mistake --I'm a proud student to some wonderful female teachers --I'm forever a proud son to the greatest human being i ever knew in life --My Mom --I'm a brother to few wonderful sisters --I'm a husband to a lovely  wonderful simple girl ---I'm a true friend to my best friend in girls till life ---I respect women to the core --This "I" can be any man you know in your life --Its not me --Its my whole fraternity who are being bashed in the name of freedom of speech --while the truth is just the opposite--it just hurts and pains to be labelled wrongly for the mistake of some inhuman animals --who can't be termed even human beings forget abt them being called as "men".

                                                 "  Men " ---We are not  potential rapist --There is no one who understands love like us --We hardly show our hearts to our loved one's --Our tears are often in the rest rooms --not with people we love because we can't stand them cry ---we have a heart as soft as anything in the world --Our travails start from the moment we enter our teens ---Responsibilites eat our dreams ---Society kills our passion ---Financial demands buries our identities-We start to run away from our dreams ---we keep doing it for a whole life --yet all we get is a name we don't deserve ---we don't request anyone to applaud us for everything we do --but to abuse us for something that millions of us never even intend to do is really appauling.

                                                    Let's put it in a simple way ---10 men out of a million may turn as a animals beyond control ---i do accept the harmful crime he does to a defenseless woman ---its unpardonable --i still feel the pain of Nirbhaya every single day --but what about the remaining almost every man out there --why should he bear the pain of  representing those beasts ??We do not support those inhuman---nor we believe they belong to our race --but the shame is being bestowed to all of us  unformly which is grossly unfair .

                                                    To every celebrity who believes men are potential  "everything bad"-Do you know - There is a part in every man which dies slowly for the good for everyone around ---there is a part of man that wishes he could live the life he wishes for atleast the day --there is a part of every man that wants to live his passion every single day but can't --there is a part of every man who wants to loved a bit more --there is a part of every man who wants atleast one soul to know the endless pains he suffers day in day out in the name of responsibility and society --A boy starts to lose his identity from his childhood days -As a son / student/ father /brother /grandpa --what he ends up is a reflection of what everyone else wants ---"Potential Rapist "---Hell" No "-- To that celebrity --You have no idea of how tough and wonderful it is to be a man --many of us are born to lose ---but we fight till our last to change that --maybe you can call us "Potential Fighters Against Fate" .
                                                           
                                           

Friends -- They have just one rule --- "Give everything expect nothing other than a smile "

                "A true friend understands you better than anyone for life - period "

             

      Dedicated to Sandeep Sheoron on his bday today -- one of my best friends  ---Best friends for almost a decade now yet not seen even once --Frdship needs just trust and belief --- Happy Bday to a wonderful person who made me realise my childhood dream -A blogsite to write my heart out ,a platform to  express my endless love for words --someone who i always identify with the word "Trust".

                      Life is a journey where your choices is limited to lot of factors ---you don't decide your family --you don't decide your school ,many of us don't have choices to choose for our education ,work ,etc . But two things in life are entirely your choices --Your life partner and Your "Friends "--they both are exclusively your choice, 

                      You choose friends but not all of them stick for life ---from the moment you enter school --the world opens you up to make your choices with the guidance of your parents . The beautiful thing about friendship is you give nothing but get back endless happiness ,,all it requires is truth and honesty at any cost --then you are guaranteed time for a lifetime ---easier said than done --thats the hard part --i turn back on my life and i could very clearly remem many of my frds from my school time ,,college time ---but almost half of them came and went --somewhere you realise you can't have everyone you wish in life as frds .

               I remember a wonderful friend of mine who is no more in this world say once 
               
 "  Nobody can love like a mom --Nobody can be supportive like a dad ,,nobody can be 
     stand by you like your siblings --Nobody can believe in you like your better half --Noone 
     makes you realise all these than a friend --they are the light who shine bright on all these 
     they make you understand the value of life --because they understand you "
                 
                            
                       They don't need to know how good you are in studies ,,how good you are financially ,,they don't need to know where you live ,,they don't care about your lifestyles --all they care is how good a person you are - and all they do all these expecting nothing but  for your true smile ,how can you repay them --maybe by realising the true value of them --for which we don't have time to be appreciative enough --because of our busy day to day life --think that is the biggest mistake we make we never appreciate the little little precious things and ppl which make our lives happy --none more than our appreciation of frds which most of us do very rarely .

  About the hero of this blog and one of wonderful warriors i admire in life Sandeep Sheoron ;

                                         Almost 10 years of knowing each other ---yet we have not seen each other even once - guess it is some sort of record for best of frds never meeting lol :p----But he will always be the wonderful person who helped me in realising my childhood dream --The thing i  loved most as a kid other than my family was my love for words -- I always thought it would go forgotten because of my lifestyle and responsibilities ,,but for a friend presenting me a platform to express myself --A genuine ,incomparable ,humble friend --who for 10 years has not changed one bit ---Someone who has been punished for being too loving all his life --Someone who was abused for marrying the girl he loved --someone who cries on others suffering ---A special someone who doesn't have much for himself yet gives his all to people he loves ---Sandeep Sheoron will always be best unseen spectacle in my life for a long time ---for i never heard someone being so simple ,so frank,so helpful,so loving .,so hard working yet has   never been  appreciated by people he loved --yet he carries himself with a smile --with a steely belief to stand by what his heart feels no matter how much time he's hurt .Life teaches you hard lessons not all are prepared to learn them ---this guy will always remain a exception and an timeless inspiration to ppl who know him .
                                      
                           
                                       For every "me" in this world --you need a "Sandeep Sheoron "type of friend ---Someone who realises his role even though never appreciated is all the more important  for people he loves --To be a frd you need not be special ,,you need not not be famous ,,you need not be rich to be a true friend ---all you need is a heart to trust for life .Friends  after all give you everything and expect nothing other than a smile .

  "Exclusively friends are your choices --- Some stick some don't --those who don't make you 
    realise the importance of those stick by for life -- Cherish them --they are truly priceless"

                                

Every Woman Has One Thing In Common ---"A Beautiful Heart"-- Happy Women's Day !!!

"  Imagine a life without the mothers,sisters ,daughters ,better halves ,grandmas  ,best friends in girls,  female teachers -   you just wonder ---"What is life ?''-they just dont make our lives beautiful --they make  us understand the value of life --WOMEN symbolise the purpose of life "

                                       ( Dedicated to all the wonderful woman in my life )

A look at the roles of woman in our lives  reiterating there endless sacrifices 

 As a Mother ,
                                
                                      Every new born's first memory would be the warmth of that beautiful lady called "Mother "---and what a beautiful lady she is to every son/daughter in the world --she opens your eyes into the world of love --she teaches you the beautiful things you need to know in life and lets you the things you should stay away for life -- Every little step to your next stage of life happens in the watchful eyes of a mother ---you understand there are things that are right and there are things that are wrong in this world through her eyes and words ---that is where life begins ---that is where you begin to understand your destiny --that is where you begin to learn how wonderful a mother is . 

 As a sister , 
                      
                                  The wonderful thing of having a sister is that you feel you always have someone to share ,to play ,to smile ---to watch the little girl who played with you all through your childhood grow in front of your eyes is a marvellous experience --then one day she will leave you all over to move into a new world yet the love you shared as a kid is the one lovely bond that holds you both together for life --A sister is a mixture of your wonderful moments and tearful moments because she stays with you no matter of what --- a bond that starts as twinkling playful kids never ends for a life ---ever wondered why --ask any sister her reply would be ---Why do i need a reason to love my brother --always ---As a brother i know the real meaning of those lines .

As a frd ,a well wisher ,
             
                                   Probably the hardest thing for a girl to stand by a guy for a long time without relationship because although the purity of frdship may stand the test of time ---its impossible to be same after marriage ---and i consider myself very lucky because my best friend in girls ,married ,still finds time to ask about my well being --its harder for a girl to do that after marriage --but even then she tries to stick to her responsibility as a true friend ,well wisher ,,its wonderfully unique because it requires a lovely tender heart to stick by without any bond for lifetime ---only a girl can do that -being true to her role till her last 

Better Halves /Wife /Girlfrd;
  
                                 It took me 33 years to find me the girl i was destined ,a long wait yet it was worth the wait in gold--i had a wonderful family --i had wonderful frds --i had the luck of doing what i love as my profession ---but all through the one thing that felt not right was the word "I"---when it became "WE" --it felt different but right ---probably every guy would admit that he feels complete the moment a girl decides to marry him ---that beautiful moment was when i realised how big a thing it is for a girl to say that --- to leave the family she grew up --to leave the surroundings she was so familiar --to leave the place she is most comfortable with --to leave her childhood friends --to leave everything she grew up with ----to a new world ---is a big thing --all she has is "trust "and "belief"--imagine yourself being in a frd place for a day or two --u will feel uneasy more than a day -- but for a girl to do that ready to change her life for you ---is simply monumental---something you understand the more she stays with you---she makes you feel like a complete person.

  But what we give them ,,,,,,,
                                            These wonderful human beings are not respected enough in our society --you can see increased amount of old age homes ---you can see parents hesistant knowing it is a girl baby --you can see them fearing to walk around alone even in broad daylight --for the fear of being hurt for being a woman ---the increased amount of rapes and abuses all around India are making them as prey to swooping vultures ---they are the very reason for our existence --they create lives in this world ---they alone ---without them there is no world ---as a youngster i grew up admiring my mom ,,respecting my teachers---loving my sister--there is not one person in this world who could say they don't know the value of a woman ---yet they are being tortured without remorse ,,thrown acid in anger ,,killed in rage after raping her ---Women who are like our sisters /mother/daughters are being tortured  more and more by seemingly remorseless devils --i had this horrendous feeling when i read about the perspective of a accused bus driver in Nirbhaya Case --speaking absolute bull shit ---yet all we could is watch , This wonderful angels deserve every bit of respect we could give because they are ready to sacrifice everything for your good yet all they get is nothing but endless trouble .

                                          Personally I am what i am because of all the wonderful women in my life ---right from my wonderful mom ---my teachers ,,my sisters ,,my best frds in girls,,and my wonderful better half --they are the real reasons for whatever im today --they are reasons for your happiness --the least you can do is respect them --celebrate them --every one of them have one thing in common ---"A beautiful heart "

Happy 56 th Birthday Mom --Love You Loads And Loads :)!!!

Happy Birthday to my lovely Mom ( Celebrating your last 12 birthdays with God is just too smart :(:()

Typical to every mom in the world
You never stopped believing on your children , You never stopped fighting , you never lost hope on anything , you never stopped loving anyone , you never spoke a angry word to anyone, you never stopped smiling at people you knew ,probably God knee the only way tostop you was to take you with him way too early ,but for me till my last breath you will be the greatest mother in the world , the greatest human being I ever knew and the angel who gave me life , who taught me love. 

Love you loads and loads Mom - Happy Birthday again and thanks for everything you gave to me -Being called your son will always be the pride of my life :):):)!!!!

Happy 37 th Wedding Anniversary To A Wonderful Mom and A Incomparable Dad !!!

                          "Life begins through them --through their unbridled love we learn what life is ,through those watchful eyes we grow ,,through those supportive hands we learn to walk through the dangers of life ,,through those pair of wonderful souls we find the path to our destiny --then they watch happily as we run towards our destiny --to make sure we dont stop or fall ---for me even more so  since  my angelic mom is not physically with me --she watches from heaven as ever with a beautiful smile,,,its true -that 
                   "there is no bigger God in life than mom --no better inspiration than a father "

                                                             I blog now as a married man --married to a wonderful simple human being --Now i realise the real values of husband and wife --- all the more reason i still startle even more as i think back to my wonderful parents rarely ever having a arguement right till the time my angelic mom passed away ---For every son / daughter their parents are the most important people in their lives because our beginning was from them ---what we are stems from what they wanted us to be from the moment we were born .
                                                            Its been almost 12 years since i lost my mom --but i still vividly remember the 20 years i spent with her while she kept shovering me enedless love --during that time i also watched how much she loved,cared ,respected my dad ---i still rememeber as a kid she used to say to all of us kids "I will leave before your  dad with this kumkum"--"kumkum (kungumam in tamil) is something that married ladies in south give huge ,huge importance ---my mom loved it so much ---wearing sarees and having that kumkum on her forehead made her the happiest person in the world--and she kept her word till her last .

                                                             My dad ,,my first inspiration in life --and still continues to be a guiding source in my journey ---cant imagine me doing what he did to his kids --he used to drop and pick me up from my school which was close to my house every day for 17 yrs --and if that is not mindboggling --he kept doing it for another 4 years till i finished my Mechanical Engineering --To be a father you have to be one --hopefully i will be blessed one day to know how it would be to do what he has done tirelessly a whole life ,,,hes now edging on 70 yet he remains ever as active in my life as he was when i was a toddler .
                                                            As a kid August 31 st was always one of the happiest day of my life --it beough me joy ,,,it brought me special little gifts from my parents --it brought me a smile always that made me feel like heaven ---maybe the celebrations of those days were gone once my mom left --but the wonderful memories from such wonderful parents always makes me a smile a bit even now on the same date --some dates in life are magical as i found out recently when i got married :).
                                                            I may end up being lost in this frantic world --i may end up as a failure --i may end up falling short of  my wishes in life --but nothing will take away my pride,, happiness and endless joy of being called  son to my great  parents ----that single line will keep reverbrating in my heart and mind more than any other in my life..

                                                         " Enjoy the time whilst they are there --they are not going to be there forever --but there will   never ever be someone as caring,supportive ,wonderful and magical as our parents--Love them as much as u can and respect them more than you can " 

Aftermath of the horrendous heart wrenching building that collapsed in Chennai leaving 61 Killed :(:(!!!

http://www.hindustantimes.com/news-feed/indiatemplate/chennai-building-collapse-toll-rises-to-61-probe-panel-set-up/article1-1236536.aspx
                                                What does a common man require?-- A family to support -- A job to fullfill our passion and ambition --and A HOUSE TO FEEL SAFE AND SECURED ---and for some that is lifelong dream --fighting for that  dream in endless odds and countless troublesome days and nights ---that very dream is what we live for --fight for and very importantly motivate ourselves to achieve such dreams amidst lot of humiliations and hurdles.

                                                I still don't own a house in my work city - Chennai -- My dream since i moved out 7 years  before  from my native place Trichy is to have a own house --and i have searched almost the entire span of Chennai in all these years trying to find a house that will end my search but now it seems even more treacherous as to whom to believe and more importantly whether it is worth the struggles and belief to fight for something that might just crash down for a SLIGHT HEAVY RAIN !!!

                                                    It pains to keep reading about how some people got saved after days  because it also means a lot of them we could not save because of lethargy of people responsible ---As a common man --my concern is not only abt the wrong people to be punished ---it is whether worth to dream even anymore of a house in Chennai amidst this horrifying happenings  ???

                                               My dream took a absolute jolt by this horrendous news few days back ---and im sure im not the only one who questions whether it is worth to have that dream in this situation --"Blame anyone but the wrath is always ours" ---Is their a bigger sin than killing dreams of millions ---Again --we will end up with questions that will also be put to rest like so many other issues--Hoping for a dawn some day ---some day far far away it seems -- RIP to thos who passed away -- all we could do is be sold out idiots to such masterminds whomsover was responsible for this pathetic mistake :(!!!

                                            (Kudos to the wonderful people who are responsible to this pathetic heart wrenching news ---61 people have precisely been murdered --and in few days this will have no semblance to our life--it will just be one incident among countless in  our sad recent history)

Spending time with family is always priceless happiness :)!!!

Dedicated to the millions who love family to core but hardly find enough time to enjoy the beauty to be with them just those extra few minutes due to 

" We go in quest of our dreams --that we are not eventually lost is because of two people who
   kept  watching us from the moment we were born --Our Parents !!!"
                                                         
                                                                  This other day while i was with  a conversation with a friend who studied in best colleges in India ---said this " One day when im gone --what do all these paper presentations mean ---Nothing --The more this thought comes i just want to spend more time with my family --most with my parents --because i know they are not goin to stay with me for life "

                                                                   I knew the sheer  weight of pain in  those words ---i have had the priveleage of living the first 20 years with the most amazing woman in world as mother and equally never stopped admiring the grit and hard work of my father --and i have had also the tough luck of grinding through day after day without my mother ever since she passed away in 2002 --- life runs so fast sometimes --i could still remember my young days so vividly --yet some incidents have gone past 25 years !!!

                                                                    I have moved from place to place ---i have had some heartbreaking failures ---had so many shattered hopes ---moved on from school friends to college friends to business friends ---all along there was just one constant ---my family --they have followed me like a shawdow --only thing --i had a beautiful mother waving bye every single day in my school life --now i wave her bye every day in picture --for me it is same --for i had an absolutely amazing person as mother --and a dad who dropped me up and down till i finished college is now happily at peace enjoying life with grandkids--i know i wont have this for eternity -nobody has ---but how many realise its important to sit with them once a while --smile with them --share with them happiness ---hold their hands when they get old ---we run ,,run and run seemingly endlessly --if only we realised they can't run with us everywhere we would spend more time with them .
                                                                   Today when i see a young 5 yr old calling his/her mother to come with them to places they go--- while in reality it is the parents who go after them to make sure they are not lost--and each and every mom and dad in this world do that for a whole life ---their whole life we become the dreams --their reality --their reason to live --atleast that is what i have seen most of my life -now i know i can stand on my on --because of them --but they need us when we know we can stand on our own --not every single minute but atleast a few more minutes that what we can afford .
                                                                 
                                                                     Probably the biggest block comes when we choose our life partner --in most cases where love is reason for marriage--it becomes the same reason that pushes away parents from their kids ---but the matter of fact beyond all those things the love of a son/daughter towards his /her parents never dwindles just because there is someone else in their life --the thing is we guys want to share a bit of love to that person who loves us unconditionally --but often the case is misunderstood as a permanent barrier to relationship between kids and parents ---often it is time the winner --because when we realise the mistake not only would we have lost precious time we would lost them too ---Its a fine line where maybe the younger ones have to hold on to the older ones--but in our emotionally driven society often the case is "either in" or "forever done"(Fortunately or unfortunately i never fell in love to judge upon the outcome ).Somewhere there has to be a balance and often find a uneven terrible imbalance shifted to the faulty ones always being the ones who fall in love whilst it could always be nice if it was seen as a sharing of love kids have for their parents --somewhat like baton of love being passed from parents to their kids for their next generation --but i know all these are fairy tale fantasies that may never happen in our society :P
                                                                        
                                                                " Any day could be your last as much as any day could be your best ---its left for you to decide how do u take your life"
                                                                  ---  but the probabilities of having best days often hinges upon our family ---our parents ---and then later on in your life with your better half and your kids --try spending more time with them --enjoy the warmth of life with people who stand by you always ---after all life is about the smiles ,the fights ,,the mistakes we regret ,,the thoughts ,the lessons we learn from them ,,the silly fun we enjoyed with our parents that will keep us goin till the end of life ---what we learnt from them will be the path to our future with our family ---so as much as possible spend those few moments with them --money ,fame nothing comes close to being with them --never has and never will ,,,

   I remember reading sumwhere --
     As you grow ---there are two things you will know ---one life ahead is yours 
                                            but always LIFE IS BECAUSE OF THEM "
                                                      spend those extra  few minutes with them --in the end it might be the most priceless minutes you spent in life " 
Cheers !!!                
                           

                                                                    


                                                                

Women Are The Soul To Life In This World !!!

        What it is to be a woman??/ -- I imagined this might be the answer of a average  women living in my society --

  " I'm butchered ,Im Targeted every single minute by million eyes --i don't know who's prey i           will  end upon
    I am not allowed to love --im not allowed to speak up --im not allowed to wear dresses i wish
   I am not allowed to live life as i want --- yet somewhere there is a me in everything i see in              this  world
    Respect is something that is written in paper for me -never for real --all this for being a                  woman "
                                                                   
                                                                    --An answer that pitimises the state of  most women in my society --Make no mistake this is not the plight of every woman that is out there ---but most ---and im downright ashamed to be part of a generation that refuses to take steps to create  better environment for women--We  wish for every women in this country  to be  protected by a policeman  --We wish women are confined to houses rather than walking out --we wish to bury their dreams than to nurture them for a better India - We wish for all practical impossibilities and never implement our hearts to give them the world they want --atleast that is what it seems now with tha innumerous incidents and tortures women undergo in this part of world .

                                                                      The reason for our existence is a woman --the reason we learnt meaning of love is because of a woman --the reason we live is to be taught more of that word from women in our lives --Mother who gives u life --sister who supports you --a wife who stands by you --frds from opposite gender who wish nothing but good for you ---but do they get the respect they deserve ???do they get recognised beyond the fact they r women?? Dont they deserve more than eagle eyes in offices ??

                                                                     I remember once a quote from one of my best friends who was working in a office dominated by males and i quote "You have no idea how it is to work in a office when people dont see your face and talk every single minute and how many eyes see you differently for no fault of mine ",,the pain of those words were evident for the person was one of the most genuinely good people i have known in life --i had no words then --probably girls are not allowed to speak in that vein in places where i live in --choices are not available for most to choose the life they want to live .
                                     
                                                                     Recently i read two murders of girls who got butchered by mad dogs ,raped and murdered ---this keeps happening again and again ,,,the case of nirbhaya still haunts me in my heart and it will do so for the rest of life --because every month there are increasing cases --now that girls working in big companies like TCS  are not spared even near office premises , The cases keep stacking up no ends ,,where is the solution ?,,Its practically impossible to give protection to every single woman in this world ,its left to the upcoming generation to be taught of the greatness of woman and giving them the due respect which has not happened for a long long time ,unless the seed is sown in hearts of upcoming generations that a woman is a priceless possession a man can have in life  and taught that hurting a woman is like hurting your own mother --after all she is a woman too .
                                                               
                                                                     If not respected for what they are ,i hope they are not atleast thrown acids for not loving ,not murdered for few mins of lust ,,not hurt for being a woman --because being born a woman is not a fault --the world exists because of them --they are reasons the world has not gone extinct 

             "They are reasons for our beginning -why should we be the end to their dreams "

                                                                   From someone who was blessed with the most wonderful woman in the world as mother --some amazing women as sisters --some great women as teachers --few wonderful women as friends -- truly know the value what they have given to me in life -simply incomparable and priceless -they are soul to life in this world !!!!!