" If only we realise facebook is just a media to spread happiness and a way to stay in touch with our loved ones who live far away "
"I dumped her before she could even think abt tht "--my frd said to me yesterday morning --i quizzed back What ,,When ,How and Why ?--he replied "Just Now --In facebook "--I was like R u Kidding me --In facebook ????--he said yes we had a chat abt couple of status messages i put up after a misunderstanding we had few days back--she showed lot of attitude back and i decided thats that --i unfriended her sending her message that it is all over "
----This was a conversation i had about two people who loved long before they came into facebook and ended it for a prolonged exchanges of status messages ,It baffled me to believe they it ended in facebook ,because facebook can be used to bridge so many distant souls that yearn to feel true happiness !!!!
Facebook a Boon alrite
My Schooling got over around 15 years back ---As is case of many of us --our journey begins after school life --we all move in different directions in search of our destiny --This facebook is a boon to people who keep running --we are almost out of touch from most of our close friends --Facebook enables us to keep in touch with all those people --Helps us create a feeling that we are not completely lost from our dear ones --and all of us are scattered in different parts of the world --My best friends live thousand miles apart --and some of my schoolmates libe in places like America and New Zealand --the probablilty of meeting them is next to zero added most of them have young families ---When i see the pictures of those it makes me feel lot better that atleast i know that they exist far apart but seem so close by Face Book --When something brings you happiness and wonderful memories it should be a boon alrite without question or is it ?
Facebook is a source of social networking -- was always meant to be so !!
But what really transpires --Plz read on
People seemingly have developed new habits of using(misusing should i say) facebook non stop ---As one of my friends quoted
"You cant find a single regular visitor to facebook who has not deactivated his account atleast once "(I have done that probably countless times after certain frustrations)
* When u get angry on sumone --Boom there is a status update cursing them
* When two people have misunderstanding --Facebook seems to be the mode to show who is bigger of the two --supposedly of countless silly messages indirectly mentioning each other .
* When people hate certain people /community /group --they use facebook as a source to strengthen their claims --A certain clear example is of the posts i read about Being Atheist -- at the end of day isnt it just about belief ?--People who believe there is god are Theist people who dont are Atheist --some of my best frds are atheist and im strict God believer ---i find it increasingly difficult to read posts of one group tryin to show with example that they are righteous than other -
"THAT WE EXIST TOGETHER AS FRIENDS ,PARTNERS ,COLLEAGUES DESPITE ALL THIS IS ENOUGH PROOF THAT ALL THIS IS NOTHING BUT WASTING OUR PRECIOUS TIME ARGUING NEEDLESSLY"
* Another Example ---A Group being started in the name of Dhoni Haters and people fighting the hell out of each other using derogatory words against ppl involved and everyone --sumtimes it borders on the level of extreme levels of atrocity --(Im not a avid Dhoni Follower --But just quoting a example of how it is being misused by people to stress personal hatred or anger on sumone they dont like )
My Perespective ;
I remember aquote
"Life is like a mirror -- If the mirror is a reflection of what you are ---things you do actually show what sort of person you are "
"Facebook will be what you want it to be ---whether you want to look it as a garbage or a beautiful garden of efferevescent flowers is in our hands --If you have a misunderstanding why not talk directly ?--if u have disappointments why not have patience to overcome those moments --if u dislike a person why not it be a individual feeling --why do we need approval of others to strengthen each and every thing we feel right ---Facebook was not created to prove that we are better than others --it is not a source to prove sumbody is inferior or sumbody is superior ---It is not a site which holds a placard which says "Come throw your garbage on me "--The why this endless ,supposedly restless fights to prove who is better than other using facebook ---After all we are already doing that in our day to day life --Egos ,fights ,anger ,explicit language seems to be everywhere in our lives already why include that in facebook too ?"
Let facebook be a social networking site that is meant to connect people across the world --to share happiness ---to smile for right reasons --to stay in touch with our school mates who played with us as kids -to stay in touch with people whom we are far awat -there are not too many ways to know how happy they r other than these kind of networks---to ruin it ot live happily with it rest in our hands .
( This is strictly my perspective after experiencing both sides of what i have mentioned --i have been part of both sides ---i have misused facebook as a media to vent my frustration on the other hand i have had some amazing magical moments to behold for life --I feel that Facebook could be better used for people to spread more happiness because it is a great boon for people all around --Anything mentioned that hurts sentiments of certain people is highly regretted as it is not the purpose of this blog )
Cheers
* Outpouring of rage --debates all over media ,Angry outburst --and as soon as time flies all this are just a incident of past ---I feel as much as gutted seeing the barbarious actions by people who could not be categorised as human beings anymore after abusing a tender 5 yr old --There is a survey which has shown that abusing of women of all ages has just increased by the years . Strict Laws ,Stronger punishment all are fine but most of this can be avoided if the basics are put in proper place as a child grows-be it girl or boy --the beginning plays a very significant part in how u develop as a person.
Along the line just think about the following points
* Not many parents have time to teach girls about the various touches --so that they can differentiate between people trying to misbehave with them --ignorance is one of main issues why such terrible things happen --girls fall prey to such animals just because they dont know enuf --even a 5 yr old can be made aware if we are careful .Kids are so smart these days while so young which is undeniable .
* How many students are taught about sex in their young years --Only when u know what is right u could stop the wrong --to make it a hidden fact for years and suddenly expecting a teenage girl to know what it is just because of her age is unfair --and im saying it from growing in a society where the word is strictly prohibited to even utter in our teens .It has not changed for generations though there seems to be slight improvement it just isnt enuf to awaken a society.
* How many schools make it compulsory for girls to learn basic protective skills against impending dangers ?Physical training is important but nowadays its even more important of girls knowing how to protect themselves against impending dangers--Is it not grave enuf already for ppl to empasise on this fact in schools ?
* Its very important to sit with growing up children and ask about their doubts and hesitations --Most of them just look for alternatives among themselves and often end up with wrong solutions.I remember my struggles as a growing kid when i had so many doubts but was so scared that i might be seen wrongly .
* Its no big secret that the best way to know about a teenage son/daughter is to see to their friends --like minded people often become best friends as per so many psychological analysis .
* Debates are out for banning porn videos --I seriously dont believe in this concept ---the more u try to hide something -the more the urge to find what it is ---there are millions of guys here in India and not every one of us are rapist --and banning such sites would increase the danger of more mishaps and more illetracy in this regard --its plain ridiculous to blame on such issues when a act of individual responsibility is all needed to arrest this danger --not banning websites --people know what lies in it and people dont live in it all day-again the numbers who are addicted are outnumbered by ones who arent ---seriously it is a lame issue if we are aware of our duties and responsibilities .
http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/sunny-leone-john-abraham-on-porn-debate-358223
A very valid point that i saw in NDTV recently --points from Sunny Leone and John Abraham just comply the fact im putting up ---I quote from John "Did rapes existed before porn -yes "and Sunny Leone's point that its just fantasy and entertainment --maybe they have a point --its not for people who think its real--do we perform WWE actions just because we are followers or fans of the sport ? .
* I studied in a boys school completely --i studied for 14 years in a same school where there were only boys --despite childish urges ---teenages quests to know about opposite genders --there was not once incident which had slightest of such horrific resemblances --strictly dedicated teachers --strict parents --involvement in academic performances took centrestage --and i have never heard any such remorseless act by people who came out from my school or even from my location and im talkin abt lakhs of people for prolonged period of time --It applies to so many places in India --Not all people act so remorselessly ---infact the numbers who are responsible by heart outdo such mannerless creatures(I hate to call them human beings).
* I read a placard saying "Dont tell me how to dress --ask your son to behave properly "--I have a problem with lines as such---responsibility is same for both genders ---U cant deny there is no provocation if sumone dresses bit too modern ---If a girl dresses in a bikini what do u expect a teenage guy to do --close his eyes and go --its hard --responsibility has to be there from both sides ---Its ok to be modern but to blame it solely on male society is not fair --there are millions of us who dont act like animals --there is significant need for taking up responsibility honestly believing there are lot of us who could outdo few of this mindless acts by such remorseless animals .
* Responsibility begins from us --every one of us ---from safeguarding ourselves first --then taking care of our children --trying to teach them whats right and whats wrong --teaching them what they need to know rather than what is just in books ---books dont safeguard our lives against barbarious acts --practical knowledge has to be implemented --for that to be implemented it has to get taught in the right age in right way .
* Concealing everything --hiding everything --will eventually lead to fighting against sumthing that has happened --why not be protective --being bit more responsible --being a little more aware --little more clarified on whats right and whats not and what should be done it aint right ---could make our country a better place to live --to expect lakhs of policemen to fight against a country whose populations is in millions is asking virtually for impossible to be possible ,,to fight for few days --hold placards for right things hoping justice will come knocking our doors are all just hoping against hope ,As i said as days go by all this becomes just a incident of past --its like you are using a painkiller to kill pain but what about wound which creates pain ?
* Our country our place -our people --to make it a worse place to live or better place to reside is entirely in our hands ---Can we sustain this fight on roads for months ?Can we do it day in day out forgetting about our individual pressures in life -the answer is "No ",The only way to counter this situations or lessen such happenings is by being aware and teaching awareness --by being careful and askin our dear ones to be careful --In simple terms "Just being more responsible "is all it requires to face such adverse situations ,,"Every Individuals Responsibility Is A Nation's pride "!!
("I promise to act more responsibly--this is my place --I Respect women --and Im Not A Rapist --Millions like me arent --people who do this heinous crime dont belong to human race at all --will never be so too )
"செந்தமிழ் நாடெனும் போதினிலே - இன்பத் தேன்வந்து பாயுது காதினிலே"
---மகாகவி பாரதியார்---தமிழ் மண்ணில்
பிறந்த ஒவ்வொரு மனிதனும் மறக்கக்கூடாத
மாமேதை ,சில நாட்களுக்கு முன்னர் நண்பர் வீட்டுக்கு சென்ற பொது அவரின் 6
வயது மகன் விளையாட்டாக என்னிடம் தன் பள்ளிகூடத்தில் மாறுவேஷ போட்டியில்
தான் பாரதியார் போல் வேடம் அணிந்த புகைப்படத்தை பெருமிதத்தோடு
காண்பித்தான் ,,நான் கேட்டேன் இவர் யாரு என்று தெரியுமா கண்ணா --அதற்கு
அவன் சிறு பிள்ளை என்று நிருபிப்பது போல் "இவரு நம்ம சுதந்திரத்துக்கு
ஆங்கிலேயர்க்கு எதிராக போராடின வீரரு தானே மாமா "--ஆம் என்று தலையசைத்தேன்
--மனதிற்குள் இளம் வயதில் இவரை பற்றிய என் எண்ணங்கள் ஓடியது ---அவற்றில்
சில
சாதாரண வீரன் இல்லை இந்த "முண்டாசு கவிஞன் "--சக்தி வாய்ந்த குர்மையான
எழுத்துகளால் இந்த பிரபஞ்சத்தையே திரும்பி பார்க்க வைத்த புரட்சி தமிழன்
ஆயிற்றே --இன்று உள்ள சமுதாயத்திற்கு இந்த மாமேதையை பற்றி சில தகவல்கள் மற்றுமே தெரிகிறது --எழுத
துடிக்கின்ற ஒவ்வொரு மனிதனும் பெருமையாக ஏற்க வேண்டிய ஒப்பில்லா முன்னோடி
, ஜாதி வெறி பிடித்து தலை விரித்து ஆடுகின்ற எம் சமுதாயம் திரும்பி
பார்க்க வேண்டிய லட்சிய தமிழன் --வயதை எண்ணி வாழ்கையை நகற்றும்
சோம்பேறிகளின் சவுக்கடி சான்று-- இவரின் வாழ்க்கை வெறும் 39 வருடங்களே
--ஆனால் செய்த புரட்சி -வாழ்ந்த வீர வாழ்க்கை --இவ்வுலகம் இருக்கும் வரை
அழியாதது !!
எனது இளம் வயதில் பாரதியார் மீது ஏற்பட்ட வியப்பு வாழ்வின்
கடைசி வரைக்கும் இருக்கும் --நான் படித்த வாழ்க்கை வரலாறுகள் வெகு சில
---அதில் திரு சுந்தரம் அவர்களின் புத்தகம் மிகவும் முக்கியமானது
--பாரதியார் பற்றியது ,எனது சிறிய வருத்தம் மாறி வரும் காலத்தினால்
பாரதியார் போன்ற மேதைகளின் வாழ்க்கை வரலாறு வெறும் புத்தகங்களாக நூலகத்தில்
இருந்துவிட போகிறதே என்று தான் !!
மறக்கக்கூடாத அந்த மாமேதையின் வாழ்க்கை குறிப்புக்கள் சில
* 11 டிசம்பர் 1882 எட்டயபுரம் என்ற இடத்தில் பிறந்தார்
* 7 வயதில் தாயும் தந்தையும் இழந்தவர் ,15 வயதில் செல்லம்மாள் அவர்களை மணந்தார்
* 4 வருடங்கள் காசியில் பின்னர் ஆசிரியராக பணிபுரிந்தார்
* இளம்வயதில் தமிழ் மீது தீர தாகம் கொண்டவராக அறியப்பட்டார் ,இளங்கோவடிகள் ,கம்பன் ,திருவள்ளுவர் இணையாக பேசப்பட்டார் ,,இந்தியாவின் சுதந்திரத்தின் மீது தீராத தாகம் கொண்டவராக திகழ்ந்தார் ,தாம் ஒரு இந்தியர் பின்னரே தமிழன் என்று மார் தட்டி சொல்லிய மேதை !!
* தமிழ் மொழி எம் தாய் என்று பெருமை பொங்க பறை சாற்றியவர்
"யாமறிந்த மொழிகளிலே தமிழ்மொழி போல் இனிதாவது எங்கும் காணோம்"
புலமையாக ஆங்கிலம் ,ஹிந்தி சமஸ்க்ரிதம் ,பெங்காலி போன்ற பல மொழிகளை
அறிந்தவராயியுனும் தமிழ் மீது தீரா பற்று கொண்டவராக இருந்தார்
* சாதிகளின் அவ நம்பிக்கைகளை ஒழிக்க கடுமையாக போராடினார் --
" ஜாதி மதங்களைப் பாரோம் -
உயர் ஜன்மம்இத் தேசத்தில் எய்தின ராயின்
வேதிய ராயினும் ஒன்றே -
அன்றி வேறு குலத்தின ராயினும் ஒன்றே "
( We shall not look at caste or religion, All human beings in this land -
whether they be those who preach the vedas or who belong to other castes
- are one)
* 1908 பிறகு எண்ணற்ற போரட்டங்களை பல இடங்களில்
,நிறுவினார் ,,திரு திலக் ,திரு ,ஆரோபிண்டோ ,திரு கப்பலோட்டிய தமிழன்
சிதம்பரம் பிள்ளை போன்ற சக சரித்திர நாயகர்களின் துணையோடு ஆங்கிலேயரை வீறு
கொண்டு எதிர்த்தார்,
* "ஸ்வராஜ்" --முறையை திடமாக நம்பினார் --இளம்
வயது மக்கள் தாங்க முன்னுக்கு வந்து உயிர் தியாகம் செய்ய கூட அச்ச படகூடாது
என்று இளைஞர் சமுதாயத்தை விழிப்படைய செய்தார்
* "வந்தே
மாத்திரம் ","எந்தையும் தாயும் " "ஜெயா பாரத் "போன்ற சுதந்திர கவிதைகளை
அச்சிட்டு இலவசமாக மக்களின் விளிபுனர்விற்காக வழங்கினார்
* "1912
இல் பகவத் கீதை பற்றி தமிழில் கருத்துகளையும் மற்றும் அதன் மூலம் தனது
படைப்புகள் "கண்ணன் பாட்டு ","குயில் பாட்டு ,மற்றும் "பாஞ்சாலி சபதம்"
எழுதினார் .
* 1918 ஆங்கிலேயர் கைது செய்யப்பட்டு சிறையும்
சென்றார்
* 1919 ,1920 இல் காந்திஜியை சந்தித்தார்
* 11 செப்டம்பர் 1921 இல் மறைந்தார்
பாரதியாரின் படைப்புகளில் சில
விடுதலை! விடுதலை! விடுதலை!
பறைய ருக்கும் இங்கு தீயர்
புலைய ருக்கும் விடுதலை
பரவ ரோடு குறவருக்கும்
மறவ ருக்கும் விடுதலை
திறமை கொண்டதீமை யற்ற
தொழில் புரங்ந்து யாவரும்
தேர்ந்த கல்வி ஞானம் எய்தி
வாழ்வம் இந்த நாட்டிலே.
இந்தியாவை பற்றி பெருமையாக எண்ணற்ற கவிதைகளை எழுதி உள்ளார்
மன்னு மிமய மலையெங்கள் மலையே
மாநில மீதிது போற்பிறி திலையே
இன்னறு நீர்கங்கை யாறெங்களாறே
இங்கிதன் மாண்பிற் கெதிரெது வேறே
பன்னரு முபநிட நூலெங்கள் நூலே
பார்மிசை யேதொரு நூலிது போல
பொன்னொளிர் பாரத நாடெங்கள் நாடே
பொற்றுவ மிதை யெமக்கிலை யீடே---
" தீராத கவலை பொதிந்த சாதாரண மனித வாழ்க்கை சற்று நீடிப்பினால் என்ன பயன்
தரும்? நான் கவலையை ஒழித்தேன். ஆதலால் எப்போதும் வாழ்வேன். ஆதலால் கவலையை
விட்டேன். கவலையாலும் பயத்தாலும் மரணமுண்டாகிறது. கவலையும் பயமும் பகைவர்.
நான் இப்பகைவரை வென்று தீர்த்தேன். ஆதலால் மரணத்தை வென்றேன். நான் அமரன்."
அச்சமில்லை அச்சமில்லை என்று பாடிய மாமேதையின் இறுதி சடகின் போது இருந்தது மொத்தம் 14 நபர்களே !!!
பாடல்களின் தொகுப்புகள் எழுத எண்ணற்ற பக்கங்கள் தேவை படும் ,மகாகவி
பாரதியார் போன்ற மாமேதைகள் இனி பிறப்பது அரிது --சரித்திரம் போற்றிய அகிலமே
பாராட்டிய அற்புத மனிதர் ,,இந்திய வரலாற்றில் மிக முக்கியமான
மனிதர்களில் ஒருவர் ,புரட்சியாளர்,எழுத்துகளில்
விண்ணையே தொட்ட அதிசய மனிதர் --வருங்காலம் மறக்க கூடாத சரித்திர நாயகன்
--என்றுமே நானும் பாரதியை போல தமிழன் என்று பெருமையை தரும் "முண்டாசு
கவிஞன் "-மகாகவி பாரதியார் --உம்மை மறவேல் என்றுமே !!!!!!
( Written with references from books and net and endless admiration for this great pioneer of tamil poems --Special thanks to my Tamil Teacher Dharmanathan Sir without whom i would have never loved my language as i do now --Thanks Sir )
"I prefer my memories rather than fanciful dreams --no dream would ever be better than the
wonderful memories frozen in my mind of the most wonderful human being I ever knew
------------- My Mother ----------------!
" There are times in life when u feel as if walking with a wonderful cool breeze and a lovely little drizzle drops hitting your face --A moment when ur heart feels heavy and light at the same precise moment -- A moment when u feel urself as the brightest star that is invisible to the whole world --the brightness will be only for us - to make us feel better than the previous sad moment --Such memories are priceless and inevitable in our lives ---for me it has been always been one great person's memory that has driven me far away from my worries --one absolutely irreplaceable ,impeccable queen of my life ---My Mother !".
This kept ringing my head again and again -What makes a mother so remarkable --she is just another human being right --- well maybe not !! , There are times when u feel that there is a possibility that every relation could be half replaced by sumone --there are wonderful human beings spread across the world -- brothers ,sisters , a elderly teacher could act as a fatherly figure sometimes ,,,a wonderful girlfriend lost may be replaced by a equally wonderful wife ---but I could not imagine the same said for a mother --She can never be replaced --10 years and bit have rolled by without my mother and the void she left remains too large for me to even think of half replacing her -recently after falling to serious bout of chicken pox -I could see what really is magnaminous in a mother --with all due respects to all the wonderful people I ever knew and have --there seemed a distinct feeling that she was incomparable and irreplaceable -- Simply the most unique mother a son could have had .
A mother is irreplaceable because ----
She gives everything without expecting anything --forever
She smiles a moment before you realise a happiness
She feels the wetness of ur tears before it comes our of ur eye
She forgives u just seeing ur eyes after a mistake
She holds you strongly when whole world is crumbling around u
and I just want to add one more poignant point from my personal feeling
"In moments of despair and sadness --when u feel so down --she just comes near u
and runs her hand though ur hair holding herself to u ---a magical touch that kills
everything that hurts u - so much so u feel heaven in those moments "
My love ,admiration,,never ceased ever in life and probably never will for my mother ever since I called her mother for the first time --but recently I found my respect for her grow even more seeing some unfortunate incidents --the fact that 20 years of my life with her had not a single moment of any such incident was testimony to how much she should have resisted some tough moments to leave this kind of impression on people who knew her ---Recently I met a old family friend after 20 yrs ---the first thing she said was --Seeing u reminds me of your lovely mother --- I felt happy hearing those words --10 and half years have gone yet the memory of a person remains as fresh as a morning daisy --I felt that is how u should be remembered --that is how mothers are known and remembered in this world and I had the best mother I felt as would every proud son /daughter would feel of their mothers .
Through Incidents ,Occasions ,People ,Pictures ,Words ,Quotes and sometimes even when im unwell my admiration for my mother keeps growing and the respect I have for her keeps growing --because if my life has reached this stage it was all of one marvellous person's relentless pursuit to allow me to believe even in direst of situations --that is why she remains the greatest person I ever knew in my life --ever irreplaceable --with respect even just more as life rolls on --as I see every little kid with his /her mother I just smile seeing them thinking --"there is a good chance that person whom u r holding ur hand now will be the best person of ur life --no matter how long she stays with you --just pray it is for a eternity "
" If happiness is about everlasting memories --then yes im the happiest person in the world
Courtesy --An Incomparable Mother "
Cheers :)
" Life as a whole is a jouney to be at peace with urself --everything else matters less"
10 days of relentless attack from a intense chicken pox put through me rigorous self examination at where i stand in life --Questions kept ringing in my head --"Whether all the struggles to satisfy everyone benefitted me in any stead ? Every person in this world wants to leave a legacy that is earmarked atleast to his next generation ---Its good to hope for rosy things - but life is more about than good hope --the time of self realisation is the most important respect you could give urself --the real journey of every individual begins there. In factual and practical acts in life the most important aspect in our lives is will power which is very important in the art of self realisation
"Your outlook is a mere reflection of what your will power allows you to be "
Im saying from my own journey --a journey from the past 20 odd years --the first incident when I was affected badly by a school friend refusing to talk because of a silly fight as expected--the fear of losing that friend gave me sleepless nights --crying on my mom's shoulder in fear of losing that friend --I still remember that day --because that was the day that started my fearful journey --the next day I acted in a way he was happy --everything was fine again --except something I did not notice then --that became a habit -the fear of being the reason for my loved one's tear ,,the fear of losing sumone I love --the fear of hurting unknowingly and knowingly all made me forget "that something "amidst the pursuit to become what somebody wishes and wants --it all had became too habitual yet it hardly prevented the eventuality --people still left as they wished --people still got hurt --the habit remained inefficient unknowingly because the person I was born to be never changed though the reality never set in --the self realising part was missing for a very very long time.
There was a time when with the exuberance of youth I was part of encouraging events and acts of friends knowing deep it was wrong yet did nothing than just watching ,,when asked to be part of that I could not --and that led to few more breakups ,uneasy sleepless nights --I always felt sumthing bad coming but never had guts to know how to handle it --because of the fear factor --the fear of losing ppl was bigger than the reality --that is what gave me countless sleepless nights ,,as years rolled --educational life got over --the habit never died --it went on bit into my professional life --"that sumthing kept on lurking around unnoticed for me to take notice "--the beauty of ageing in life is you learn to see in urself--self introspection sets in --the goals to achieve ,,the long road ahead seems a challenge and deep down u know unless u eradicate the obvious flaws in life and for me the biggest flaw was my "fear "factor for losing .
I remember a old saying
"If you start running away from your fears --all u will do is start running in the same circle
again and again ---till your time runs out "
There was a time in the last fortnight when my temperature crossed 105 --and I prayed to my dear life ,god and mom to help me see the morrow --The pain of disease seemed less when I thought "Had I done wht I wanted "and "Am I now what I was destined "--the answer was no --The reason was I haven't yet "Self Realised "--not given enough respect to myself as a person --as much as I had given to people around me ---running after people all life to get noticed when they gave least importance to me as person --forgetting the people who kept running along with me for me to stand and notice -- Probably I never understood the fact "In life you don't waste even a single minute bcoz u never get them back "until recently --when I woke up the morning after a terrible scary night --I decided that if it was not now --it will be never ---if the seeds are not sown now --then my life will just be a beautifully decorated book with nothing inside it but empty plain papers --it wont mean a damn to anyone and be just a waste of a opportunity given to me to do sumthing -- have to be a good reason to sumone in the future --that is my biggest duty for being in this place ,,in this life -that is how i saw myself always .
I just let go people for good ,,decided to stop things I did without liking ,I just paused to see people who were running with me all along unnoticed --i could see who wanted me to see the next day after a horrendous journey --they were not many --not even handful were left after my self introspection led to lot of unhappy closures of people i kept running all life --"People stay with u for what u r "--and i decided to respect them above all egostic ,selfish people in life whom i had kept running for --i have had enough i said myself --Enough !!
Im gona be 32 by the end of this night --and i have had this habit kill me for the best part of 25 years of my life--Its time i killed that habit --Its time for me to rest the "Fear Factor"--maybe begin sumthing in life with lot, lot less people ,,lot less sleepless nights waits for me in future ---there are times when the feeling of regret makes u go bonkers --self realisation helps us in making sure we don't regret our important decisions --the initial part might be tough but the journey will be sumthing that will give u peace having made them realising the person u were born to be .
Self Realisation --may not give u a picture perfect life
may not give friends that world will envy
may not give you as the best person that ever existed
may never give you your dream life
But what it gives u with guarantee is "The Real You "--who would have been missing ever since u knew abt this world --"In the end that is what matters --u exist for a reason and u wont know that until u know about urself --Never change urself for anyone --Never wear a mask to satisfy people around you --Just be urself --the earlier you realise the better for life --after all one short life--lets make it count "
( I feel stronger as a person after my recent plights ---i don't fear anymore for people leaving me for not being sumone they wished --neither do i want to do things that i feel is wrong --it doesn't matter anymore whether i'm born to satisfy everyone in the world --no one can be Omni good in this world--All i want is to "See me through my own eyes first "--rest will take care by itself --All this is wrought out of very strong emotional feelings after a terrible time recently ---I reiterate all this is my perspective as a individual --any sentiments hurt is regretted as i value each and everyone who takes time to read blogs i write )
C ya Soon
To my sweetest brother Sandeep Sheoron who celebrates his birthday today --Happy Bday Brother --Luv U loads )
" Every Birthday is a chance for me to know that im not lonely and more imporatantly a chance for me to know the people i should never forget in life "
How do you show u love sumone truelly ?-How do u show to people you care for them from bottom of heart ? How do you find a opportunity to get a sure forgiveness for a silly mistake?How do you express your respect to sumone who means lot to u ?How do you share your happiness with sumone u know ?---Well im not creating a quiz competetion --but all these has one common simple answer --one simple day to remember --"Birthday" of that particular person--Some might say whats the big deal--"Its just another day "--the truth it just isnt just another day if the person is sumone whom u love truelly or if the person is sumone who loves you dearly --its just not a show off day--it in many ways a day when ur heart feels like it has got what it deserves albeit be for one day --in many ways a mark of respect for what the other person has been in your life --respect for holding you,,supporting you ,,caring you without any conditions and demands --the one thing love demands is just "love".
A Sister/brother no matter how old you are waits for your birthday every year to wish you with that childish happiness they first showed you --a dad waits to feel prouder every year to see his son /daughter has made him proud in the past yr --a mother --well she just gets happier every birthday --and makes sure she is the happiest person in the world for her kid --then comes a friend --friend expects nothing but give you everything they have -- second only to a mother --there is a whole year but a birthday comes just once --reason --to see how special you can make it people you love thereby finding a happy part of you that is revealed in such joyous moments .
I from my young age got excited to know birthdays of people who came into my life --it became a habit --even people i met very few times i remembered their birthdays clearly ---people whom i loved i never forgetted their birthdays --the joy of life is realising you dont get endless oppourtunities to be part of special moments as and when u wish --the best opportunity comes on this day ----Birthday--Forget it you will regret it for a year sure .
A word or two about my little brother --Bday Bhai :)
Sandeep Sheoron --the hero of this blog ---one of the inimitable heroes in my life whom i look upon for inspiration --for dogged spirit --for a willpower that woke up many of my sulken days --and a sense of humour that once brightened so many people's life --a die hard spirit that catapulted a ordinary run in the mill guy into sumone inspiring --we look upon great heroes and celebrities for inspiration --but for me the people i meet ( many of them --i should say ppl i havent met ,,lolz)are my inspirations ---that i dont read much is my biggest drawback --but i have always loved to interact with people--This guy -the most wonderful person in my life i havent met even after nearly 8 years --the brother who gave me smiles hiding his tears --who fights adversity with a heart that even god envies --the only person who gave shape to my biggest passion --i would have died one day a poorer person knowing i never had a chance to realise my passion but for this humble wonderful brother of mine -Sumone who has been just like a unforgettable dream -every single time you are down that dream makes you feel better --sandeep was ,is and will always be one such in my life -maybe sumone in your day to day life will be same --if only we paid that bit extra attention to what life has offered us --you dont need a reason every single time to feel happiness --you meet people for a reason --sumtimes u dont meet people for a reason too --Maybe God's way to test how much you respect the love of that person .
If u meet sumone by online --u like that sumone as a person just dont give second thoughts of becoming a friend ---i have had number of amazing coincidences of making friends with people i never saw --believe me it is a wonderful experience you should have in life --first time love is unforgettable --but unseen frdship during course of time is even more unforgettable --Birthdays are extra reason for you to give importance to people who mean sumthing in life --reasons that will make u feel better every single time you remember about that sumone in your life .
Its just one single life ---once you cross 25 --you wont have time to celebrate your birthday nor remember the ones of your loved ones ,,money is one big myth that almost defeats everything existing in this world ---Sadly in search of less important factors like money ,fame ,name , days like birthdays which symbolises our happy times have lost their true value --and im no exception although i desperately try to not to be so ,I have celebrated birthdays in rain --in candle light dinner --with 50 friends once singing happy bday --every time im put to test by life these days --i just remember those pleasant days-- in troubled times when fate seems a born winner my bait to fate to escape its wrath has always been such wonderful memories and it works every single time and im sure it will every single time --you can try if u dont believe :)
" What Money cant give --What Fame cant give
Sumtimes a simple "Happy Birthday " can !!
In many ways there is no more meaningful days in any relationships than a birthday --because what you do in one day remains unperturbed for eternity --Remember "it aint just another day "
C ya
**(For those who read patiently thanks a lot --i know its bigger than my usual blogs but the person is one of the biggest influences in my life and birthdays is sumthing that i wish is given more importance to cherish the beauties of this one single short life we are given )**
"A Women is the epitome of all the best things a man aspires to be in life"
"See son you are good enough to know about life now --its important that you not only respect women but make sure u never harm them --afterall never forget in life your mom is also a woman "---Only couple of times in my life have i heard mom be stern about certain aspects ---One was how to see women . Have been quite privelged to have had some great woman in life all along to have admiration beyond words .
But the world is not the same it was 20 years ago --in my part of the world especially --A woman suffers the wrath of man's anger physically and mentally,I have written lot about Nirbhaya --My heart bleeds every single time i think abt that and scary truth is she is not the only one suffering ---These following news links are just few of innumeorus incidents that is happening around our place
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2013/feb/21/india-violence-rape-murder-girls
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2262768/Indian-girl-seven-raped-school-toilet-sparking-fresh-protests-arrest-headmistress-negligence-duty.html
http://rt.com/news/india-minors-rape-bengal-452/
I had a mother who worked tirelessly never thinking about her --i lived with a sister who forgot all her desires to become responsible --i have had the best soulmate in world who never saw me in real but cared me from heart for years --and i have had a wonderful sumone who spoke so much with just the movement of her eyes --i have had some great teachers --so many great women to marvel in my life and still marvel at some --i never had answers to question like Where did they get that patience or How do they posses so much trust on people they love ? --Being a guy i felt its hard to be on that level for a prolonged period of time .
But women of today are being targetted mercilessly --tortured endlessly --sexually abused -harassed,and in some cases to the extent of murdering them remorselessly --the cases have been sadly increasing and it feels very hard that im of the gender that has been primarliy responsible for all these hassels --im not sure of safety for my sisters ---i remembering walking my sister to the door of her house even though she is married for 5 years --subconsiously the feeling of "danger round the corner" lurks even for a grown up 30 plus guy for my sisters and known women --to term this place is insecured is like humiliating my wonderful country -because the people ruining this country are very few and do not fit into the category of human beings at all,,But the scars that incidents and people have left have become indeligible --something that cant be neglected as much as we wish --A shameful feeling for me personally as i grew up never expecting one day my gender will become reason for a girl to be afraid of as something potentially harmful .
Few days back i walked along the road and went to buy flowers --i saw a young girl with wonderful angelic face selling flowers --i walked to her and got flowers for mom --and i forgot to get change --saw her yelling Anna !--Anna !!--i turned back ---and was shocked --that girl was without one leg --running to give the change i forgot --and as she came and handed me my change --she smiled and said "You forgot your change na --here"-with a angelic smile ---i said thanks and on the way returning felt scared
" When will my country be safe enough for women --Women with such innocent smiles --pure hearts-when will such innocent helpless girls be guaranteed safety from some remorseless wolves ready to hunt anytime"--i hope that is the day when a women will be happy when we wish "Happy Womens Day"--it all rest in our hands --us guys !!!
"Celebrate Women to Celebrate life "
---- From Sumone who was taught not only to respect women but never to harm them --by a wonderful ,wonderful woman --My Mom !!!!!
C Ya
I just got a question in my mind "What has indeed been the role of time in my life?"
Time was --
Something i had plenty yet i never realised what a wonderful mom i had !!
Something i had plenty to play and very little to study !!
Something i had so much to dream and nothing to even try them once !!
Something i had when i thought of hiding something and nothing when i had to
reveal a true fact !!
Something i had plenty to walk with someone never knowing it was more than
just a walk !!
Something i never gave to people who loved me but gave so much to
people who used me !!
Something i had plenty to hide my passion but none to express the same !!
Something i had plenty to see a magnificent human being getting hurt -- none
to say "Im Sorry Mom for letting u down all life "
Something i had plenty to find many "wrong persons"--but had none to find my
"right person "
Something i had plenty to spend with "my soulmate " but had none to stop her
when she decided to leave
Something i had/have plenty to meet so many people who mean nothing to me
yet none to meet some great people in my life !!
Something that i have plenty to fight with people but none to remind them how
much i love them even in those fights!!
In Short time was -
Something that i had in plenty to "not be me "but nothing "to be me "
Maybe it is true they say" Life is a Time -less Masterpiece "--because u have little or no time to realise the wonderful things/people in life --there in lies the secret --the things that takes too much of ur time may not be the ones that matter at the end of the day --the opposite surely is--atleast in my case it is ..lol !!!
Cheers !!
