One Hundred Centuries--thousands to go :)

IS THE VALUE IN THE GIFT, OR IN THE THOUGHT—I say, neither, the real value lies in how it’s accepted and how it’s treated.

            Today if I look back and see what I have achieved in my life—my answer will be “A bunch of great souls”. And I am extremely lucky to have them in my life.

            You know it well you are one of them and will remain always. Thank you for being my back always and being the only shoulder to cry upon every time I needed to :)…. boys do cry :(

                This might be a gift for you for a day but it has been a sequence of gifts to me when I read a new blog now and then, which gives me motivation and strength to move on and specially to recognize how important people are in our lives. At times when I am down, I come back here to read few selective masterpieces to acquire some strength and motivation.

                I loved my mom but not as much as I do now.

                                    Thank you Brother.

Now the truth…

Long back I used to get a lot of mails, and I was tortured alone, so I thought “why only me”, let everyone suffer J.. Sorry guys and gals J

                                    Carry on Brother..

Its Alright To Be Imperfect!!!

"Mistakes should be taken as a footprints on the shore of a sea --footprints are untraceable  once a wave hits the shore -so should be a mistake !!! "

                                         That is how precisely it is --you can blame it on society -surrounding--living environment --caste differences --or watever --but it is a undeniable truth--i have wondered what theory made us implement this subject --but this has been in many cases the core issue between lots of people --i always saw this as a hazy picture as i myself was involved in quite few peculiar instances in life where the first mistake was seen as a unacceptable flaw--sumtimes ending in tears --sometimes in anger -sometimes in pain --the last such loss made me realise that " A Mistake is the easiest thing to identify and hardest thing to forgive "-that night made me just wonder "Why do people expect us to be flawless and perfect always --Is there not a way to accept imperfections --Maybe a case to accept flaws are part of relationships and frdships "
                                         "Being perfect has its flaws "- to form any frdship and relationships it takes years--so many sacrifices --built on the base of strong hope and built on stronger belief --it should be the unbreakable sky scraper but it ends up being a stacked pack of cards ready to be shattered by one piece of stone ,how odd that the exact last part overhauls the entire beauty of a relationship or frdship .
                                          Expectations are never wrong --but after certain point of time expectations has to be suppressed by understanding --that is where things go wrong --a wife/girlfrd expects a husband/boyfrd to love her as he did when he saw her first time --she never understands that husband or a boyfrd after a stage feels comfortable of being reserved ,less expressive beleiving he would be understood --parents keep expecting hell a lot from their kids -sumtimes not realising it is  beyond realms of possibility --even best friends miss out on the simple fact

       " To expect is nature but that is not gud enough reason for failing to understand "
                                
                                          Its better to accept imperfections --its better to stick together with people whom u have felt heaven --with whom you have smiled without reason--with whom you have shared happiness --the only way love can last a entire life is to accept the other person is bound to have flaws that will prop up as time goes ---Inevitable ? --yes --Unacceptable? --No.
                                         A relationship is built on hell a lot of compromises --a frdship is built on hell a lot of hopes ---the joy of living a life in earnest hope and belief lies in patience --and very importantly the ability to accept imperfections -- To be anything otherwise is like 
       " Trying to catch water using a fish net in a pond ---u will always end up with only fishes
        We are bound to be flawed --everyone of us --the only way u can find a way is to
        Accept your loved one's imperfections "
                                      
                                           

                                           
" I have never been flawless --just that it took me years to accept i can never be one --so is the world"
                                        
  
                                    
                                                  
                                         

If This Is The Best We Could Offer Then-A Bleak Future Awaits!!!

                         " If the freedom of speech is taken away then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter. -------George Washington --America's First President "
                           
           “I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.”-- Mahatma Gandhiji
 
                                For the first time in my life i had doubts of writing anything --Writing has been my biggest passion --I fell in love with words when i knew nothing --My lifes most magical moments have been  interwinged by words --i connected with people so far away only through these wonderful words --My soulmate ,,My best frds --I have found a brother worthy of my  dream of this only --all unseen but connected to my heart through words --thats everything what i wished  --But today i feel its not the best thing to have ---I feel more and more insecure by the very feeling there is hardly anything called as freedom of expression in the largest democratic country in the world i live -- My India ,,Atleast events suggest it has been snowballing slowly so that we are in position to set a bad precedent to our next generations .
                                       I wanna make it clear im not arguing for any side of the incident that transpired but my biggest concern is the dwindling freedom of expression in our country the following incident is not just the first case in recent memory ,Just the facts and my humble perspectives as a individual
              http://www.indianexpress.com/news/2-women-arrested-in-maharashtra-for-fb-post-on-shutdown-for-thackeray/1033451/0 
                                    Consider this happening with the following link that describes exactly what i mean

 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Freedom_of_expression_in_India . 

                                     If someone for example exhibits a derogatory expression on someone he /she dislikes then it can be considered as something to be condemned/countered  but to consider it as a crime/a arrestable offense --cmon then you are literally questioning the mere existence of democracy in our country --Yes people who express their views on public issues need to be responsible enough --to understand that to express doesnt mean you have liberty to write anything you want - but to be frank ---a 21 year old has to be given some leeway that she is a 21 yr old at the end of day -An open apology was not enough -To punish her to this extent seems bordering on the extreme level of atrociousness,,Grossly unfair to her future --Imagine how her day to day life would have changed after this ---She would be in limelight for all wrong reasons --Whatever the issue is to arrest someone who has merely liked a status message borders on scratching of any democratic values that every Indian is proud to be part of living in this magical part of world where emotional values are given the prime importance .
 
                                  Few months back this happened based on a "tweet"
                   http://defenceforumindia.com/forum/politics-society/43349-man-arrested-tweeting-against-p-chidambarams-son.html

                                 Arresting someone based on a tweet ---gimme a break i thought that time .The case was almost similar to this one  .
                                "   My point is not to argue of what has happend  for it is impossible to know the real facts to give a concrete answer for the incidents --nor can it be the base for any assumption --my worry is the future that seems bleak of all these incidents --What happens to the lot of  aspiring writers ,excited tweeters ,wishful facebookers in this country---What is the message that is being sent to them ??--
         *  That he/she cannot put ur views just because someone may not like it and you might have to suffer the wrath of them ?
         *  That he/she is always endangered by the prosperity of being under scrutiny thereby losing the freedom of speech and expression they have ?
         *   That even a apology sometimes may not be enough for a innocent mistake ?
         *   That he/she will always have to believe there is just one perspective and one perspective only of a sensitive issue that they have to comply no matter what ?
                                 How many endless questions they will have  as such --and it is only matter of time that people will be constrained from voicing  their opinion just because a few people might not like them --constrained in every form of expression just because the opinion served out is not the one they wanted !!!
 
                                "You take what u want and leave what u dont "
                                             
                                  My sincere feeling is there are thousands of  aspiring writers in this world --there are thousands of  orators in this world --people do this for passion mostly --some end up taking it as professional jobs ---to view a opinion as a irrevocable crime is not a end to any problem --after all you cant prove everything right or wrong as per your wish --the presence of right and wrong is actually a reflection of perspectives --Ignoring is the best answer to something you dont like --to show the whipping powers you might possess to quash a individual 's view is being grossly unfair
 
                                  What is life if everyone has the same opinion ?--If u cant appreciate criticism then u cant be a critic either --All you do is just become a nodding doll whose only pupose is to just nod the head for everything so as to satisfy everyone concerned --Imagine such a world --it would be the worst place you wish never to be ---What we do now is the seed for our future --and if it goes on like this then our future will be like people born with mute buttons in their mind ---Freedom of speech and expression is very important for developing a individual -therby being part of a developing society --To stop tthe individual is like stopping the development of a society .
 
                                  Still believe there are  far too many educated people and calm headed leaders all over our country to prevent such a state in the foreseeable future --Anything less might hinder our growth --Because as they say
 
                                   "If this is the best we can offer then it is just not good enough "
 

                                   (  *** Written entirely based  on my own thoughts --no way meant to hurt anyone - if so it is highly regretted --freedom of expression was what made me choose to exhibit happily my passion of writing --all i wish is for it to exist for all the right reasons --The torch has to be passed to next generations with more hope and belief -the purpose of this blog is only that ***)
 
               
 
 

Just Leave It To Your Heart,,,Always

  Dedicated To one of my best mates and good buddy Sembian Pugalmani  who triumphed  after a emotional week of  sorts ,,,,

  " I said nothing ---My buddy u said nothing too
    I wanted to tell u loud --ur kid will be alright --but i didn't
    U silently said " Thank you "with ur eyes
    If anybody deserves some good luck for being a gud person all life  it was u i thought
    Fourteen years since u first called me "friend "
    To be your best mate on ur marriage day was a priveleage
    All those fourteen years i never knew u could cry
    When u did as a emotional father of a beautiful angel i felt the wetness of your unseen tear
     And all along i thought i have become emotionless and lonely
      Little did i realise that even with one friend for life u are never alone --forever !!
      Today i heard u smile a relieved person having won a emotional battle
      I am relieved too --Maybe what the heart feels a mind can never understand !!
       
     "Everytime i question myself why i should not be pessimistic in life
       I find a gud human being -giving me a  better reason to never be so
       Maybe its true --should just leave it to my heart,,,,,,,,always .!!!!

Cheers !!
     

"Life Is A Timed Masterpeice "

One of the toughest long days in memory  ,
            
          " I just dont wanna desert my search for love --i just want to desert loneliness "

                                    " Diwali -- Festival of lights "--A day perceived to bring more light to our lives but oddly today seemed the most unhappening diwali of my life --Is it a irony or just a process of events in life that were always meant to happen is debatable --but undeniable is what it is.Strangely Diwali has the biggest impact in my life ---it used to be the biggest occasion day in my life for 20 years --the dresses -the crackers --the sweets --the guests --the friends visit --the new movies on televison --the fun of the day always made me look to this day every year
                                       Diwali became a marked day when my wonderful mom passed away exactly on diwali day --It is almost a decade i have celebrated the day with that same vigour --maybe the day has left with me too much significance to underplay it .Where once it was marked by smiles all around --by friendly banters by innumeorus friends --by sharing of sweets in the wee hours cracking senseless jokes with buddies --by innocuous late night calls with online friends --the day gave me endless happiness --some moments frozen for eternity --that i can feel the moments as fresh as a daisy --so beautiful it was --but reality sometimes hits you hard when u least expect it too --In matter of years the same day that gave endless joy just seemed the toughest  day . imaginable

       " From the beginning i thought i was destined to search love but
           seems loneliness was destined to find me before that --always !!!"                            
                                      How time has changed --perhaps life is  a timed masterpiece - a pre written piece of our future that  can never be predicted --the best hope is to find solace in our belief -never change them for anything at anytime even if it comes at a deadly price--because as i said we can never guess the next happening -- Call it irony --Call it coincidence of fate --defeat to inevitability --price for trying to find my solace in "Love "--this day seemed loneliness had won the battle ---almost ---because there is a tommorow to be seen and a life to be lived !!!!
                               

                        
                        
             

Ten Years Without U -But With Ur Memories And Tht Unforgettable Angelic Smile !!!

                                  "Your failures are my mistakes as a mother "

                                         Dedicated to the soul whom i owe everything in my life --to the one person who showed me the meaning of love -To My Mom -On her 10th death anniversary --04-11-2012

From my memories  :
 It was year 1983--Around-- Trichy "SEVAA SANGAM SCHOOL "
                             My first entry into school doesnt bring me any memories other than one person --Mom --Her Name "Sittal Achi "---As it is the ignorance of childhood --i used to call her "Sittu"--i remember how she used to walk me to the class with bag in hand -pleading me to go --and i remem crying like anything --sitting in class --only one thing comforted me --i could see her standing in the gate from my class(my class was first one to gate i think )--that happend for the time i studied over there --i dont remem the teachers ,the students or anyone else except her .
                            Studyin in one of the premier schools ought  to have changed her mindset --but it did not --she was tireless --the class timing was changed and i was one of three kids --she had to take care of all three of us -she did it for all of us with that same tirelessness--She was my first tuition teacher --she learnt english so that she could help all three of us since we studied in Anglo Indian Schools where english was given prime importance ---She learnt English every year along with us --despite not having any degree all she had was fierce determination--Nothing was beyond her --she believed--and if not for her i would have stuck sumwhere in seeing studies as a improbable reach due to the high standards of education demanded by the school i was educated -i was above average student only of her efforts -she underlined education is a must and dedication an even important must .
                         Most importantly all this was done with her waiting almost 4 hours at the gate hoping to see my face --never tired ---then helping us in studies --then washing the clothes bare hands --remember countless occasions making her waske up and cook up at early morning --again never tired just a smile ---how much can a mother love not getting angry is amazing --my pain was shared by her without me asking ---and i never asked her how shes been doing it when she was alive --doing things for her children made her forget she had her own life --her own likings ---her own wishes --everything had seemingly taken a back seat -i look back at that now and i cannot but admire what a mother i have had .
                         Failures never perturbed her belief ,it made her responsible for them instead,,it just added to her determination-despite all her efforts --the expected results from me never happened mainly and wholesomely due to my careless attitude of young years --but it made less impact on her remarking once when i broke down after failure after failure asking my mom
                       "Can i quit studies--i have become a abject failure " See "Your failures are my mistakes as mother too "--That stayed with me for long time --not that it shook of my slumberness -but it was something could be said only by mothers -this world has seen countless changes --internet revelations --modernisation has become an inevitable acceptability --like or not --but one thing that has been stable --a seemingly constant among extraordinary revelations -a universally accepted credibility to mankind --"Motherhood "--the first ecstacy--the first happiness--the first medal--even the first failure when occured the first person we like to express to is our mothers .
                        " I Expect nothig--i will be ur side in everything "--that seems the motto of mothers --the single relationship that expects nothing but gives everything --And the beauty of my life was i got even more --Mom --It is 10 years since u left me but it seems lot more --- i feel ur fragrance even as i write this --i hugged and held ur hands tight for years --the rough  tireless hands still stay in my mind --and that magnificent smile -the smile which kept and keeps me fighting during trouble some times --the never ending attendances to road side shops to fill my stomach not my heart --everything shows what i ought not have missed --not atleast for few more years --but i do realise that u were tireless all ur life --tireless to do ur duties ---tireless to make ur kids realise the importance of leading a good life by living one --when the moment eventually arrived --when fate cruelly came out with arms open to get u back --when death stood for a minute in shame for coming to take ur life at that young age --i saw that ur last tear from ur eyes showed maybe u have been tired of endless sacrifices --maybe god was feeling u were sacrificing too much --he decided to take u by his side once for all -angels are after all god sent --and i had the priveleage of being with a angel  for years. 

           " I lived a dream for 20 years-I smiled when in happiness with countless reasons
              Ten years without u ---Neither do i have that smile ,nor that effervescent happiness
               But i have ur  memories --ur priceless words for life --i ask no more

                           Nothing makes me proud than being called "your son "!!!

                       Hoping you are happier and at peace --ur dreams will be realised --Luv u lot --Miss u hell a lot my tireless angel--i know u r watching up sumwhere with that angelic smile -that unforgettable angelic smile .

வானத்தை நோக்கி !!!

                                                                                                    
 
மழை மேகம் ஏந்திய வானத்தை பல கேள்விகளுடன் உற்று பார்த்தேன் !
 
மழையில் விழுகின்ற துளி ஒன்றாவது என் கேள்விக்கு விடையோடு வராதா என்று !
 
குளிர் காற்று மனதிற்கு மிக அவசியமான அன்பாக வருடும் தென்றல் ஆனது !
 
காற்று வரும் திசையில் எதாவது ஒரு முலையில் என் தொலைந்துபோன அழகான நாட்கள் திரும்பி வர ஏங்கினேன் வராது என்று தெரிந்தும்!!!
 
உறைந்த கண்களோடு அசைவற்ற நின்ற நான் என் சகோதரன் மகளின் செல்ல அதட்டலில் திரும்பினேன் ---கள்ளமற்ற சிரிப்பு என் தொலைந்து போன நாட்கள் திரும்பி வரும் என்று நம்பிக்கை தந்தது --வானத்தை நோக்கினேன் அவளுடனும் நம்பிக்கையுடனும் !!!

"Free Will"

                  " Im not here to satisfy anyone -My Life is entirely my choice-a clarified exhibition of my free will -i expect my life to be known so --not here to be sumone's best puppet "

                               --- that was many years ago my best mate  who made me understand  the importance of "free will "-- sumthing which should be first among all ur decisions --because it comes from what u feel -not  of what others want u .
                                     The last week was strange one -one of my brother like pals fell in love with a girl he was friend with ---was in a relationship for a year and more --and as in all cases eventually his family got to know abt this when there was talk of marriage ---and there was nothing short of earthquake in his house --hie phones were snatched ,,vehicle key was refused ,,even his credit and debit cards were refused to be given to him citing him to change heart to get all--this was all done by people in his own family!! --he was almost house arrested for doing what he did out of his own free will --"Love sumone he liked "was his biggest crime --and i have been seeing people going through time and time again for years now --it took me very long time to beleive this concept --as i felt it might border on lingering guilt in my heart if i took anything that might seem offensive to my people .
                                   For the first time in my life i felt anger for a family taking that decision --it was not first time i heard that --but it was first time i beleived that "the boy a dad loves,,the son a mom feels proud ,,a brother siblings feel happier to be with --a total family person -is rudely punished for respecting his "free will " and standing by his love --holy crap cant sumone out of the family be fair and see the real picture --i felt really sick this time --how many times am i gona hear it from a frd ?will this ever change in my lifetime ?--The first time it happened i was a spectator and years later im still a spectator witnessing the same drama enacted by different actors if i was to consider the world a stage as shakepeare quoted .
                                   Profession,love,life,wishes ,wants --all this has to be of one 's own free will --and if sumone is feeling guilt for trying to do so then it is the family that has to be embarassed not the individual --strongly believe if u dont have the discretion to decide ur choices and options in life you are just disrespecting ur life --there is not one life bereft of wishes ,wants ,love ,passion --its not about who deserves better -its about whats life all about --and noone wants to be anyones favourite puppet with strings attached to them and not to the individual --there cannot be a worse breach of freedom than forcing sumone to bury one's own free will for the benefit of everyone else --bcoz to the individual its gross injustice even if it is never told .
                                  When i heard the frd break down i felt uneasy silence --i felt like ---its been goin on from the time i knew abt things it seems it will be there long after im gone!! -But there is a solution to all this --simple one -If u love sumone dearly in ur family just accept their  decision if it seems alright --because to wait for ur answer is out of respect --to see it as a crime and punish them is just being grossly unfair to life itself --I wish one day there is this world where free will is appreciated ,respected  --not seen as a crime --not seen a offense and for the love of god not seen as a reason to encourage enemity --i wish not to be spectator yet again because i feel uneasy numbness of waiting and hoping ,,i once remember my best mate quoting

               "My choices are not lost --its just that it  always seems to be last"

                                    Wish sumday i have reason to say the opposite ,,,,,,,,,,
                                   

                                   

Just Go Sachin Please !!

                                              "My first sports hero --hero to millions -One of the humblest guys known -One of the best batsman in history -India's greatest sportsman in the last 25 years -- As I read once in  sportstar edition in the year 1998 -"King Of Kings "------SACHIN RAMESH TENDULKAR --I wanna remember him as such ,,,,Always--so do millions of people !!!
                                                 While i was watching Champions league T20 --Mumbai Vs Sydney Sixers ---Sachin was batting --and he was batting like someone else who resembled that great hero  --Battling to prove to the world sumthing --but what ?and moreover why ?--Has any other player served the nation with so much dedication --this much passion --this much longeivity --almost 25 years -since the first time a baby faced boy stood up to the  mighty Pakistanis--and showed what he was to become in the future --A WORTHY INCOMPARABLE CHAMPION.
                                                  I still remember so many magnificent headings in the newspapers when he shouldered India's name even while the team was faltering ,,

               " Sachin stands tall among shambles --India recalls Sachin tendulkar for 5th match in Sahara series against Pakistan,1997 --the champion returns and scores 80 odd after travelling 1000 miles for one match

               -Sachin stands like a Casablanca - after making 122  at Edbagston-96 when the whole team was crumbling like nine pins "

              "Even a sandstorm cant stop Sachin from taking India to finals -Coca Cola Cup"

           "Sachin -The best batsman in the world so many times "and when i read a heading "King of kings" after his expolits in sharjah 1998
                                                                   --it felt perfect --to a player in absolute pomp and without doubt  the best batsman then --i did not miss any of his match for years --once even i missed my university exam for hoping to watch him bat early morning  (Australia tour 99-00)-Such was the influence of the great man --i was never the only one who wanted to be like that --i always was one among thousands who thronged the tv screens to get a glimpse of "our hero"-I used to make prayers for him to win Man of Match awards --i used to cut pieces in magazines which wrote about him --they were endless --Still remember his photograph with Sir Don Bradman and he calling Sachin the closest to him in playing style --and he was one among the elite in Bradmans XI--this was a guy who simply made everyone's day by his sheer presence and was yet humble always .I could never imagine another sporting hero as Sachin Tendulkar .
                                               The last one year or so it has changed or it seems ---He accepted a  glittering expensive felicitation by Mumbai's and Bollywoods biggies in celebration of his monumental achievement of reaching 100 -hundreds in  international cricket ,,he went on accepting few more felicitations --then he remarked that "Only i will decide when i retire "--skipped a test series for India  after playing IPL fully ---Not that he doesnt deserves all the plaudits --he deserves hell a lot for carrying our nations pride for years on his shoulders --every indian felt relief and pride for Sachin lifting the World Cup --his dream for 22 years ---everyone shared the happiness and satisfaction -"BUT ALL THIS  IS SIMPLY NOT U SACHIN "
                                              Form is temporary - Class is permanent --this world will not see another player like Sachin --Another human being like Sachin --Being famous never got to his head unlike many others --"Almost Never--until the last bit of his spectacular career --that is how he might be remembered if he goes on playing -accepting felicitations  very unlike him and getting bowled by bowlers who in his pomp would have been scared to bowl a ball to the great man --Now unusually it is us --his die hard fans all his career who are scared of him getting bowled and feeling embarrased that all this might ruin a flawless career  --undeniably a spectaculat torch bearer of Indian Sports --I remember watchin him sitting with pads on after getting bowled trying desperately to forget the lapse nervously --Here was a hero who might be just fading but more importantly who is stuttering to accept its time to go --Even Sachin Tendulkar has to retire one day --and tht day seems nearer --i dont want him to get humiliated by selectors asking him to go like The Great Richards ,,The Great Kapil Dev and some other great cricketers .
                                         Just Go Sachin --U won our hearts 23 years back --u inspired millions -u gave hope to every indian --u might be the last warrior of the coveted Indian Middle Order that had some great names --but we want to remember u as a Gladiator --as sumone was the epitome of pride in Indian Sports internationally --We wanna remember you as a king who thrilled our senses with god given talent --You have achieved everything --You have nothing to prove to  anyone ----Please dont stay more and make us feel bit bad for our hero --For me i almost remember everything of your career --once nothing made me happy than seeing u win matches --now it feels as bad to watch u crumble and refusing to go whilst we all remember ur wonderful moments and it would be a utter disgrace and height of unfortunateness if the current generation and next remembers u as the one who struggled in his last days as player --It still matters for millions that u bid adieu with head held high and  real smile in those lips --for only that will be a fitting farewell --our happy tears await that moment bit quickly than u might have wished -but
                                "A hero Like u should live in our hearts like a hero --ALWAYS "

                    ---Please Go Sachin--and let us remember as u were always meant to be ---A HERO --A CHAMPION BEYOND COMPARE "
                  

"If I knew ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,"

"If my mind was given a chance to speak
   I would have shown the world i was not lonely

  If my heart was given a chance to speak
   I would have shown the world i was not without love

  If my eyes were given a chance to speak
   I would have shown the world that tears speak

  If my past had given me a hint of my present
   I would have still got my wonderful soulmate

  If sumone had told me "you aint sharing ur life with anyone  "
   I would have shown u and said "Oh yes i do "

  If that master manipulator up there just gave me one fair chance
   I would have shown "This aint  just world  --its a replica of heaven"

 If i knew my happiness was of few special people
   I would have been prepared never to lose them which sadly  i have

 If I knew that my wishes were real only in my dreams
   I would have stopped dreaming because it hurts when ur wishes are real only in ur dreams
 
          ** I knew not much of so much but all my life i knew sumthing
                **  That i was loved truly --and i loved back truly
                     *** Just for that beautiful little time i knew how heaven might be !!
              
          Its well past midnight --Missing couple of wonderful people -with just the air around me to comfort ----Life cant be more cruel- the night cant be colder -I dont have anyone --not even my tears -but i will try to  sleep with the belief that there is a morning awaiting for me as always --a better one probably .
           
         
 
  

"Teach Me "

      A day i will never forget in my life
 
      One evening in early 2000's  
                                                    "Its enough buddy --leave ur dad and come with us we will find a way --u have everything --u have decent enough job-a wife ,a kid--y do u need to hear his crap u have been hearing for 20 years " many years back  it was yelled towards Narain  by his best friend-Narain replied "Nothing changes the fact that he is my father "  --i had known Narain for 10 odd years -He became a known friend through his hobby of photography which was my profession for long time--Never a close friend but happened to know him good enough--Nothing about him was extraordinary-he carried a uneasy silence --His father was a vry rough man whose roots had been from very orthodox measures--I felt sorry for him manytimes-felt few times angry on his dad but the fact we were not intimate friends i always maintained a distance from him
 
        This Rainy Morning in 2012 ; 
                                                      I met him admittedly after many years --he was into his late thirties  and it showed ,he had lost his hair --he looked far different --his daughter was grown up girl -i accidentally met him --talked for sumtime--that uneasy silence was still there --"H r u man still getting kicked by ur old man ?"--He just smiled and said "Dad expired last year "-I felt bad for my stupid question --he continued "He was a great man--his place in my life will remain void till my last"-i just became a listener -"U know buddy he was always strict ,,maybe he wanted me to be better than  him --he knew early i was never good enough -he was never able to accept the fact that his son would not fulfil his dreams --thats what made him a rough person to the world i guess"--i thought he was speaking to overcome the loss --then he said sumthing that brought a tear in my eyes ,My dad was affected by lung cancer --he was diagnosed in last stage--he passed away shortly --the last words he said to me was

                                 "You are the best son any father could have had "
 
                                                    Narain continued as he was leaving --"Relationships are not entirely by choices -He was my beginning and his words are worth my life"--he seemed a hero to me --perhaps he had maturity at such a young age that he could accept realities as they were and blame noone,i wanted to ask him "Teach me" .
                                                  " U cannot change everything u dont like --u maynot be the son who made ur dad proud--u may not be the husband a wife wants --u may not be the father ur kid wishes to idolise -u may not be the lovely mate ur frds wished -u may not be the lover ur girl wished (even if the girl was a angel )--not the son a great ,great mother hoped --but remember not everything is ur choice ---u have to live with what u r given with - there is always a unknown greatness in people who love u ---even if u r unable to see that   -never underestimate anyone's love --from the time there was life in this world it still remains the cheapest yet priceless thing in the world "
                                                   My heart envies that proud son of a prouder father --after all u live for such moments --u dont plan such poignant moments --sumtimes it takes a lifetime -so what --to hear sumthing like that a lifetime is worth every moment in gold .I may never see him again but if i do i will surely ask him "Teach Me ".
 

Its Time Media Took More Responsibility And Limit Glaring Mistakes!!

                                                  I was reading a leading morning daily tamil newspaper today -(14.10.2012-Sunday ),though my main objective was to kill time ,i was nevertheless reading through the headlines,and particularly this bit of news caught my attention

The last few days this guy has been in news for all his wrong doings and misuse of women,,Yes it a eyeopener for women to be aware of such people ,,it is a eyeopener for young girls who are nothing but innocent with such petty minded people ,Kudos to the media and newspapers ,BUT BEYOND ALL THESE ,THERE  IS A UNDENIABLE  MISTAKE IN THIS NEWSPAPER--IT IS NOT ONLY VERY SAD TO NOTE BUT BORDERS ON ATROCIOUS NEGLIGENCE .
                                 "If u note in the picture the article explains the unexplainable actions of the individual but whats more glaring is the girl in the picture is clearly shown with "HER FACE NOT MASKED "-Yes it is appreciable the paper has taken steps to hide the girls private parts --but its very sad to note the same care has not been taken for the girls face (the spot has been marked as i personally did not want to publicise it once more )-Is it not a act of carelessness or is it just acceptable irresponsibility ?--Cmon the girl might be a unmarried person and it may affect her future badly or if she is married it will still affect her family life--its a loss-loss situation for her ,,"Where was the necessity for publishing the picture with her face ????Is it not media's responsibility to take care of what they are publishing to the world ???
                                  Maybe it might not be noticed by everyone but there is alarming danger of sumone known to the  concerned person might notice and it might affect her and turn her  life upside down ,,or matter of fact anyone in any inapporpriate state--its not a photoshoot at any point of matter ,While there is no denying that newspapers have been the one's which  brings to limelight such pathetic actions -- the public appreciate the pain and risk that involve in getting these news to public,,But at the same time the same media and newspapers have responsibility to make sure  that the innocent people  are not affected in the quest of publishing wrong deeds.
                                    The same matter of fact happened during the incident of Swamiji and a once famous  actress--While the incident came as a absolute shock --it was very disheartening again for me to see the incident portrayed with lot of focus on the actress --which seemed pointless given the issue was all that of a well known  swamiji misconducts --after all there is still place for free will in this world ,isnt it ?--u can do things as and when u want without harming others -what was her mistake if it was her or any other lady it was no crime --but she came to limelight even though the spotlight was supposedly on sumone else  --i always wondered why they couldnt mask the lady if they wanted to show the swamiji's misconducts??
                                      My point might get lost or not noticed as im one among the million of common men but a fact is a fact --there is no denying that --"If u want to be responsible for bringing out wrong things then u r responsible for making sure the wrong one's are the only one's who are affected and ABSOLUTELY NOONE ELSE",Wishing sumday it happens because it is only fair that innocent people dont suffer of irresponsible or careless mistakes ,,only then this world will be a better place to live
                                   (Written in my perspective of a particular happening that really irked me to write this blog  --not meant to hurt anyones feelings--if so its highly regretted)