Dreams are tough challenges but always possible realities !!!!

                           Dedicated to my good friend Rinki tomar on her birthday

                              "Dreams are not just fantasies they r possible realities -the key lies in tryin to 

                                  aspire them --u become future inspiration by doing so to sumone "         

                            

      Happy birthday to my good friend  Rinki  Tomar ---Head  of "India Book of records" ,,a work that demands more than 30 days of non stop work more so ever its such a demanding job to be head of such concern which demands attention to minute details and from any corner of india to approve a record they have to see the full details -- A concern that was started purely with belief and lots of love ,,but more importantly started with purpose of achieving a dream that might have well been a dream considering the importance given to womens dreams in our society,,gone are the days when they are confined to the household and all their dreams are no more pages of unread book ,they make their dreams come true by sheer hard work and meticulous planning regardless of result

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                                               One scene in a tamil film really hit the nail on the head of where our society was some yrs back,,a school master asks his 3 rd standard students--the students(girls )were shown as to be answerin to the question of what u want to be in future?----one after one they were shown to stand up and blink or laugh innocently not knowin what to answer ,,maybe just in a cinema but it could not be more apt --girls in our society are expected to be good housewives and good  moms and b nothin other than that ABSOLUTELY NOTHIN MORE .

                                               My mother who was a remarkable person with unbelievable amount of talents ,,she was terrific at narratin lessons from book ,,,worked hard on english ,,remarkably wunderful in writing the right words for right situations ,,be it in writing for debates for us in  school competetions or any other stuff she was wunderful ,workers fell at ease with her-proving her management skills were goos as well ,,when now at this age i could recall how much she was talented but she refused to show it to the world thats what i feel ,,she could have inspired a lot of people in my opinion with loads of talent she had,but women are not brought up to be otherwise ,,its been the trend  for a long time ,,but times are changing ,,with better understanding ppl it has changed surely for good  ,,i do feel that now on seein the role of women in todays world they are marching towards brighter side of life with belief

                                              While i know the person who is inspiration for this blog Rinki for hardly few months --but what has been noticeable and really appreciable in her case is her dedication to her job not expecting immediate rewards and just givin her sincere attempts to make her dream a reality,,Probably the biggest challenge in life will be accepting your dream as a possibility and working towards that knowing its a big challenge,,Life is boring if we dont have challenges ,,but if challenges become magnified impossibilities then when achieved it is a monumental achievement --I m not sumone who knows 1000 people in this world ,,but the very few i know are really damn good ,,,Rinki-has  been a inspirin story of relentless hardwork that never depended on sucesss -but on accepting a impossible challenge as achievable miracle ,

Women have started to get their rightful recognition not by any forceful means but by consistent hard work towards oneday sharing the limelight in a world  that doesnt always have them in the front,its sign of better things ,better future and a happier world

                           Happy Bday sweet Rinki --have a blast and may god be with u in doing ur bit of continue to inspire people --and may there  be many more rinkis in this world --cant be happier than having a good human being and a hard workin person as a good friend,,its indeed a privelege,,Dreams are indeed possible realities!!!!

                                               

Sisters are always a synonym of support and unbridled love !!!

      

                     " Dedicated to my Sister who is celebrating her birthday today -Happy Birthday Raji"

                         (( **Special mention to Deepu,Gilly Seema,Pinku,Archu.Nithya ,Shabana and Priya tak(miss u piyu -wherver u r love u always ) all wunderful ppl  who made me feel proud to be their brother"**))

                       A quote about  sisters--"her eyes had tears when i was happy --her heart had tears when i was sad--the most silent and strongest relationship in this world is the one shared by a sister"

                                     Life has been cruel in many aspects but it has been kind in sum cases in my life -like my bodning with the word sisters,,made so special by some amazin ppl- im fortunate to have been blessed with some lovely girls who though not born with me took me as their brother and have shown some unbridled love which sumtimes make me think --"Am i this special "---im not boastin but im meaning it does sumtimes so !!!

                                   Rakshabandan is one function i look forward every year -- I have been tied quite a few number of Rakhis in life -its just a beautiful feelin to know there is sumone who loves u so much for just being a brother or like a brother ,i have cherished every moment  I had with them --my own sister -the only one i was born with remains a unique character -whether showin care,love or affection,,she remains sumtimes a mystery ,,a iron willed character but nevertheless sumone who helped me lot to shape myself into a better human being ,we all supported each other during tough times ,,now shes happily settled in her married life

                                   I guess having sisters guarantees u two things -unconditonal happiness and undeniable seperation,all the above people i mentioned have been a pillar of support to me sumtime or other,,,had sum wunderful moments wih few,,,there is nothin happier when u walk hand in hand with a sister --u can share things with confidence ,,u can exchange hard words and still have them holding ur hands despite anythin --sisters are special--every individuals "dream empire"is built with siblings support only,,our visions are best understood by our siblings ,,i have always had this feeling that a relationship that always remains silent  but strong is the one shared between a brother and sister

                                 Sum times their tears make us  better men,from my personal experience i know they plant the seed of confidence in us by being with us  and not merely by words -it doesnt need meeting of eyes or holding of hands to show their love,its beyond that--u can feel their presence without being nearby ,a strong sense of confidence that  come what may they are by your side ,,i have been very fortunate to have sisters who make me feel so much at home at time of needy despite me not even seen some of them ever and some i hardly see due to them being far away after gettin married .

                                   Sisters are like stars in our horizon --they seem so bright during our desperate times --we feel as long as they r there nothin is impossible --they remain always bright in our vision at those times,,and when we r shinging bright in our lives they hide themselves behind us to see us shine bright ,,sisters are that special ,a relationship that is hugely underplayed in our world --they are never given the limelight because they never want to have it --they want to share whatever they have with their brothers

                                We never say sorry to our  sisters,,we do anythin for them to see them happy ,,,yet we are never satisified because we want them to be happier and never be sad,,,thats the real meaning of the relationship--i have been fortuante enuf to be have   some  lovely sisters  who have been  wonderfully supportive, remarkably caring human beings all my life ,, who have  tolerated my sumtimes eccentric behaviour with more affection with grace and they continue to amaze me with their  unbridled love

                            i have got a huge respect for the relationsip and will strive to make it stronger ,,,sum relationships are unbreakable in our lives,,this is certainly one among them--for me a very ,very ,very special one ,,made special by some special people  and the one who is celebrating her birthday today --"Happy birthday again sister  --have a blast"

"Life's spirit lies in facing adversity --and not by accepting them easily"

       

     "There is a reason i see every dawn --despite my fears to not see them sumdays "

                                                                   (First of all i never expected sumtime back  to write another blog as i was in pretty sorry mindset for last few months ,,but one thing that never deserts me unlike other things in life  is my love for these words and for my passion for it never dies ,,it feels awesome to write few words again,,and to the lovely souls who read my blogs,however few it maybe its precious for me  --im grateful for that to all,its been a very tuf time indeed ,,hopefully its all goin into the past now )

                                                                   I have wondered why in life -words like happiness,smile ,love,,is often outshone by words depression,,tears and hatred ,,,i guess without these words te real essence of joy would have been missed in life,i realised many things just of recently ,,wishes are like dreams ---u can only visualise them ,,wishes rarely become realities !!

                                                                  The last 2 months have been the worst in my life ---because i was being pulled down to the extent of me reaching a level of depression --which i felt might drown me out ,,,wrong outlet of all the same led me to breakup with frd after frd --relation after relation--i began to hate myself because i started to doubt the credibility of my belief and willpower which were losin shape ,i sat down and thought bit of where im heading ---there were dark days when i thought i never wanted to see the dawn ,,but i saw and was pushed to see them --there was probably some reason after all

                                                                 Losing close people became mandatory,,losing special people became customary,,losing my best soulmate ,,losing sumone who had roses for my every tear and losing all i had for my heart to not break made me almost crumble --it was a case of  god sayin ---"be ready to lose many"--i wanted to reply  "i wont have any",,Here i stand now with almost all my precious beloved people lost for one reason or other ,,,yet i know crying or hitting the wall are no solutions,,frdship,family ,work environment were all not in good order ,,,but when i sat and thought of "Why im fearin even my existence --it should not be" because i have to do some of my responsibilities still ,,,my ambition is unfulfilled ,there are some dreams which are yet to be realised,,there is a long journey that has just started

                                                           I was missing sumone terribly for last fortnight --so much so one of my frds found out in my behaviour ---he just replied to me --"you are so lucky to have nice people in life--but sumtimes luck runs out on purpose ---you cant be omni good to everyone in this world --u have ur flaws -everyone has --u try to cover your flaws by tryin to adapt to everyone ---u have lost ur identity --find that --be urself --if u were meant to have them u will --if not let them go --be thankful for the memories -there will be others waiting for you to continue ur journey"

                                                        I was hearin dumbfounded by the magnamity of simple assesment of my situation --in other words he offered me my solution --i can live with pain but not with a clustered mindset ,,yes sumtimes truth hurts but nothin teaches u like truth -- I still dont wish to see some dawns but now  i m not afraid to face them--i have no reason to fear if i was myself always,, i will march on to my unrealised dreams with pains of course but not with fears anymore !!!

                                              "My new journey might be lonely--almost--i still have one or two to assist me --but this time it will be with me being as me --ready for anythin --ready to pay any price --ready to face my fate and play by my rules--"Lifes spirit lies in facin adversity --not being eaten by it "

The case of Miss Aruna Shaubang --there's a lesson for all to be learnt from her life

Aruna Shaubang then and now in semi coma stage !!


                             "Never give yourself a chance to accept revenge as a solution to anger "  
                                ARUNA SHAUBANG --i know this name about 1 yr or so back -- one of the most painful stories i have read in my life --a story about a hard working girl --who came from below poverty family and paid the ultimate price and the worse part is shes still suffering after 38 years!!!--i found some news of her that i could not even take my mind off ,the person who brutally raped her and left her in a dog chain in a bad state and left her to  semi coma is working in a hospital nearby ,,A guy named Sohanlal,, he left her in semi coma stage and brain dead state then for his supposed "revenge ",,shes now 61 ,,,(still survived by KEM hospital nurses and doctor )
                                I read the news that the guy had changed his name and is still working in some hospital after serving a term of 7 years ,because he was charged of "robbery of jewels"  ,talk about law taking it course probably its for only people with money ,,read that the case was not challenged against the convict because no one of her family wanted to fight for her or take care of her ,not to blame them either ,(poverty sumtimes makes people helpless leavin no options)  ,,she was abandoned for good ,,and now 38 years after  i read the shocking sad  news that her  well wishers on seein her suffering for so long requested for "Euthanasia "--its just harder to digest that the reason for the action was revenge by a mindless guy , it has been revealed shockingly the guy still lives sumwhere closeby working and living a normal life ina  hospital -how in the wide world is it fair?? - this wonderful lady has been in bed like a baby ,in semi coma  for close to 4 decades,,all the more reason that we should do our bit in making sure such things never occr in our surroundings
                               There was sumthing i felt heart warming in the final part though  --i read about the  journalist named PINKI VIRANI who had taken so much pain to know abt Madam Arunas case --had so much tried to help her ,,read that she has offered with her husband to do final rights to Madam Arunas inevitable  death if and when it happens ,In a country where appreciation and fame are the masks for everyone wish ,,its truly worth mentioning that there are people like Mrs.Pinki who has taken part of her life in tryin to help a wonderful lady get noticed for the misfortune she had in her life ,,
                                Revenge is the worst expression of anger ,,yet when the mind is not allowed to think it seems the best form of avenging a humiliation or embarrasment ,,in reality --its just few moments of madness that seperates from havin a normal life and one like Madam Aruna ,,even worse is the life of that guy Sohanlal ,,if at all i dont want to be one person in this whole world it will be that guy --his moment of madness ,,his form of revenge has put a person brain dead for nearly 40 years ,a lady who came out of her house at 18 to work out of poverty and that to in a noble proffesion like nurse ,cant imagine how much guilt that guy is having every day to relive that moment again and again,,
                              We would have situations where we would feel our anger will be best exhibited by takin some form of revenge ,,,but like this example revenge never does any good to anyone ,,it ends up with undeniable pain,,guilt till life and ignominous scars in our characters which will nevr leave till our time runs out ,,im have had this urge to do sumthin against sum ppl who left me stranded in the middle on few occasions ,,but sumhow i preferred personal agony and silence than out and out revenge ,,,reading such kind of stuffs makes me think revenge is nothing but a waste of energy which extracts plenty of agony ,tears and blood ,,probably we will be faced with more situations where it might be the only solution ,,but i do sincerly hope and do sincerly request that whilst u may u have anger which is human nature ,,never allow this thought of revenge to cross u ,,sumwhere if u have been right ---fate will prove that u have been so to that particular person --never have revenge  as a option because its not even worth to be a option --its sumthin that has to be sent to trash forever
                           For the love of  our lives--- let this wonderful life of Madam Aruna be the one of the kind and never wish to see anyone or any news as of hers in my life ,,not only in pain but in shame to know one of our human kind inflicted such a shameless act on  a fellow human being for his moment of satisfaction ,,and for his urge for revenge ,,every time u have the urge of that word ,,just rememeber this case(to me the guy is just living because god wants him to relive his shame every day than to die )
                          As far as my tribute to  this wonderful human being who has suffered so much for no fault of hers -"U have opened the eyes of many and will so in future sadly through your pains but it needs such pains to make people understand hard issues in life ,,, Im sure people will learn a lot from your life ,,May God be with u always and give u peace wherever u go from here  "

Learning to listen to others perspectives is a art worth learning !!!

                                  

                                 “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

                                             This is what i got in mind -when a frd of mine said sumthin today morning that did not shock me but starltled me moreover for my reluctance to accept a frank outspoken comment as i was sumone who had swimmed long enuf in this societies rigid policies to allow sumone to have a frank opinion on a sensitive issue ,,On a whole i felt i m just a mere reflection of what this society has made us

                                             Had a very odd chat with one of my school mates in google talk ---had some funny messages exchanged initally when all of a sudden the topic diverted to something far more sensitive--He suddenly said to me "Dude whats the need to have temples ?dont u think that God is everywhere -I do believe god is everywhere -why waste money in building temples ?Now this frd of mine works in a highly reputed company, was a NIT passout ,,,a god believer alright --sumone who hits the nail on his head with his comments ,sumone who never does a cheap thing to make peoples head turn ,i was not taken back by his remark because it had some truth in it ,i was unable to digest the fact of him sayin sumthin against the guidelines our society has allowed us to grow and never allowed to go beyond it ,i felt it was purely a individuals perspective which our society never stops to hear ,,,

                                                 Its not that this was the only issue that irked me regarding we giving respect to others perspectives ,i was unable to attend a marriage of my frd that ended with his now wife not ready to listen my reasons and ended the frdship i had-just to quote a personal incident ,,,i had been guilty in one or two other instances --i regret them now but time never stops for anyone or gets rewinded to rectify a blunder,,,But this doesnt apply to our family members in most cases --Our dads scolding  us despite not listening our side of stories ,,our loved ones taking us wrong ,,,our best frds having issues with the same ,,all doesnt matter --therein lies the solution

                                               Try what may the difference between getting angered by a individuals perspective and listenin to them properly is just in "few extra minutes" -Even our Epics -Mahabharat and Ramayana depict that not listening to others might lead to bad things  --by no way im sayin listening to other perspectives is the solution to any sensitive stuff,,but its just essential to give ourselves those extra precious moments to judge whether we are right  to take a call in our own terms or settle to a one on one talk to end any potential rift

                                               " Its always worth to listen than to argue --arguement does no good --it ends whats good" ---In cases of our loved one we are always ready to spend those extra few minutes or give ourselves a opportunity to speak and clear any stuff ,,,that doesnt happen with people who are less important,,the number of people who are that important for us are  very less ,,but the people who are outside that circle is countless ,our patience will be tested no ends ,,but the only way to stop the ever nearing feeling of" hatred" towards sumone and  keep at bay our "inevitable ego "- is by giving ourselves an opportunity to learn the opposite parties perspective

                                               I took the word of the friend and for once felt the importance of listeningto others perspective is a art that has to be learnt for our society to move forward --Its us who form the society so its essentially our duty to make the changes need ,,,And learnin this art is a essential one alrite ,,im sure u will agree too,

See ya soon!!

"Frustrations" - sumthing that has to be conquered to realise our dreams "

          " No matter how frustrated we are ,god has not asked us to do  the impossible"--one of my most respected teachers told me this many years back,,i just got this in mind to write a blog about sumthin that i found no way of leaving out for time being now                

                            At a time of very tough self questioning and very examining situations of recent times made me say to a frd  "Buddy i feel lonely and lost ,,,i dont know where im heading ,,i seem in a heady mess --i see no reason to see life otherwise"--as i already said in one of my blogs im not a pessimist but a laidback optimist ,,but incident after incident ,,stress after stress ,,failure after failure ,,finally made me go to brink of sayin this to the person,,i was very frustrated with life --i was left to battle life on my own ,,,and i felt it was not wrong to say so 

                           That person ,,a very silent but strong charactered person who was sumone whom i never gave more respect than sumone known ,,,listened to me patiently ,,he knew he was not the first choice person i would goto  ,,he knew because i had no one really to talk and wanted to say few things to feel better i talked with him,,looked at me and said with a stern look,,look buddy i dont know much about you to help u,,but i can say only this" if u r lost dont worry u may still find alternative  route to your destination"

                           The chat got over ,,nothin much since i was not a revealer of my heart much to unknown persons --it just ended there---i was just thinkin incidents ---it was excruciating tough time --hard to say anything positive ,,because i knew certain things can never change ,it got me scared and worried ,,,after all its human nature how hard u try ,,,ur mind and heart are two different worlds which coexist in very few things in life ,pointing my situation to lack of support or communication from my close circle was merely a fact to divert the reality that i was not prepared to conquer a big demon which has started to acquire huge porpositions --a demon called "Frustration"

                          My frustration recently  grew very badly so much so i almost broke up with two of my best friends ,,before sanity returned ,,Right now i cannot see my destined direction,,,every direction seems to have a road block --every minute seems a hour ,,every frd seems pushing me into the door of darkness where there is no return ,,,everythin personal seems doomed--close to a deathbell ,,,but sumwhere deep inside there seems a desire burning --a desire to stand alone if fate made me so,,,,a desire to find a way to live with unfairness ,,a desire to accept the truth im one of the guys sitting on burning deck "but that desire seems to be a flickering light --in utter darkness-maybe it might be the only "Ray of Light " to find my alternative route to my destination and dreams  --JUST MAYBE"

                       If i leave my frustations to rule me --i will lose that little desire too --my only lifeline now seems that---i dont know whether i will find that desire but i know i have to conquer this seemingly endless frustrations to realise that ,,its not that simple ,,life offers you so many perspectives that you start to find the wrong reasons for refusing to accept truths 

                      No life is rosy from day one to the final chapter--there are many demons that we have to conquer to realise that there are many things one has to achieve --the dreams ,,the wishes ,the life we wish,the lifepartner we need to choose --everythin can be easily ruined by a few untamed demons --for me this is one thing i know tht sure is ,,im sumone who always believed tht life will even out sumwhere to be fair --its tht we need to be patient enough to see tht --easily said than done --but there are examples in the world ---in our family to prove it ,,,finally want to quote what sumone whom i respect even now whos is no more now said to me many years ago

       "Frustrations is never a option for me  because it has the power to change my opinion"(U were always right jaan --luv ya always )--I wish i had tht determination-but im sure i can conquer that in sumway --as i said life evens out sumwhere !!!!

Signing off with wishes that there are only conquerors in this world of such demons  ,,wink :)

To people like Swami Ramdev - Please Stop Cheap Publicity !!!

                                    *      To begin with until recently i knew nothing much abt Swami Ramdev --But day in day out newspapers ,,news channels as per the norm of our times now--kept flashing his name ,,saying hes going on fasting ,,hes taking on the government ,,hes against corruption,,hes against everythin !!!!i then went into his records googling information about him and reading articles written about him and criticism also agains him,,now i have nothing against him ,,but i quote some of the points seen in many articles and wikepedia too,,i have written below that my personal views ,u can judge upon how we are being made a fool for a individuals cheap publicity,,

                     

In February 2011, he gave the following steps for eradication of black money.^[17] :

1. Withdrawal and demonetizing of Rs. 500 and Rs. 1000 currency notes - so as to avoid misuse of unaccounted money and quick arrest of the entire locally circulated black money, bribing, and fake note traffic.
2. Agree to and accept the U.N. Convention against Corruption – pending since 2006.
3. Death penalty provision for the corrupt persons in Indian Penal Code.
4. Access, monitor and disrupt payment gateway servers enabling corrupt people to manage money in tax havens.
5. Scrutinizing accounts of people having credit/debit cards of foreign banks without any foreign work/relation.
6. Disabling operations of any bank from a tax haven country

                 Now any educated person or knowledgable person will know all the above points are close to height of  impossiblity or close to stupidity ,anyway to take  -he wants death penalty for corrupt person!!!--i have not seen a more brilliant statement --thank god he did not say he will preside over the penalty --if we do what he asks then Indian population will be left with just  20 percent or less of what it is,,Please think before what u r sayin sir ,,if u think tht was odd ,,wait for more ,,i will quote more below

Views on AIDS and sex education

In December 2006, Swami Ramdev claimed to cure diseases such as AIDS and cancer through yoga and ayurvedic drugs sold by his Divya Yoga Mandir Trust. He also went on to suggest that sex education should be replaced by yoga, which was the way to AIDS awareness, prevention and cure.^[59] "Sex education in schools need to be replaced by yoga education," Ramdev told reporters at the state health minister's residence. As a consequence of these public statements he was sent a cease and desist order by the Indian Union Health Ministry to avoid making such claims in the future, and the civil society threatened legal action.^[60] In response, Ramdev retracted his statement and said the claims were not directly his, but those of patients who practiced yoga

  ^{*-- Note how he has tried for another rubbish statement for cheap publicity--he wanted sex education to be replaced by yoga education and he retracted it later --r u seriously alright --do u know what u r talkin about --how can yoga be related to sex?and he has gone worse saying  its better ,,and then even in his retracted statement tries to make the point that he may not be saying but it is true ---ridiculous again for cheap publicity}

 

Claims of curing cancer

Other press reports quoted him as claiming to have a cure for cancer of the breast, liver, prostate, uterus, pituitary gland, brain tumors and leukemia by practicing the seven breathing exercises. In a residential camp held in Yog Gram, Haridwar during 19–25 June 2008, several cancer patients stepped forward to recount first-hand stories of their successful bouts with blood, prostate and breast cancer using Pranayam or breathing exercises.^[62] Swami Ramdev has claimed having documented proof of his successes, but has failed to provide any to the media or the Ministry of Health.

 *  Again he claims to be close to living god i suppose ---he has not seen one patient sufferin from cancer -I doubt whether he knows the meaning of the disease -i personally have seen people and seen doctors explaining whats what in cancer and this borders along the line of ridiculous stupidity ---again he has tried to turn heads only for cheap publicity 

 

Views on homosexuality

In July 2009, when Delhi High Court gave a verdict under decriminalizing homosexuality in Delhi, the swami called a press conference and said, "this verdict of the court will encourage criminality and sick mentality. This kind of thing is shameful and insulting to all of us. We are blindly following the West in everything. This is breaking the family system in India. Homosexuals are sick people, they should be sent to hospitals for treatment. If the government brings this law, I will take this matter to the streets of Delhi in protest."^[63]

 *   Height of nonsense i presume ---he says homosexuals are "sick people",,lesbians ,,homosexuals--are not sick people ,,its just tht they are people who have different   feelings --thats all ,,its not a disease to be treated ,, ,,"which hospital treats such people sir????The worst crap i have ever seen written or said --absolute wholly crap of a statement ,,anyone reading this will accept if not other statement but this surely --height of stupidity!!

*  Hes been linked with BJP for some time and no wonder seein the BJP cursin the governement  seeing this as a opportuniy to hit at government(im not Congree follower or Against BJP but just saying the reasoning for the support from BJP is expected) --I for one personally believe tht the govt acted rightly as such mad acts should not be persisted ,,and i dont for one percent believe that this person does things for betterment of society ,,it seems hes so keen on publicity --Cheap publicity 

* There is no firm solution as this "Swami "says and frankly the governement is not answerble to every individual--THE STARTING POINT TO END THIS CORRUPTION SHOULD COME FROM US,,THE PEOPLE,,THE SOCIETY ,,WE SHOULD SOW THE SEED-- OUR FOLLOWING GENERATIONS WILL FOLLOW --rather than following such mindless statements ,what we are trying to do is give in to these type of individuals cheap publicity --hes not sumone who needs to be worshipped or followed like Gandhiji--he has so many flaws in his statements --he doesnt deserve to be followed 

  

*Im one among the million common man ,,he has achieved to turn my attention by his statements (he went to say govt  cheated him --cmon sir give us a break !!!) we can follow what hes good at --hes a yoga guru thats all ,,ONE MAN CANT REVOLUTIONISE THIS SOCIETY-and surely not such type of man --its like the contribution to revolutionise should start from us not from such fake characters whose primary and seemingly pinpoint intention is to achieve fame and publicity in the cheapest way possible ,

* I do respect Anna hazare -hes a respected social activist unlike this person--he did many things for a village --he was in indian army --hes different --he had done sumthin for the nation ,,for changing  a normal village into a model one --he was awarded Padma Bhushan --he has credentials to make a point and has to be respected but  that too should not act as a example for such people with poor credentials on welfare of society --i mean the history of such a person shows how wavering his mind his and how instable his remarks have been  and he has done nothing to reform the society to be taken note off,,For me personally im not gona hear anythin about him --and give in to his need for cheap publicity ,,i hope people who read this also doesnt 

  

  Its our India --we know how to give our contribution to our nation and not give in to such poor cheap publicities made by such petty mind people

We can reform our society we dont need such people to fool us in the name of it (Im sorry if i hurt the followers of the person but this is my personal view entirely )

See ya soon

  

Friendship is sumthing to be cherished for life !!!

 Dedicated to my best frd on his birthday today and to all my friends to whom i owe bit of my life!
                                 
                            "All that glitters is not gold --an old sayin
                             Sumthin that never glitters but is worth more than anythin in the world -Frdship "
   Jun 5 -- midnight India time ---i was celebrating the birthday of my best frd with his wife and his brother --U might ask whats the big deal ?let me finish it ,,,hes livin in London --I live in Chennai--the birthday was celebrated through internet and i never felt i was viewin sumthin infact i felt i was being with them and enjoyin the occasion,after college life we never were together to even hangout ,,,we rarely met,,then he soon left abroad ,,its a absolute tribute to him to tolerate a damn borin,,sumtimes volatile ,,normal meticulous character like me for close to 15 years ,,the reality is thats how most friends are ,,,there is sumthing abt being a frd --its unique and incomparable to be a friend--because in my life that word has been  the most loyal companion to me .
                         The year 2000 is one i can never forget --the birth of a millenium -the world was celebratin wonderfully , all people wishing their friends everywhere in world ,,,that day i got 2 calls from my frds --one was from this frd of mine who is the inspiration for this blog --and another mutual frd between us ,,thats all ,,,i felt "thats all" man u have lived for 20 odd years and u have 2 ppl all this while --sucks man ,,was a broken guy that day ,,many new years have dawned yet that year remains one of the darkest hours of my life that haunted me for sumtime .
                     That all changed when my wonderful mom left me in complete distress and disarray of myself,,thats when my life changed ,,,i still remember how tht day of my mom passing i could not get into my house by the presence of so many college and school frds --it was tribute to how great a person my mom was --and to a part a shameful truth of mine exposed of how mean and selfish i had been all my life --there were people who were waiting for my acceptance of them as frds yet i never opened the doors ,,it needed a amazing ,incomparable ,,unforgettable and the purest form of soul leaving this world  to break open my doors and see the world

With school mates -happier times !

                Then after that period it was just flooded with friends ,,everyone i met i wanted to make them as friend , i got back to track by holding the hands offered by many friends after moms demise ,,so i thought here i will live happily ever after with such friends--Not to be so ---it became soon obvious that it is not possible to have forever innumeorus friends -- through the same door i opened long back the ppl went out for reasons unknowingly and some knowingly --but nowhere it hurt me for having the ones left knwingly or unknowingly as frds --guess thats the beauty of frdship ,,even when u break with sumfrd ,,or dont get to see them for 15-20 yrs or miss them unfortunately --u tend to rememeber the better moments than the rustic moments ,
              Numbers have dwindled to almost nothin --but the ones i have are genuine ,priceless ,,,few of them live in far distance for me not to see regualrly ,,few of them are online frds so i may never see them, but priceless because friendship gives u life when the world wants to take it away ,,friendship gives u happiness when the whole world deserts u ,"Frdship may not be everythin but it is in everythin u find happiness"

             I rememebr writing once sumwhere abt  a frd  in a mail  "you have been my best admirer and most silent critic that i feared "Every friend i have now are so ,,,not tht i have many but the few fit into tha bill perfectly ,,there might come a time soon or later when i might be left with noone or just one or two of them ,i hope it doesnt happen though ,,but even if that worse case i wont regret for one moment for choosin the few of them because the amazing moments i shared with them have freezed in my mind and will run whenever i rememeber because as i said it has been a magical journey where the magic has come from such wonderful people
           And to my best friend ---u have been a marvellous support ,,u gave me another family --another reason to enjoy this life ,,,i have not forgotten that year 2000 and i have not forgotten what a absolute gem u are ,,years might have rolled ,distance might have mutliplied ,,ur reponsibilities might have increased ,,but the frdship we shared then and now and hopefully in future will never change ,,Happy bday buddy ,,and thanks for being a wonderful friend ,

Bday boy in midde with Nirmal and Deepa Ravi

         Probably i would take endless pages to write about my mom and family ,,after that if there is sumthin that i give as much importance and utmost respect it is to this word frdship without which i would have been history long time back ,its been tht significant ,,that important  with which i  have survived some torrid times,
          As long as i live this world i will keep relishing and keep smiling when i hear this word every time ,,and long after im gone i know this word will keep on swirling in this world till there is life in this world --the magical journey for everyone will go on forever --cherish ur friends for the moments and dont banish them for misunderstandings ,,life is too short to keep regrettin,,,
Cheers
See ya soon              

Those "Special"People Are One Among Us !!!!

                                                          As usual on one of my regular visits to theatre i had booked ticket for a movie virtually to kill time ,,i was just gettin into theatre to find my seats ,,i saw a scene which initally made my eyes shrink in seeing sumthing different in a multiplex theatre ,,i saw a handicap person who was unable to walk and had his hands also sort of immobile ,,he was brought in a wheel chair and was accompanied by two persons in their mid 30s and the person himself was around 30 year mark.

                                                          I was thinking on the moment i saw them ,,,"God why to embarass such people by bringing to such crowded places"" Are they out of senses - why cant they get him a dvd and ask him to watch movie in house--now how people will laugh at them,,look at them ",,all this crossed my mind ,but the glitz and glamour wolrd of enjoyin hifi timeout takes your mind of reasonin and anythin reasonably close to that,,all u wander around is to notice people who want to get noticed or be the ones who dress to be noticed by others ,rarely do we think abt sumthing properly in such places.

                                                        Coming back every 15 minutes my attention turned towards the person,he was right in the midst of mid walkin staircase in theatre ,he watched movie from there only ,and in interval i accidentally got logged behind them in tight crowd in small exit door ,,i could see the two people who brought him were absolutely making sure the person  was comfortable being with them and never showed any discomfort about being in a crowd   where strangers like me were  watchin them lift the respected handicapped person from the wheel chair  in their hands to goto canteen and get what he wanted ,,they cracked jokes ,,smiled happily ,,,,the person was in perfect senses ,,only thing he was immobile ,,it all made me realise what a fool i was with my thought in first place,

                                                        I could not watch the movie which was average one,and the fact was  i was not in great mood to watch ,i desperately called one of my closest friends to get some fresh air to my mind ,,added to the fact it was not great day ,,i felt bit ashamed for takin such a shoddy remark  on those people in the theatre,i just envisoned for a minute to be tht person---if i was him would i expect to sit in house and expect people to pity me and let me be like tht till the day i die ?Certainly not ,,,,i would like to be treated as a normal person is rather than be pitied for no fault of mine ,,,thts what i felt ,,and tht crap movie i was watchin went out of my mind,,the people who smiled with that handicapped person ,,the people who first of all decided they will take him to the theatre ,not thinkin they are superior to the handicapped person just because they had everythin he did not have physically (which is what i felt for sumtime before realisin how stupid it was ) and  more than that help him  in any way they could  to live a normal life like them,,they SEEMED LIKE REAL HEROES TO ME 

                                                      We see every handicap person ,,or someone affected by sumthin in crowded places or in any place first thing we do is we pity them ,,i seriously dont know why we cant treat them as we treat others ,,me including ,,we cant give a smile to them ,,we give a horrendous facial expression as i did in theatre ,,we treat them as aliens ,,we gaze them as human beings who have a seperate world and act as if they dont belong here 

                                                     I decided the next time i see sumone like tht anywhere im not gona give a shockin expression,,the best i can do is be normal ,,,they dont need our pitiful expression,,they need our solid acceptance that they live in a world where everyone lives and that they will have a life they wish with all our wishful support ,,i do feel strictly from my heart that these are small changes that we never even give a thought in our hectic day to day life-"these are not changes tht we can do ,,these are changes that we must do "--respecting others as they are as they are and appreciating the people who proudly do day in day out the job of makin such "special"persons life sumthin worth for what they entered this world ,,lets accept the fact that its no easy work out there to be so and help those special persons , ,,,those "special" persons  are one among us ,,lets make them feel that whenever a time arises ,i promise to not being so stupid again,,,i know people who r reading this are smarter than me ,:)

Cheers

"I have my dreams ,my goals--it all starts here with you"

                                    " I have my dreams ,my goals ,,it all starts here with you"

                                                        Last year has been sumwhat a time of gruelsome truths being told in a manner that is too volcanic for a normal guy like me ,,normal in the sense im reactive to situations and affected by shocking truths ---two of my friends --whom i knew for nearly 20 years went for choosin the life partner chosen by family ,,married in grand way and sort of felt they had settled for good ,,within six months one of them had his life torn apart as it became a wrong matching of two souls unfortunately--he was in very high reputed position--was on the doorsteps of becomin one of pillars of is company,,this marriage ruined him to a level where he lost his job and refused to see anyone much ,,its been months since i have known his wherebouts

                                                            The other one ,,a more subtle guy with nothin but soft nature as his identity ,,ended up in cross roads --he again got derailed in his ambitions and when i last met him said to me "i dont know where i go from here"---Seriously that was as apt an statement he could have given to explain where he has been left stranded by his fate that or  by his reluctance to search for sumone or try to look around  before takng the big step?i asked myself this unknowingly when sumthing happened today mornin in a fun cht with a close friend.

                                                           One of my frds played  me around with this sayin in cht  to "see sumone seriously"--"be selfish and  mean now "or u will be a idiot for lifetime -not the first time he has done so but when he did today it felt different  --though im sumone who believed love or arranged marriages-- its  all a matter of how good u adjust after marriage  is what matters,,things certainly look a lot different of that view now ,,i have never loved anyone or thought even ,,that was long before all these happened ,i have had people come and go in my life knocking my doors in that section occasionally in my mind,,,but should i reconsider now ?probably its late?lot of questions ran over in my mind --well the fact is  i decided to be open minded and take life step by step and not have a pre determined notion on anythin--its better late than never (who knows sumone might be rolling in my mind -lolz)

                                                        " Where do i go from here " --tht frd asked me --i know the answer now i feel --its not abt where u go --its abt with whom u go ---that matters ,,,i could get what my friend meant by sayin be selfish and mean ---he meant what i might be seen if i go out of the way from my surroundings to find sumone ,it might sound bad but down the line on the base of a sucessful life all those notions might get washed away and the probability  of us realising our dreams from childhood will be boosted ,motivated ,,and most importantly understood by sumone we choose ,,sum defy their fate to get what they wish ,,others just become the reason why the very few defy the fate,,

                                                         There was a time when i used to think "why the hell u want to ruin ur family ,frds and surroundings for one girl"---now i realise with tht one girl ---we can build a whole empire ,,bring back back that whole family ,frds surroundings with her ,,without her the goals ,,the dreams ,,ur identity ,,almost everythin what u want to be will be just a unfulfilled dream ,a journey cut off in midway ,how long you are goin to travel in your life depends on whom u choose ,

                                                   There was a time i was completely alien to this concept ,,whilst i have seen some unfortunate examples i have seen more than couple of great exmples where my frds defied every other obstacle ,and were selfish and mean to get that sumone,,,they got married among huge displeasure from family to all quarters but in their heart they knew it was the right person,,gettin her in any way was the right way ,,to them tht particular person was worth beyond anythin in the world ,,today i could see them  how they r proved right by choosing them ,,

                                                      Sumtimes during forlorn times when u look at urself u mite feel damn so low when u have none --its all the more a lonely journey with no belief  from then on ,,but imagine that with sumone beside u who knows the pain of it ,,,who is ready to accompany u  to any journey with you ,,any predicament with you --the belief to reach beyond our destinations beyond our allocated distance by god will be motivated by them beyond words,, Dont  wait, analyse ,be reluctant or try to be a saint for the world to appreciate - finally u will be a loser to the core

                                                      If u r seen as selfish,mean ,bad,,doesnt matter ,,IF YOU LOVE SUMONE OR AT BEST LIKE SUMONE MORE THAN OTHERS -JUST GO FOR IT !!!

Cheers!!!

 

Create a world your heart picturises!!

                                       "Our heart wants to us to make our own choices

                                        Life pushes us to make compromises on choices"    

                         

           I was asked by a friend who knew my situations and my heart well "U cant do what u like ?cant u choose the girl whom u like ?Cant u say ur true thoughts to sumone whom u like--Why buddy  ?Well i stared at him not answerin anythin-for only i know the reasons for being so --i was given  a family that even god felt jealous --i had my tough situations --- The fact is i know i did not  listen to my heart --i can never probably create a world my heart wants because i stopped listening to it wantedly many yrs back

                                                       At this wee hours of the night ,,i just got a thought regarding these  things--Have i been a good son --good bro --good frd?--the answer to all these may vary and can be answered by sumone else or few other people concerned --but there is a one question tht only i can answer --have i been a listener to my heart?No,,, i can say situations never allowed me to think about listening --but surely i would have had opportunities to sit and listen to my heart --as would everyone of us at some point of life 

                                                       We write off our hearts voice as dreams that can never be fulfilled--From a personal point of view im saying this --i stopped listening to my heart from the moment i saw sumone from the family shed a tear for sumthin important many yrs back --i have never listened to what my heart yearns ever since that for my attention ---it has never happened --for more than a decade --the price for being so is also sumthing very high -- "Your  heart will cry through your eyes" !!

                                                                            Adjustments can be made in every department to shield ourselves from listening --like if u choose a proffesion by compulsion of family and surrounding --u say to urself --oh ya its good money and better future than what i want --there starts the shutting of door to our hearts ,,from then on we become experienced enuf to make our hearts listen to our minds --im not sayin its entirely wrong --its alrite to goon -but there will be a time in our lives when we get the feelin like Why i did not do that then? well i know only very few of us have the guts to go against the family ,surrounding , to create a world with the  wishes that their  heart picturises

                                                                          From work to love or  life as whole --nothing seems to be of our choices-it all seems just out of compromises -with work its fine --as far im concerned --a work tht gives u decent living and satisfied enviroment is nothin to be worried off--but it does matter when it comes tour life partner --ur better half --and probably the most important person in your life--dont think many of us understand the magnamity of listening to what ur heart wants  and rather it always ends up whats the world around us wants ,we marry the person they feel suitable --its nevr the case of whom we feel as suitable and we compromise it for anybody they choose can be acceptable ,,from proffesion to life its never ending

                                                                         You can be a great son ,,can be a great brother ,can be a frd noone else could have imagined ,,but take five minutes from your busy schedule for the day and answer whether you have created the world your heart picturises every day,Have you been yourself what ur heart wanted to be?,,the answer including my case mostly is a big "No" --i just fit into sumone else picturisation of my life and make the best efforts to look the best part to fit that role ,,but deep down i know my heart is still keeing on askin me "listen to me once"--it has never stopped askin for long time --but as i said "we compromise ourselves for others to feel better when we feel worse "--sumtimes its better to remember that deep down the line if we dont listen to  what our heart wants we will regret our whole life as such!

                                                                       In some cases it might seem we are hurting our closed ones by doing so -but in reality with help of time and sucess in what we have chosen --our closed ppl will understand that its sumtimes best to leave ppl to create their own world in their own ways ,,the most sucessful people in history would have best listeners of their hearts first and then practical exhibitionist of them to the world ,,we take their lives as examples ,,its time we realise what took them there --they were probably allowed to create their world of their choice --they eventually became benchmarks in history--we might not be them --but we might be ourselves if we do listen to our hearts,,maybe i will  also give a  go in near future who knows whats in store? -trust me,, --try tht once u will never regret for tryin!!

Cheers

The joy of making others happy - is a feeling beyond comparison!!!

                                       "   Happiness is sumthin everyone wants
                                          Lets make our efforts to make tht possible

                                          After all there is rainbow only if there is rain :)"
                                     

           A few years back i was pulled by my friend to come along with her to a orphanage home,i was sumone who did not believe in these much and went reluctantly just expecting to kill time ,,we got over there and the moment we entered into that home seeing those kids flashing wonderful smiles which i felt odd at tht time ,,i was just seein quizzically at her --and i just stayed there for some time and went back to my place,,on the way back i asked the question--Whats the thing u get out of this ?dont tell me age old philosophies --I got a smile back and she said to me --U will find out yourself sumday --im not sayin anythin,
                                                            We went back to the same place few months later and tht time it was a occasion to celebrate a bday --i immediately went there --said that im sponsorin for the day for food ,,with a very prideful look,,then i expected the kids to see me as some great person for doing that,,that was how i frankly viewed at that time,,i saw my friend --and she said angrily I should have never brought u here --i was taken back by tht --i said why--u r seein yourself as a a saviour of them for the day --they are not begging to you --u r sharin wth them what u have --If u cant realise that u will never realise the importance of making sumone happy in your life "the conversation ended over there with me gazin over the window in anger

                                                             Fast forward life now --i go to different orphanage homes and i see in admiration and awe the peopleinvolved in running such organisations work with relentless sincerity -im now a regular visitor ,,now the friend is not there to teach me  why im here---the kids still smile --but now it doesnt seem odd --it seems natural,beautiful,,and i feel it is necessary to share what u have and rather not feel u r giving to the needy ,At this point of life i know im being left lonely --but i dont feel im lonely when im with these people ,,Sumone asked the same question  i asked my frd thn--Why u wanna waste ur time and money on these things--my answer now was "If i could i should share,,period"
                                                            Every individual knows where he stands at certain point of life --i know where im standing --Today i have handful frds to talk,,i make a point to enjoy their birthdays more than mines ,,,make them smile happily when im with them albeit for few minutes--i make a point i goto helping homes on  few occasions --all this for what?--To make sumone happy is not a easy task,,ur money wont buy that,,ur anger words cant buy that ,,ur pleading request wont make them either --its sumthing tht we dont realise how hard it is ,,Today i realise im no great person as i so stupidly saw then--im a ordinary pedestrian who has his own duties to fulfil but at the same time i have my duty to share what i could --mite be minimal but necessary
                                                          There is lot of things we do to earn money endlessly--we hardly realise as long world exist money will keep revolving --but once our times runs out its not the money tht we have earned tht is passed on to the next generation--give your share to the people who u wish to see happy ,,they will do it to their closed  circle --it will be a endless cycle --a chain tht will go on till the world exist--ur share might be minimal but lets not be the ones who break the chain,,yes i run after money now also ,,yes i will run after that all my life--thts nature of human beings --but i realise tht happiness created by us therby bringing a smile to sumone is beyond comparison to any feeling in this world --sum of us do tht to our family--sum do that to our lover ,,to our beloved life partner --im sure every time we do that we feel our hearts very light and the world so much a better place to live in--maybe it mite seem for moments --trust me --when u think about it u will have a self satsfaction that nothin else brings to u
                                                         There is nothing wrong in goin on for our essential things in life--its sumthin that will never end --but along the way make sure u pause for sumtime and  remember the few beautiful moments tht we created for others to be happy ,,surely there will be few for everyone --it sumtimes is a magical feeling tht cant be explained in words but best expressed by having a smile thinkin abt it ,,dont believe me ??do it for sumone or sum people --then u will know it urself --Just  remember never forget to do your share in making others lives beautiful -the world will be  a better place to live for everyone --Cheers!!!